Umxholo
- Iimpawu zokuba ungangafunwa kubudlelwane bakho
- Ukukhangela ubungqina
- Enye indlela yokujongana nokwaliwa okanye ukuziva ungafunwa kubudlelwane
- Kwenzeka ntoni kwikamva?
- Kwenziwe ntoni
U-Amelia Earhart, owasetyhini wokuqala ukubhabha yedwa kwi-Atlantic, waziwa kakhulu ngokwenza kwakhe izinto zasemoyeni.
Okona kwaziwa kancinci sisicatshulwa sakhe malunga nobulolo kubudlelwane: "Ukuba wedwa kuyothusa, kodwa akoyiki njengokuziva uwedwa kubudlelwane." I-aviator ivakalise into uninzi lwabantu oloyikayo-ukuba wedwa.
Izinto ezinxulumene ngokusondeleyo ziimvakalelo zokungafunwa kubudlelwane.
Makhe sijonge imeko. Unobudlelwane obuzinikeleyo kwaye konke kubonakala kuhamba kakuhle xa ngenye imini ingcinga engaqhelekanga nengamkelekanga iwela engqondweni yakho ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Iyahamba ngoluhlobo, “Ndiziva ndingafunwa. Andazi ukuba kutheni. Ndinoluvo nje olungaqhelekanga. Oku akuhambi kamnandi. ” Ndiyathemba ukuba le meko ayikho enye into efanayo eyakha yenzeka kuwe, kodwa uza kuthini ukuba iyenzeka kwaye ivelaphi?
Iimpawu zokuba ungangafunwa kubudlelwane bakho
- Uphuma kancinci. Mhlawumbi ubukhe wanobusuku bomhla ngeveki, kodwa iqabane lakho ligcina lihlehlisa okanye lirhoxisa.
- Ubomi bakho bobulili buye bancipha okanye buyekile ukuba.
- Anisenzani izinto ezikhethekileyo omnye komnye (i "bouquet" yesipha), ibhotile yothusayo ye wayine yakho oyithandayo, uhambo lokungena ngaphakathi esixekweni, uhambo lwempelaveki olungacwangciswanga oluya ezintabeni okanye elunxwemeni, njl.
- Umlingane wakho uhlala ehlaziya imihla kunye / okanye amaxesha obekufanele ukuba udibene nawo.
- Abahlobo beqabane lakho kunye neenkxalabo zabo zithatha isuntswana elilungileyo lexesha ebikade lilichitha kunye kunye.
- Iqabane lakho aliphindi lithumele imiyalezo kwakhona.
- Iqabane lakho lihlala lixakekile okanye "iiprojekthi ezizodwa emsebenzini" zivela ngesiquphe.
- Amalungu osapho lweqabane lakho ngequbuliso anezifo ezifuna ukuba iqabane lakho liye kulo. (Kwaye ukuba ilungu "losapho" likumawakawaka eemayile kude okanye kwelinye ilizwe, ungabuphelisa ngokupheleleyo obu buhlobo.)
- Umlingane wakho uyathandabuza ekuvumeleni uboleke ifowuni yakhe nangasiphi na isizathu.
- Izilwanyana zasekhaya ziyinxalenye yeencoko zakho.
- Iqabane lakho lichitha ixesha elingakumbi emsebenzini.
- Izicwangciso zexesha elide (iihambo, apho uya khona kuMbulelo ozayo, iKrisimesi okanye ezinye iiholide) othe waxoxa ngazo ngovuyo ngaphambili, iqabane lakho liyawutshintsha umxholo okanye liyabhida malunga nokwenza ukubhukisha.
- Unoluvo lokuba wehliselwe kwisikhundla sokuba "ngumhlobo" ukusuka kwimo yakho yangaphambili njengeqabane lothando kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo.
Ukukhangela ubungqina
UNatalie wayeqale ukubona imiqondiso yokuba mhlawumbi wayengathandwa kubudlelwane bakhe noGordon 28, umgcini zincwadi.
Bebethandana kuphela ngaphezulu kweminyaka emine xa ngequbuliso kwabonakala kuNatalie ukuba kukho into engahambi kakuhle, kodwa akazange akwazi ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni kanye kanye. Uyazi njengakwimiboniso bhanyabhanya apho ubona umlinganiswa evula ucango enerhamncwa ngasemva kwaye ucinga 'Musa! Sukuvula loo mnyango! Baleka ngokukhawuleza kangangoko unakho! ', Ewe, yindlela endandiziva ngayo xa ndijonga isipaji sakhe sihleli kwindawo yokuma ebusuku xa uGordon ethatha umnxeba uphuma egumbini lethu, "watsho uNatalie.
