Umxholo
Ukwabelana ngobomi bakho nomntu yinto enokuba nzima njengoko intle. Yonke imihla sijongana nokukhetha okungapheliyo kunye nezigqibo-amathuba anokusisondeza kumaqabane ethu okanye kude kubo.
Xa kuninzi okuqhubekayo, umntu unokuqiniseka njani ukuba ngekhe avuke ngentsasa enye kwaye aqonde ukuba sikwiphepha elahluke ngokupheleleyo kunelona libalulekileyo? Ngapha koko, kuthekani ukuba sele kunjalo?
Ngelishwa kwabanye, "ukuphuma othandweni" sisikhalazo esiqhelekileyo. Ngethamsanqa, zikho iindlela ezimbalwa ezilula zokuthintela oku ukuba kungenzeki kuwe, okanye kukubuyisela kumkhondo ukuba uziva ushukuma umka nomntu omthandayo.
1. Ziqhelise ukubulela
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba abantu batyibilike kwipateni yokugxeka kunye nokuphupha emini malunga nazo zonke izinto abanqwenela zahlukile.
Kweminye inokwenzeka xa izinto zangaphandle (umthwalo onzima, imiba yezempilo, imicimbi yezemali, idrama kunye nolunye usapho kunye nabahlobo, njl.
Kungokwemvelo ukufuna ukubeka ityala, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba senza ntoni abalingane bethu babanjwe emlilweni.
Endaweni yokujolisa kwingqwalaselo yokwala kweqabane lakho ukunceda kwimisebenzi yasekhaya, ukutya kwabo okungenampilo, ukungabikho kwenkxaso yakho kuwe ngexesha lesidingo, okanye nantoni na ingqondo yakho ithanda ukuyenza, yenza umzamo oqinisekileyo wokuqaphela izinto ozixabisayo.
Mhlawumbi ikhona into eyenziwa liqabane lakho-nokuba yinto encinci njengokutshixa ucango lwaphambi kokuba ulale, okanye ukukunika irimothi ye-TV emva kokuba ubeke iinyawo zakho phezulu-onokukhetha ukujolisa kuyo.
2. Thatha uxanduva
Sonke siyivile into yokuba akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo. Ihlala isetyenziselwa ukuphambuka xa senze impazamo, kodwa inyani kukuba iyinyani! Akukhomntu ogqibelele. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba singavumi kuphela xa senze impazamo, kodwa sithathe uxanduva ngayo.
Umzekelo, mhlawumbi ubusenza amagqabantshintshi angenaxhala malunga nokuhlamba okungcolileyo okushiyekileyo phantsi, okanye mhlawumbi ubuxakeke kakhulu ukuba uqaphele ukuba ziintsuku oko ubonakalisile uthando.
Endaweni yokuphambuka, thatha ubunini ngaphezulu kweempazamo zakho.
Ngokuthatha ubunini bezenzo zethu, izinto ezimbalwa zinokwenzeka.
- Sifumana ithuba lokunika uvelwano kuthi ngokwabantu. Ke ngoko, inyusa amandla ethu okuba nemfesane kwabanye nangabantu.
- Sinokukhuthaza amaqabane ethu ukuba alandele ukhokelo lwethu kwaye athathe uxanduva ngeziphene zabo.
- Lithuba lokuzikhulisa. Inyathelo lokuqala kukwamkela ukuba kukho indawo yokuphucula!
3. Unxibelelwano
Unxibelelwano kulapho yonke into iza kwisangqa esipheleleyo. Nje ukuba uchonge izinto ezimbalwa ezenziwa liqabane lakho ozixabisayo, baxelele! Ukulindela ukuzala kunika ithemba ngakumbi.
Kukho ithuba elihle lokuba okukhona uqala ukuqaphela izinto ekufuneka unombulelo kuzo, kokukhona izinto ezintsha ekufuneka ubonge ngazo ziya kubonakala ngesiquphe ebomini bakho. Kukwakho nethuba elihle lokuba, ukuba uxelele iqabane lakho ukuba uqaphele, baya kuyenza kwakhona!
Ngapha koko, ukuba uziva unqamkile kunxibelelwano neqabane lakho, ukwabelana ngalo kunokuba ngumsebenzi owoyikisayo, kodwa kunokuba nakho ukuba nomvuzo. Ukuthetha rhoqo malunga neengcinga zakho, iimvakalelo zakho, okanye indlela oziphethe ngayo- zombini ezo uzingcayo ngazo kunye nezo ongenaqhayiya ngazo- kunokukunceda uhlale ulungelelwano nawe kwaye kunokukunceda uzimanye neqabane lakho
Umtshato akusoloko kulula. Ngaphezulu kweenyanga kunye neminyaka, uninzi lwabantu luphuma emgceni ngexesha elinye okanye elinye. Ukuba oko kuyenzeka, kulungile. Ngamanye amaxesha ukufuna iingcebiso kwiingcali kunokunceda. Ngamanye amaxesha, amanyathelo amancinci anje ngala manyathelo mathathu alula anokunceda.