Umxholo
- 1. Wonwabe ngakumbi
- 2. Uye wamkeleka ngakumbi
- 3. Awusacingi ngee ex zakho
- 4. Ubona ikamva
- 5. Ukwenza izinto kuziva kulula
- 6. Uziva ukhuselekile ngokweemvakalelo
- 7. Nobabini nixhomekeke komnye
- 8. Uthando yinkqubo
Uthando, imvakalelo sonke esiziva ngayo, kwabo basondele kuthi, usapho lwethu, nabahlobo bethu. Ukuwa eluthandweni kuvela kuThixo, kodwa sihlala sizifumana sizibuza malunga nokunye kwethu okubalulekileyo.
Ndiyathandana? Okanye yinkanuko nje? Okanye, ndililolo? Okanye kakubi, ngaba ndidikiwe?
Sizifumana sibambekile kule mibuzo nanini na sidibana nomntu omtsha. Siyazibuza, kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuthandana? Kwaye, uyazi njani ukuba uyamthanda umntu ukuba angene kubudlelwane?
Ukuba uthandweni, uya kuhamba uluhlu lweemvakalelo ezixubeneyo. Ezi mvakalelo zikhokelela kuthotho lwemibuzo engapheliyo kunye noxinzelelo.
Kweli nqaku, siza kuyiphendula yonke le mibuzo ujongene nayo xa udibana neqabane "eligqibeleleyo" lamaphupha akho. Ke, nazi iimpawu ezisibhozo zothando eziza kukukhokela ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba ngaba uqinisekile ngobudlelwane bakho okanye hayi.
1. Wonwabe ngakumbi
Uthando luziva njani? Ndiyathandana?
Enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo zokuba sothandweni kukuba iqabane lakho likonwabise kwaye ngokuchaseneyo.
Emva kosuku olude olunzima lokujongana nabaphathi abanganyamezelekiyo, ekugqibeleni uyakhululeka xa ubona enye yakho ebalulekileyo.
Wenza izinto ezincinci ukuphakamisa umoya womnye umntu kwaye ubenze bonwabe xa bephantsi. Xa nahlukene nokuba lixeshana elincinci awunakulinda ukuba kunye.
2. Uye wamkeleka ngakumbi
Wazi njani xa uthanda umntu? Kuxa sele uye wamkeleka ngakumbi omnye nomnye nangona wahlukile njengetshokhwe kunye netshizi.
Uyaqonda ukuba wena neqabane lakho ninendlela eniphila ngayo. Omnye kuni usengumsasazi opheleleyo, kodwa omnye angangubomi beqela. Omnye kuni ukhetha impelaveki edangeleyo ngasemlilweni, kodwa omnye ufuna ukuthatha uhambo lwempelaveki olunentaba.
Ngaphandle komehluko kubume bomoya, wena neqabane lakho nenza iinzame zokufumana umhlaba ophakathi kwaye nizame ukungalawuli omnye ngokuthanda kwenu. Xa uqala ukwenza oku, 'Ngaba ndisothandweni' iya kuguqulela ngokuzenzekelayo 'Ndiyathandana'.
3. Awusacingi ngee ex zakho
Sonke sihambile ngokuqhekeka okungalunganga kunye ne-psycho exes. Olunye uqhawulo-mtshato lwalulubi kakhulu kangangokuba siziva sikrazukile kwaye siqhubeka sithwele indawo ethambileyo yomntu esicinga ukuba usikhuphile ezinyaweni zethu.
Kodwa ukusukela ngala mhla wawudibana nomfana omtsha okanye intombazana, ubukhe malunga nazo. Loo mntu ubucinga ukuba ngekhe ugqithe kuye, ngoku akakho nakwinkumbulo yakudala.
Ngoku xa uzibuza, ngaba ndiyathandana, zama ukuphendula lo mbuzo- ngaba kungakho eminye imiqondiso oyithandayo?
4. Ubona ikamva
Kukangaphi uzibuza, ingaba ndiyathandana? Kwaye, nokuba ufuna ikamva nalo mfana okanye intombazana?