Umphuhlisi wesoftware oneminyaka engama-26 uqhubeke wathi, “bendisazi ukuba akufuneki ndijonge, kodwa andikwazi ukuzibamba. Ndifumene iikhondom. Ngoku ndisele kwipilisi, khona kutheni kuzakubakho iikhondom? Uqhubeke wathi, “ebesenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kwaye bendisiva ukuba kukho into ephakamileyo, kwaye bendisiva ukuba andisafuneki, kodwa khange ndicinge ukuba ulele nomnye umntu.
Yayiyiyo leyo.
Uye wabuya kwi call yakhe, ndamcela ahambe. Andizukudlala fiddle yesibini kum. ” Ngelixa amaxesha amaninzi ukuzithemba kunokuthatha ukubetha xa umntu eziva engafunwa, uNatalie ubonakalise ukuzithemba ukufumana isiqinisekiso sokuba konke kwakungalunganga kubudlelwane bakhe, kwaye wasebenzisa amandla akhe angaphakathi kunye nexabiso lokuzibamba ukushiya ubudlelwane.
Enye indlela yokujongana nokwaliwa okanye ukuziva ungafunwa kubudlelwane
Lonke ulwalamano luhlukile, kwaye wonke umntu uya kujongana nokuziva engafunwa kunye nokwaliwa ngendlela yabo.
Oko kwathiwa, uHelen Claymer, wanikela le ngcebiso. Ndiyazi ukuba kukho into engalunganga, kodwa andiyiyo eyokuqala ukukhangela ubungqina obubonakalayo, uyazi, iirisithi ezipokothweni, ndikhangela kwiitekisi zakhe nakwiinombolo zomnxeba.
Ayindim lowo.
Ndagqiba kwelokuba sithethe singaphazanyiswa kwaye sinyaniseke omnye komnye. Sobabini sathetha ngokucacileyo, kwaye njengesihloko semovie, ndafumanisa ukuba wayengekho kum. (Ngokwenyani, nathi. Khange silale ngaphezulu kwenyanga.)
Sixoxe ngempembelelo yeemvakalelo ebinayo kum, kwaye wamamela kodwa ngokucacileyo, esi yayisisiphelo. Ngeyitsalile ngonaphakade ngaphandle kokuba ndicele le ntetho. Khange isonjululwe ngendlela endiya kuyithanda ngayo, kodwa yandivumela ukuba ndiqhubeke.
Xa ndiziva ndingafunwa kulwalamano, ndiye ndacinga ukuba kungcono kugqityiwe ukwenziwa oku, ukuze ndiqhubele phambili kwizinto ezingcono. ” Isicelo sikaHelen sokuncokola ngokunyanisekileyo sakhokelela ekwahlukaneni, kodwa uziva ukuba yinto elungileyo ukuyenza.
Kwenzeka ntoni kwikamva?
Xa uziva ungafunwa kubudlelwane, enye yezona ngcinga zixhaphakileyo onokuzibuza ngazo ngekamva.
Uyazibuza ukuba likhona na ikamva neqabane lakho. Zonke ezo zicwangciso ubuzenzile, zombini zithethile ngochulumanco kunye neqabane lakho kwaye azikathethiswa malunga neqabane lakho, ewe, zonke ezo zicwangciso ngoku zibonakala ngathi azithandabuzeki.
Ixesha elizayo neqabane lakho ngokwalo libonakala lilibi kwaye limfiliba.
Kwenziwe ntoni
Kwakhona, wonke umntu unobudlelwane obukhethekileyo, kwaye ukujongana nokungaqiniseki kwekamva kunye kufuneka kujongwane kwangoko kunokuba kubenjalo kamva.
Kungekudala kuba kubhetele ukwazi ubume bobudlelwane bakho. Lixesha lokuba uyibuyisele emgceni ukuba nobabini niyazibophelela kuyo, okanye niyiphelise ukuze niqale ngokutsha kwaye kungafuneki ukuba nijongane nokuziva ningafuneki kwaye nibe nekamva eliqaqambileyo.