Umxholo
- Ingqondo iqala ngokumisela injongo yokukhumbula
- Nayi imizekelo yendlela esinokuziqhelanisa ngayo nezinto esiqhele ukuzenza imihla ngemihla
- Ukuqiqa ngumsebenzi ongapheliyo oqhubekayo
Makhe sithethe “ngengqondo” kwaye siyisebenzise ekusebenziseni ubudlelwane obunempilo neqabane lakho kunye nabantwana.
Ukukhumbula kuthetha ukuba kuqala sazi amava ethu angaphakathi ngalo mzuzu wangoku (iimvakalelo / iingcinga / iimvakalelo), kunye nezo zabantu abasingqongileyo. Okulandelayo, kuza ukwamkela loo mava ngovelwano nangaphandle kokugweba. Xa sikhululekile kwintlebendwane malunga nexesha elidlulileyo okanye ixhala ngekamva, singonwaba ngakumbi apha nangoku.
Ngaba uqaphele ukuba le nkcazo ingentla ayiqulathanga "uluhlu lokwenza"?
Ingqondo iqala ngokumisela injongo yokukhumbula
Ingqondo ayikho malunga nenye into yokwenza, kodwa kunoko imeko yokuba nokuba.Iqala ngokumisela injongo yokukhumbula, iqhubeke nokuzilolongela le meko intsha yengqondo, emva koko iguqulele kwindlela yokuziphatha enempilo kunye nobudlelwane.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, umkhwa oqhelekileyo wokuzibonakalisa, ukucamngca, ukuphumla okanye i-yoga / ukunyakaza ngokuqinisekileyo kunokuhlakulela ingqondo. Nangona kunjalo, nangona kubalulekile, ukuqala, ngengqondo evulekileyo yotshintsho kunye nokubuza ngokwakho.
Nje ukuba sithathe isigqibo sokuhlawula ngakumbi iimvakalelo / iingcinga / iimvakalelo zethu kwaye sizamkele ngaphandle komgwebo, sinethuba lokujonga kwaye sicamngce ngamava ethu angaphakathi ngokucacileyo nangakumbi nokuzola. Ukuziva unetyala, iintloni, nokuzicekisa akusafuneki, okuvumela iimvakalelo ezingaphantsi, kunye nezigqibo ezingakumbi.
Ngokunjalo, njengoko siqonda ukuba abantu esibathandayo banengxaki yabo yangaphakathi edlala kwiiyantlukwano zethu, singabagxeka njani okanye sibagxeke kwakhona? Endaweni yokuphendula kwangoko ngendlela yeemvakalelo, sinokuziqhelanisa nokucinga kwaye sikhethe eyona mpendulo iluncedo.
Nayi imizekelo yendlela esinokuziqhelanisa ngayo nezinto esiqhele ukuzenza imihla ngemihla
Xa siqonda ukuba uxinzelelo luyanyuka kuye nakubani na obandakanyekayo, ukuthatha ikhefu (nokuba yimizuzu emi-3 ubude) ukuthomalalisa ingqondo, ukuthintela ukucaphuka kunye nokutyhala amaqhosha omnye nomnye.
Ukuba amaqabane ethu okanye abantwana bethu banexesha leemvakalelo, bebuza ukuba baziva njani kwaye banika amazwi athuthuzelayo ("Ndiyaxolisa ukuba kunzima le") kubonisa ukuba siyabaxhasa ngaphandle kokubagweba.
Khawufane ucinge indlela ekungavakalelwa ngayo oku, xa kuthelekiswa nokutsiba kwisigqibo ngaphandle kokubuza, okanye ukunika uluvo olungamkelekanga? Le yokugqibela inokutolikwa njengokugxeka kwaye inokubangela ukungaqondani, ungquzulwano kunye noqhawulo.
Xa iimpikiswano okanye umzabalazo wamandla usenzeka, ukuthatha ikhefu lengqondo ukupholisa kubushushu bomzuzu kunokwenza umahluko phakathi kokuphendula ngokweemvakalelo nokuphendula ngengcinga.
Ukuthathela ingqalelo kuyo nayiphi na inkcukacha yesiqhelo (njengeqabane elikhupha inkunkuma, okanye umntwana osilahlekileyo) kunye nokubonisa umbulelo ngayo eyonyusa imeko entle kubo nabuphi na ubudlelwane, njengokubeka imali ebhankini!
Into eyenze ukuba ingqondo ibeyibuzzword kule minyaka ingamashumi idlulileyo kukupapashwa kwezifundo ezininzi zophando ezifumene izibonelelo ezibonakalayo zengqondo nezonyango zokuziqhelanisa (jonga "Inguqulelo Yengqondo" nguBarry Boyce ngesishwankathelo esihle).
Apha ngezantsi zizibonelelo ezininzi endiye ndazifumana ngomsebenzi wam njengengcali yosapho kunye nolwalamano lwam nosapho:
Ukuhamba ngolwandle ngamaxesha oxinzelelo kunye nesiphithiphithi esincinci. Iyosulela! Uvelwano lomntu lukhuthaza amanye amalungu osapho ukuba aphendule ngeendlela ezifanayo.
Iziphumo zontanga yokuzalwa: abantwana bafunda ukuba ngamaqabane aqinileyo ngokukopa izakhono zengqondo zomzali, kunye nokubukela intsebenziswano esempilweni phakathi kwabazali.
Ukonwabela uyolo lonxibelelwano olunzulu nolusenyongweni. Sikufanele oku!
Ikhuthaza impilo yengqondo yabantwana kwixesha elide.
Ukuqiqa ngumsebenzi ongapheliyo oqhubekayo
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba, ukuqonda kungumsebenzi ohlala uhleli oqhubekayo. Yonke imihla lithuba elitsha lokuziqhelanisa. Nokuba senza iimpazamo, siyazamkela ngovelwano kwaye sifunde izifundo. Ke ngoko; asinakusilela kuyo! Ke kutheni ungazami nje?
Iinkqubo zemihla ngemihla zipakishwe ngamathuba okuziqhelanisa nengqondo. Kudliwanondlebe noTim Ferriss, uJack Kornfield wathi, “Abantwana bakho bakwenza; kwaye, enyanisweni, awungekhe ufumane i-Zen Master eya kuthi ibenomdla ngakumbi kunosana olune-colic, okanye abantwana abathile abakwishumi elivisayo. Yinto oqhele ukuyenza leyo. ”
Ukuze uqalise, kuninzi ukucamngca kwengqondo kunye neencoko ezikhoyo ngaphandle kweendleko. Akukho sidingo sokulinda ukuba nexesha elininzi okanye imali ukuya kwiklasi yokucinga okanye ukubuyela umva. Ukuqiqa sisipho esifanelwe wena kunye nosapho lwakho!