Nokuba nokucwangcisa ihlobo elizayo kwakubonakala kunzima, kuba sasingaqinisekanga ukuba baya kuhlala khona kude kube lelo xesha. Kodwa ezi nkxalabo zimkile kudala ngoku. Ubona ikamva nalo mntu, kwaye uyacwangcisa ibe nye.
Nobabini aninantloni ekucwangciseni iholide elandelayo okanye uhambo lwe-ski kwiinyanga ezintathu kuba niqinisekile ukuba nobabini nizakuba lapho kolo hambo.
Le ayisiyiyo kuphela imiqondiso yokuba uyathandana; endaweni yoko, le yimiqondiso yokuba semathandweni, ngokwenene, uphambene kwaye unzulu!
5. Ukwenza izinto kuziva kulula
Ubudlelwane bexesha elide buthabatha umgudu omkhulu.
Kuya kufuneka wenze ukulalanisa okanye utshintshe iinkalo ezithile zobomi bakho. Banokuziva bengumthwalo ngamanye amaxesha. Kwaye, unokufumana ukhazimla ngengcinga, ngaba ndithandana?
Kuthetha ntoni ke ukuthandana?
Xa ubona ukuba iqabane lakho elitsha lenza zonke ezi zinto zinkulu ebomini zikhangeleke zincinci kwaye zingabalulekanga kangangokuba ungazi nokuba uyayenza, le yimiqondiso yokuthandana.
Xa usemathandweni, ukuhambisa izixeko okanye ukutshintsha imisebenzi akubonakali ngathi yinto enkulu, kuba lo mntu uyenzela yona uthetha umhlaba kuwe.
6. Uziva ukhuselekile ngokweemvakalelo
Sonke siluvile uxinzelelo lweetekisi ezingaphendulwanga okanye iifowuni. Sonke sivukile sinemvakalelo yokutshona yesicatshulwa sokuqhekeka.
Ke, ungazi njani ukuba uyathandana? Ngaba le miqondiso yokungazithembi ibonisa ukuba uyathandana?
Akunjalongo noko! Xa umthanda nyhani umntu, awusakhathazeki malunga nokuba uvuswe ukuze uqhekeze isicatshulwa.
Uyazi kakuhle ukuba wena neqabane lakho niqhotyoshelwe kwaye ixesha nexesha niyibonisile le nto komnye nomnye. Uyabathemba ukuba baxakekile xa bengathumeli imiyalezo ngokukhawuleza.
7. Nobabini nixhomekeke komnye
Ufumana ntoni xa uthandana?
Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokukhuseleka kwangaxeshanye.
Ke, xa wena neqabane lakho nixhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo omnye komnye, unokubeka iingcinga zakho zokucinga 'Ngaba ndiyathandana' ukuba ndiphumle.
Niyathembana noloyiko lwenu olunzulu kwaye anikoyiki ukuba sesichengeni kwakhona.
Ulungile ngokunxiba intliziyo yakho emkhonweni wakho kuba iqabane lakho liyakuxhasa kwaye likunceda kwimpilo-ntle yakho yeemvakalelo.
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8. Uthando yinkqubo
Ngoku uyaqonda ukuba uthando ayiloxesha lika-eureka. Awuvuki ngentsasa enye kwaye ngequbuliso uqaphele ukuba uyathandana. Uya kufumanisa ukuba ngoku uyekile ukukhuza ngaphezulu 'Ngaba ndiyathandana'.
Uthando yinkqubo eyenzeka yonke imihla. Awunakuva ubungakanani obufanayo bothando kwiqabane lakho yonke imihla, kodwa ukhetha ukukhetha ukunamathela ecaleni kwabo. Ngezinye iintsuku usenokubacaphukisa, kwaye ngezinye iintsuku ubathanda ngokupheleleyo ngokungathi ubuyi-13 kwakhona.
Ngaphandle kwe-roller coaster, wena neqabane lakho nisakhetha ukuba kunye, luthando olo.