Umxholo
- Ungayibuza njani imibuzo efanelekileyo
- Nazi iincoko zobudlelwane ezimbalwa
- Imibuzo yobudlelwane obunzulu yokukusondeza
- Imibuzo elungileyo inciphisa ungquzulwano
- Unyango lwezibini lunokunceda
- Buzana imibuzo enzulu
- Nxibelelana ngenjongo
Oonobangela abakhulu bokuqhekeka konxibelelwano kubudlelwane yimibuzo yobudlelwane bokugqibela.
Imibuzo efana nesidima saphakade, "Ibinjani imini yakho?" phantse soze ikhokelele kuyo nayiphi na incoko ekufanele ukuba nayo. Zimbalwa izibini ezinokuthi zifumene ukuqonda okutsha ngokubuza amaqabane abo malunga nosuku lwabo.
Ukubuza qho kube kanye kumnandi kwaye kubonisa ukuba uyakhathala kodwa ukusetyenziswa kwemibuzo yobudlelwane bokugqibela kufuneka kugcinwe ubuncinci.
Xa kukho iingxaki kubudlelwane, ngakumbi ezo zinento yokwenza nonxibelelwano, tshintshela ekugxileni kwakho ekubuzeni imibuzo yobudlelwane obufanelekileyo endaweni yokubhadulela ebumnyameni.
Ungayibuza njani imibuzo efanelekileyo
Ukubuza imibuzo efanelekileyo sisakhono esiluncedo kakhulu esinokugcina ubudlelwane bakho.
Oku akusebenzi kubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho kuphela kodwa nabantwana bakho kunye namanye amalungu osapho ngokunjalo.
Ukukhumbula ngakumbi kunokukunceda ubazi ngokwenene abo basondele kuwe ngokucofa iintliziyo neengqondo zabo.
Ukuzama, thintela imibuzo ngokubanzi enganikeli mpendulo ineenjongo kwaye ujolise kwimibuzo ethile efuna impendulo ngaphaya, "intle".
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhethe imibuzo yobudlelwane obulungileyo okanye imibuzo enzulu yobudlelwane ukubuza enye ebalulekileyo ukuba wophule umgaqo. Qiniseka ukuba awuzuphelelwa zizinto zokubuza umfana okanye intombi yakho.
Imibuzo malunga nolwalamano ikunceda ukuba uvavanye ukuba umi phi njengesibini kwaye ungene nzulu kubudlelwane ukuze ubone ukuba ujonge ntoni.
Nazi iincoko zobudlelwane ezimbalwa
- "Kwenzeke ntoni kule ntlanganiso namhlanje?",
- “Wenze ntoni malunga (gcwalisa isikhewu)?”
- “Ubuye phi nabahlobo bakho izolo?”
- “Ngubani ophumelele umdlalo phezolo?” (ngokubhekisele kumdlalo wezemidlalo)
- “Ndingakunceda nantoni na namhlanje?”
Imibuzo yobudlelwane obunzulu yokukusondeza
Nantsi imibuzo emalunga nobudlelwane obunzulu ukuze unxibelelane kwakhona nezinye zakho ezibalulekileyo ngendlela enentsingiselo.
- Yintoni efanele ukukopa kubudlelwane bakho?
- Ngomhla ombi, ungathanda ndikuxhase njani?
- Ikhona i umkhwa ndifuna ukutshintsha kuba iyakucaphukisa?
- Yintoni i Eyona ngcebiso yobudlelwane ungathanda ukuyilandela ukuphucula ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo?
- Ungu Usanxibelelana nalo naliphi na kumaqabane akho angaphambili?
- Yintoni i Okokugqibela ukujongana nolwalamano lwakho?
- Ucebisa njani ukuba silawule iimali zethu? Ungakhetha ntoni phakathi ubuqu bezemali okanye ubunye bemali?
Imibuzo enzulu enjalo ukubuza umntu othandana naye okanye intombi yakho inika ulwazi oluxabisekileyo lokukunceda uphucule ubudlelwane bakho.
Zonke ezi zinto zingasentla zifuna impendulo engaphezulu kunegama elinye kwaye zonke zibonisa umdla kubomi bomntu omthandayo. Elinye icebo elisebenzayo kwimibuzo oza kuyibuza kubudlelwane kukwenza umzamo wokucinga ngaphambi kokubuza. Nje ukuba ube unombuzo engqondweni, yenza ukuhlela okukhawulezayo entlokweni yakho ukuze ube nokubaluleka ngakumbi.
