Umxholo
- 1. Ukukhupha iintsuku neeveki kunokulonakalisa ulwalamano lwakho
- 2. Ukoyikisa enye ngeempazamo ezincinci
- 3. Ukuhleba malunga neqabane lakho kwindibano yoluntu
- 4. Ubuxoki omnye komnye yinto edelelayo yobudlelwane obonakeleyo
- 5. Ipolitiki kumagumbi okulala okanye ezopolitiko zasekhitshini zezona zikhonkwane zokugqibela ebhokisini
Ubudlelwane yibhokisi yetshokholethi ebambe imimangaliso emikhulu ngaphakathi kuyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo ayisiyiqhekeza lekhekhe ngokuqinisekileyo. Kukho iqela lezinto ezibalulekileyo kunye neengozi zobudlelwane, oko kukuthi.
Ayilulo lonke ulwalamano oluza kuphumelela. Usenokukhukuliseka. Usenokungabi nakho ukugqiba; kunoko sisiphelo esivelisayo. Izinto phakathi kwababini zinokuphela ngaphandle kwexesha. Olunye uphawu lwakho olubalulekileyo alunakuba kukuhla kwakho ekugqibeleni.
Kukho izinto ezithile eziqinisekisa ukuba ubudlelwane buwela bube ziingceba. Ukwazi linyathelo lokuqala lokonga ingxaki.
Ukufumanisa zonke izizathu ezibangela ubudlelwane obungaphumeleli kubalulekile njengoko kubalulekile ukuyeka ukusilela.
Izinto ezintlanu eziqwalaselweyo zonakalisa ubudlelwane bakho kwaye azishiyi nelinye ilitye. Bazi:
1. Ukukhupha iintsuku neeveki kunokulonakalisa ulwalamano lwakho
Ukuba kukho nantoni na engunobangela wonyango ongalunikeliyo kwiqabane lakho, yinto efanelekileyo yokwenza ulwalamano lwenu lusilele. Ukungathethi omnye komnye kungazisa isithuba kubudlelwane bakho. Inokukwenza ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nityibilike.
Abanye abantu abakholelwa ekusombululeni umba osondele, kwaye bahlala bephindaphinda malunga nawo ixesha elide. Bakhetha ukuthula kunokuthetha. Bakhetha ukuyeka uxolelwaniso. Olo hlobo lwamaqabane athandanayo kunokwenzeka ukuba lubuphelise ubudlelwane babo ngokuluchitha.
2. Ukoyikisa enye ngeempazamo ezincinci
Wonke umntu wenza iimpazamo zobuyatha ebomini. Kungcono uyihleke uyilibale kamva ukuba impazamo enjalo yenziwe liqabane lakho lothando. Abanye abantu, endaweni yoko, baqala ukudimazeka kunye nokwenzakalisa umntu kwelinye icala. Inokudala umsantsa.
Abantu abangaze baxolele baqala ukudimazeka kwaye bathobise omnye umntu phantse ngaphandle kwesizathu esivakalayo.
Olu hlobo lokuziphatha kwe-narcissistic ukusuka kwelinye icala lityhala elinye iqabane.
3. Ukuhleba malunga neqabane lakho kwindibano yoluntu
Kuyamangalisa ukuhleba kunye nokuluma malunga neqabane lakho utyhila ezona zinto zakhe zabucala.
Yenza umonakalo omkhulu. Nokuba unqwenela kakhulu ukuba ungazichaza iimpazamo zeqabane lakho okanye ungxamele ukuthetha izimvo zakho kubahlobo bakho, omabini la matyala angachaphazeleka kumonakalo omkhulu.
Ukuzisa ihlazo kwiqabane lakho esidlangalaleni kuya kwenza umfanekiso ombi ngawe. Iya kulwenza mbi ngakumbi iqhina lakho kwaye ngekhe ube ngumthombo woxolo. Endaweni yoko, iqabane lakho liya kunyanzeleka ukuba likutyhole ngokuba yintsomi.
4. Ubuxoki omnye komnye yinto edelelayo yobudlelwane obonakeleyo
Xa nisamkelana ngezandla ezishushu, niyaziphindaphinda izifungo omnye komnye.
Enye ibandakanyiwe kukuba, ukunyaniseka komnye nomnye. Ukuba uyakuphepha ukuthetha inyani kwaye uqala ukuzithethelela, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya konakalisa ubudlelwane bakho.
Inkohliso nobuxoki zizinto ezimbini ezinobungozi ezinokuthi zibeke ubudlelwane bakho emngciphekweni wokonakaliswa. Ukukhohlisana ngesizathu esincinci okanye kungekho sizathu kuyingozi kakhulu kulwalamano lwenu; kakhulu kangangokuba ingade iraze emhlabeni.
5. Ipolitiki kumagumbi okulala okanye ezopolitiko zasekhitshini zezona zikhonkwane zokugqibela ebhokisini
Ukuzibandakanya kwingxabano kuyinto eqhelekileyo kubudlelwane. Nangona kunjalo, ayifanelanga ukubandakanya umdlalo osolwayo. Ukuba ubambelela kwimpikiswano yangoku, oko kwanele. Nje ukuba uqale ungenise irekhodi liphela, lelo xesha lokonakalisa. Akufanele uyikhumbule imbali yobudlelwane bakho xa kukho ithambo lokuxabana.
Amagama acaphukisayo okanye amagama agxekayo kufuneka athintelwe ngokupheleleyo.
Uninzi lwabantu luphulukana nokuphola kwabo kwaye baqalekise kwaye baphathe gadalala okwethutyana. Eli linyathelo elikhulu lokonakalisa ubuhlobo bakho. Kukho umonde owaneleyo wokusebenzisa.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuyeka ukuhamba kunokuba kubambelele.
Ukubambelela kunokukukhathaza ngelixa ukuyeka kuhamba kunokukuphelisa iintlungu ngamanye amaxesha.
Akusoloko kunconywa ukugcina ulwalamano lwakho, ngakumbi xa sele lukhule luyityhefu. Ukuba elinye ilungu lomzimba wakho libamba umhlaza, kuya kufuneka uwahlule kuwe. Ke ngoko, ukuba ubona nayiphi na le miqondiso ingentla kubudlelwane bakho, lixesha lokuba ubize i-adieu kwaye nenze uxolo omnye nomnye ngonaphakade. 6111