Umxholo
- 1. Ukufuna ukwenza izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo
- 2. Ukunqongophala kwemida
- 3. Ukuzithemba okuphezulu nokuzithoba
- 4. Efihliweyo shame
- 5. Uloyiko lokuba wedwa / ukulahlwa
Ukufana phakathi kwakho kunye nabakhohlisi bakho abakhohlisayo, abatshatileyo ngokuqinisekileyo bakugcina utsala omnye komnye. Oku kufana kudlala indima ebalulekileyo ekugcineni ukonwabisile. Funda ukuze ufumanise kwaye uthathe amanyathelo okulungisa ukuba ungumntu onobuqili onobuqabane kunye neqabane elikhohlisayo. Qonda ukuba uyaqhubeka nokuba kubudlelwane obunetyhefu ngenxa yoloyiko, uxanduva, ukuzithemba okuphantsi okanye ihlazo.
Ukufana kweNarcissist / okhathalelayo
1. Ukufuna ukwenza izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo
Ukugqibelela kusebenza ngokwahlukileyo kwii-narcissists nakwabagcini. AbakwaNarcissists bakholelwa ukuba bagqibelele kwaye wonke umntu obangqongileyo kufuneka agqibelele, ngelixa wena njengomgcini okholelwa ukuba kufanelekile kwaye ngumsebenzi wakho ukwenza iqabane lakho lonwabe ngokugqibeleleyo. Logama nje ukholelwa ukuba luxanduva lwakho ukukhathalela iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho elikhohlisayo, iimfuno kunye nolindelo, uya kuqhubeka nokuqhathwa ngumnxibelelanisi.
2. Ukunqongophala kwemida
Ngokuqinisekileyo unemida eqhelekileyo kolunye ubudlelwane bakho. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ube lixhoba lokudibana neqabane lakho lokukhohlisa. Xa uziva unothando olunzulu kwaye umkhathalele omnye umntu, imida yakho ihlala inyamalala. Awucingi ukuba yinto engaqhelekanga ukuziva ugxile kulowo umthandayo. Ungakholelwa ukuba akulunganga ukuthi "hayi" okanye "ukuzingca", okanye ukumdanisa nangayiphi na indlela. Naxa ufuna ukuseta umda okanye ungavumelani ungaziva unetyala ngokwenza njalo.
3. Ukuzithemba okuphezulu nokuzithoba
Wena neqabane lakho mhlawumbi nichonga ukuzithemba kwenu njengokuphakama. AbakwaNarcissist bacinezela ukuzithemba kwabo ngaphakathi kangangokuba abazi nokuba ikhona. Phantsi koxinzelelo, ii-narcissists ziye zonganyelwe ziimvakalelo zazo ezingalunganga, ezinobutshaba, kwanentiyo yangaphakathi, kwaye basebenzise ingqumbo kunye nokukhohlisa ukuphulukana nokuzithemba kwabo, ukuzingca, okanye ukuzithemba kwabo.
Abakhathaleli basebenza nzima ukuba babenothando kwaye banothando kwaye bahlala bezithemba. Nangona kunjalo, xa ungena kubudlelwane ne-narcissist, umbono wakho wokuzimela ngokukhawuleza uyaphela njengoko uzama umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka wokuzama ukukholisa iqabane elithandanayo. Njengomkhathaleli, uziva kufuneka uhlale kwaye "ungqine" kwi-narcissist ukuba uneenjongo ezintle, unentliziyo entle kwaye uzama konke okusemandleni akho.
4. Efihliweyo shame
AmaNarcissist kunye nabanakekeli bahlala beneentloni ezininzi ezifihlakeleyo. Ukuzama ukugqibelela xa ungaziva ulungile ngokwaneleyo kudala uxinzelelo olukhulu kubo bobabini. AbakwaNarcissist baveza ihlazo labo ngaphandle kwabanye ngokugxeka, ukuthukisa, ukubeka ezantsi kunye nokugweba okujongela phantsi. Abanyamekeli bathambekele ekuqalekeni ngokungafanelekanga xa amaqabane abo engonwabanga okanye engonelisekanga. Ukuba ukhuliswe ngumzali we-narcissistic okanye onobuqhetseba uya kuthi ulive ngakumbi eli hlazo. Kwaye okukhona uhlala nomnxibelelanisi, kokukhona uya kuba neentloni ngakumbi ngokwakha.
UAlicia wakhuliswa ngumama ongakhathaliyo owayesoloko emgxeka kwaye embeka phantsi. Wayengaziva ngokwaneleyo, nokuba wenza imisebenzi emingaphi okanye wayenza kakuhle kangakanani. Ke, xa umyeni wakhe ekhwaza kwaye enomsindo ukuba akukho mali yokwenza le nto ayifunayo, ngokulula uthatha ityala. Uzama ukumenza aphulaphule kwaye azole, kodwa uyawa xa uMat emgxeka kwaye emgxeka.
5. Uloyiko lokuba wedwa / ukulahlwa
Zombini ii-narcissist kunye nabanakekeli banoloyiko lokuphelisa ubudlelwane obunobutshaba, obuphikisanayo. Ukuba wedwa, kuthetha ukuba awulunganga ngokwaneleyo kwaye awufezekanga ngokwaneleyo. Ukuhamba okanye ukuvumela omnye umntu ukuba ahambe kubonakalisa ukusilela okunzulu, okulihlazo kubo bobabini abanyangi kunye nabanakekeli.
UDavid usenokukhathazeka kwaye acaphuke malunga nendlela uSerena abonakala emthatha ngayo, kodwa akacingi ukubuphelisa ubudlelwane. Endaweni yoko, uthetha rhabaxa ngokuthetha ngokugcina kwakhe indlu, ekhalaza ngokumnika imali ethe kratya, kwaye emane emnika iiresiphi — konke oko akakuhoyi. Kodwa uzimisele ukumqinisekisa ukuba enze isabelo sakhe esifanelekileyo. Uzihoya ezi zinto kuba waqonda kwakudala ukuba soze amshiye. Kodwa uyaqinisekisa ukuba wenza nje ngokwaneleyo ukumgcina angadluli emaphethelweni kuba akukho ndlela afuna ukubuyela ngayo kusapho lwakhe ehlazekile.
Okokugqibela kususwe
AbakwaNarcissist kunye nabakhathaleli bane-Push / ukutsala, uthando / inzondo, ukugqwesa / ukujongela phantsi, ukuphumelela / ukuphulukana nohlobo lwe-magnetic syciosis. Iimpawu zakho ezichaseneyo ziyaqinisana, kwaye ukufana kwakho kukugcina unamathele kunye. Udityaniswe kwinto yokuhlangana, nangona uhlala ulwa, ubudlelwane bujolise ngokupheleleyo kwi-narcissist. Unokukhalaza ngayo, kodwa uyanikezela kuba uziva unyanzelekile, uxanduva, kwaye uhlala usoyika kakhulu ukuba ungahambi.