Ngelixa ukhetha imibuzo oza kuyibuza isoka okanye intombi, kubalulekile ukuba ujonge kwiinkcukacha kunye neemvakalelo zokuqalisa incoko.
Bambalwa kakhulu abayaziyo le nto kodwa zonke iincoko onazo neqabane, ilungu losapho okanye umhlobo zongeza ubunzulu kulwalamano. Jonga yonke intetho enentsingiselo njenge-intshi yenkqubela phambili kwaye ulwele okungakumbi.
Incoko yindlela abantu ababonisa ngayo uthando, inkxaso, ukuqonda nokukhathalela. Kwakhona, naka ingqalelo yokulandela imibuzo. Banokwandisa intetho emnandi.
Imibuzo elungileyo inciphisa ungquzulwano
Incoko ikwayindlela ekusonjululwa ngayo imiba.
Ukubuza imibuzo efanelekileyo yobudlelwane kuluncedo xa kukho ukungqubana. Ukufumana imiceli mngeni yindlela yokugcina ubudlelwane bakho kwaye kungcono kodwa, zibenze bomelele. Emva kokungavisisani, buza imibuzo eya kuthi ikhuthaze ukusonjululwa.
Imibuzo yobudlelwane ebuza ngoluhlobo, "Ngeliphi ixesha ekungavisisani ngayo waziva ungahlonitshwa?" okanye "Ngendenze ntoni ngokwahlukileyo?" linyathelo eliya kwicala elilungileyo.
Unyango lwezibini lunokunceda
Kulabo banobunzima ekutshintsheni imikhwa yabo yokubuza okanye bangaziboni benxibelelana ngale ndlela, cinga unyango lwababini.
Unyango lwesibini lunceda izibini ekutshintsheni imikhwa yazo ngokufundisa omabini amaqela indlela yokubuza imibuzo ebalulekileyo. Oku kwenziwa ngothotho lokuzilolonga ngaphakathi nangaphandle kweeseshoni ezijongana nemibuzo yobudlelwane ukubuza iqabane lakho okanye intombi yakho.
Buzana imibuzo enzulu
Umsebenzi omnye osebenzayo ubuza imibuzo enomdla.
Endaweni yokuba, "unjani?" okanye "ibinjani imini yakho?" wena neqabane lakho niza kucela umngeni kwimida yeemvakalelo ngendlela esempilweni kakhulu. Oku kwenziwa ngemibuzo esondeleyo enje, "Ngaba likho ixesha kule veki oziva ngalo ungeva?" okanye "Ndingenza ntoni ukuze uzive uxhaswa ngakumbi?"
Injongo yokufundisa abantu ukuba bayeke ukwenza imibuzo ngobudlelwane babo. Ewe, oku kuyothusa ekuqaleni kwaye abanye banokuba nempendulo yokuqala, "Ugh. Imvakalelo ”kodwa emva kokufumana iziphumo ezilungileyo zokubuza imibuzo enomdla, bobabini neqabane lakho niyakwamkela.
Ukuba ingxaki yokunxibelelana ngale ndlela iyaqhubeka, unyango lunokuchonga iibhloko zengqondo ezikuthintela ekuthatheni eli nyathelo libalulekileyo ukuphucula unxibelelwano kwaye likufundise ukuba ungalunqoba njani.
Oku kunokuba yingxaki evela ebuntwaneni, into ethile kubudlelwane ekufuneka ilungisiwe okanye unokuba nje kunzima ukutshintsha imikhwa. Nokuba yintoni, unyango lunokukunceda.
Nxibelelana ngenjongo
Emva kokufunda indlela yokubuza imibuzo efanelekileyo yobudlelwane, sebenzisa eso sakhono ukunxibelelana ngenjongo. Kuyinto engaqhelekanga kodwa izibini kunye nosapho bawela kumkhwa wokuncokola ngokufana nabanye.
Imibuzo enjalo kwincoko ilingana nentetho encinci onokuba nayo nomntu ongamaziyo.
Xa uthetha nabantu obathandayo yenza njalo ngenjongo yokusondela kunye nokomeleza unxibelelwano.
Ngemibuzo yobudlelwane efanelekileyo ukubuza, awusoze uphoswe ngamathuba okunxibelelana ngakumbi.
Ubomi bumalunga nokukhulisa ubudlelwane obuhlala buhleli kunye nokonwabela ezo uzingqongileyo. Ukubuza imibuzo yokwakha ubudlelwane kuya kuvumela ubudlelwane bakho ukuba bukhule!