Umxholo
- Ukuzabalaza ukulungelelanisa ukuzimela nokuba yinxalenye yesibini
- Uvelwano
- Unxibelelwano ngolindelo
- Ukusebenzisana
I-US lilizwe elakhelwe kwiinjongo zokuzimela kunye nokuzimela.
Abantu abaninzi baseMelika bahamba bayokuzimela geqe kwaye baqhubeke nomsebenzi wabo ngaphambi kokulandela ubudlelwane bezothando. Ukusukela umntu ngamnye kufuna ixesha kunye nomonde.
Ngoku kunanini na ngaphambili abantu balinda ixesha elide ukuba "bazinze."
Ngokwe-Census Bureau yase-US, i-avareji yobudala bomtshato kwabasetyhini ngo-2017 yayiyi-27.4, kwaye emadodeni, i-29.5. Amanani-nkcazo athetha ukuba abantu banokuchitha ixesha elininzi besakha imisebenzi okanye besenza ezinye izinto endaweni yomtshato.
Ukuzabalaza ukulungelelanisa ukuzimela nokuba yinxalenye yesibini
Ngenxa yokuba abantu belinde ixesha elide ukuba bangene kubudlelwane obunzulu, ayimangalisi into yokuba abantu abaninzi babonakala ngathi bayawa xa befunda indlela yokulinganisa ukuzimela kwabo nokuba yinxalenye yesibini.
Kwizibini ezininzi, ukutshintsha indlela yokucinga ungacingi ngo "mna" uye kuthi "thina" kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu.
Kutshanje bendisebenza nesibini esitshatileyo, kokubini kwiminyaka yabo yokuqala yamashumi amathathu apho lomceli mngeni udlalwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo kubudlelwane babo. Esinye sezo ziganeko sinesigqibo sakhe sokuya kusela nabahlobo bakhe ngorhatya lokuya kwabo kwigumbi elitsha kwaye bamshiya ukuba aqale inkqubo enzima yokukhupha iimpahla yedwa.
Kamva ngorhatya kwafuneka amncancise kubunxila.
Kwiseshoni yethu, wayebhekisa kuye njengesiqu sakhe kwaye engacingeli ngelixa wayexolisa ngokusela kakhulu, kodwa wasilela ukubona ukuba kutheni ekhathazekile ukuphuma nabahlobo bakhe ngorhatya.
Ngokombono wakhe, uchithe iminyaka engama-30 edlulileyo esenza kanye le nto wayefuna ukuyenza nangona wayefuna ukuyenza. Wayengakaze abone ngaphambili isidingo sokucinga ngeqabane lakhe kunye nendlela anokuziva ngayo ngenxa yokhetho awalwenzayo.
Ngokombono wakhe, waziva engabalulekanga kwaye etolika indlela aziphethe ngayo ukuze athethe ukuba akamxabisanga okanye uchitha ixesha ekwakheni ubomi babo kunye. Umbuzo waba kukuba bangakufunda njani ukulawula utshintsho lwabo ukusuka kum "mna" ukuya kuthi "thina" kodwa babe nokugcina imeko yomntu ngamnye?
Lo ngumba oqhelekileyo kwizibini ezininzi, kwaye ngethamsanqa, kukho izakhono ezimbalwa ezinokufundwa ukulwa lo mngeni.
Uvelwano
Esinye sezona zakhono zibaluleke kakhulu kuzo naziphi na ubudlelwane sisakhono sovelwano.
Uvelwano kukukwazi ukuqonda nokwabelana ngeemvakalelo zomnye umntu. Le yinto endihlala ndisebenza kuyo nezibini. Uvelwano luvakala lulula kodwa kunokuba ngumceli mngeni kubantu abaninzi.
Xa uziqhelanisa neqabane lakho, thatha ixesha lokumamela kwaye uqonde ukuba bathini ngaphambi kokuphendula. Yima kwaye uzithelekelele usezihlangwini zabo, kwaye unikele ingqalelo kwiimvakalelo ezivela.
Oku kuya kukunika umbono wokuba liqabane lakho liphi. Ukuba awukwazi ukuqonda, chazela iqabane lakho ukuba unzima ukuqonda indlela abavakalelwa ngayo, kwaye ucele ingcaciso.
Ukuziqhelanisa novelwano kuyaqhubeka kwaye kubandakanya ukuhlala ucinga ngeqabane lakho kunye nokuzama ukuthathela ingqalelo amava abo.
Unxibelelwano ngolindelo
Olunye ubuchule obuluncedo bokuthetha neqabane lakho ngokulindeleyo.
Esi senzo silula sikwanceda ekungeneni kwingqondo "thina".
Ukuba umthengi ongentla ebemxelele umlingane wakhe ukuba unethemba lokuba angathanda ukuchitha ubusuku babo bokuqala kwigumbi elitsha kunye kuba efuna ukuwonga umzuzu kunye naye, ngewayemvulele umnyango wokuba amqwalasele ufuna kunye neemfuno.
Ukuba sinokuqonda okulindelwe liqabane lethu, lisikhokelela ekucingeni ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo esinokuthi sizifezekise ezo mfuno kwaye sizigcine siphambili kwingqondo.
Abantu ababakhathaleli abafundi, kwaye ngaphandle kokuba sixelele amaqabane ethu ukuba sinqwenela ntoni, asinakulindela ukuba bazi ngandlela thile ukuba sifuna benze into.
Ukusebenzisana
Enye indlela ebalaseleyo yokuqalisa ukucinga ngegama elithi “thina” kukwenza iprojekthi kunye ebandakanya ukusebenzisana njengokupheka isidlo, ukwakha into, okanye ukusombulula ingxaki.
Ezi ntlobo zemisebenzi azakhi kuphela ukuthembana kodwa zikucelomngeni ukuba uthembele kwiqabane lakho ngenkxaso ngelixa uzulazula ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokusondela kwiiprojekthi kunye nokwenza eyakho indlela kunye.
Njengesibini, ningamaqabane kwaye kufuneka nizithathele ingqalelo njengeqela.
Ngapha koko, ukuba liqabane kunye nokuba neqela eliza kunamathela kuwe nokuba yeyiphi enye yezona zibonelelo ziphambili zokuba "thina" endaweni yokuba "ndim."
Ke qiniseka ukuba uyeke ukulinda, uthembe iqabane lakho ukuba livelane nawe, cela into oyifunayo, ziqhelanise nokusebenzisana rhoqo, kwaye wonwabele ukuba "thina".