Umxholo
Ithemba labo bonke abaza kubakho okanye abatshakazi abatsha kukuba nomtshato ohlala uhleli kwaye wanelise. Kulula ukubanjwa kukuthandana kwayo yonke into kwaye ukholelwe ukuba uthando lwakho luza koyisa konke, kodwa loo nkolelo inokuba yingozi kancinci.
Uthando, ewe, lubalulekile, kodwa aluyi kwanela ukugcina umtshato wakho usempilweni kwiminyaka ezayo. Ukudala ukusondelelana emtshatweni okanye ukwakha ulwalamano emtshatweni sesona sitshixo somanyano olonwabisayo nolwanelisayo kwaye ngokuchasene nenkolelo edumileyo, ukusondelelana kungaphezulu koko kwenzekayo kwigumbi lokulala.
Ewe, ukwabelana ngesondo kubalulekile, kodwa ukwakha ukusondelelana emtshatweni kunento yokwenza nento eyenzekayo ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala nakwimini yakho yemihla ngemihla kunye. Makhe sifunde indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane emtshatweni
Ukwakha ulwalamano emtshatweni kunye nokulugcina
Unokufumana umlenze kulolo lonwabo ngonaphakade emva kokuba ufunde indlela yokwenza ulwalamano emtshatweni kunye nokulugcina. Ezi ngcebiso zisondeleyo zilandelayo okanye ukusondelelana kwiingcebiso zomtshato inokukunceda wenze oko, ikunike isiqalo esihle kwaye ikuncede ugcine ukusondelelana emtshatweni wakho kwiminyaka ezayo.
Ke ukuba ufuna ingcebiso ngesondo kubantu abasandul 'ukutshata, okanye iingcebiso malunga nolwalamano olusondeleyo emtshatweni ufike endaweni elungileyo.
1. Fumana iindlela zobuchule zokuthi 'Ndiyakuthanda'
Imicimbi yokutshata esandul 'ukutshata okanye imiba yokusondelelana nakoluphi na ulwalamano lwenzeka kuba isibini siyeke ukuba nobuchule ngokwaneleyo. Ngokuhamba kwexesha wena neqabane lakho nibambeke kwiindlela ezifanayo zokuthandana kwaye ulibale ukuhamba imayile eyongezelelweyo ukothusa iqabane lakho.
Enye ye okona kulungileyo iingcebiso ngomtshato kubantu abasandul 'ukutshata Kukungadinwa yinto yesiqhelo kwaye ufumane iindlela zobuchule zokuvuma uthando lwabo kumaqabane abo.
Sebeza endlebeni zabo okanye ubhale imilebe yomlomo esipilini. Nokuba ungayithetha njani, ifuthe liya kuba ngokufanayo. Sonke sifuna ukuthandwa kwaye akukho nto inokwenza umntu azive engcono kunokwazi ukuba uyathandwa.
2. Ukudlala ngothando
Le yinto esiyenzayo kakhulu xa sithandana kwaye siyeke kanye xa sitshatile. Ukudlala ngothando kuyonwabisa kwaye kunokwenza nizive wonwabile. Umntu odlala ngothando uziva enomdla, kwaye umntu odlala ngothando naye uziva enomtsalane kwaye efunwa, ngokukhawuleza ukukhawuleza.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezisondeleyo kwizibini ezitshatileyo Ukudlala ngothando xa ujikeleze iqabane labo: Nxiba into abayithandayo, zama ukubamba ingqalelo yabo, ubabhalele inqaku lesini okanye ileta engenanto, ubathinte rhoqo. Zama ukuvuleka ngakumbi, ukhululeke, kunye nezinto eziphilayo.
3. Yenzani izinto omnye komnye
Ngelixa umyalezo wokuthanjiswa okanye isidlo sothando uxabisekile ngokuqinisekileyo, nditsho nokucoca nje ar okanye ukuthatha omnye wemisebenzi yabo kunokuhamba indlela ende. Ngokwenza into komnye umntu, ubonakalisa ukuba umkhathalele kwaye unemqolo. Yiyo leyo into emalunga nomtshato!
Ezo zenzo zokuzibophelela ngaphandle kwemiqathango nothando ziya kuhlala zisenza iqabane lakho liqonde indlela abanethamsanqa ngayo ukuba babe nawe ebomini babo.
4. Yibani nobumnandi kunye
Ukubaleka kwimpelaveki okanye iiyure ezimbalwa, nibabini, kwaye nenze into entsha. Inokuphonononga idolophu entsha okanye ukuzama umsebenzi omtsha kunye. Ixesha elichithwe ukwenza into eyahlukileyo likunika amava ekwabelwana ngawo kunye nemvakalelo ebanzi yovuyo.
Ukukhawuleza kwe-adrenaline yinto nje onokuyidinga emtshatweni wakho ukubuyisela ulwalamano kubomi bakho.
5. Thetha ngamaphupha akho neenjongo zakho
Oku kunokuba yinjongo ekwabelwana ngayo, njengokuthenga okanye ukulungisa indlu, okanye iphupha elilelakho. Ukwabelana ngethemba lakho kunye namaphupha akho kuyabakhuthaza ukuba benze okufanayo okulungele ukwakha ubudlelwane emtshatweni kunye nokuvuselelana ukuze baphile ubomi obanelisayo.
Ukuthetha ngamathemba akho kunye namaphupha akho kunye neqabane lakho yinto ebalulekileyo kuyo esanda kutshata. Kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba awuphulukani noku emtshatweni wakho, kuba oku kuya kuhlala kukunceda ufumane indlela yakho yokubuyela komnye nomnye.
6. Yibani nesiko elenzela nina nobabini kuphela
Ingangqengqa esofeni kunye newayini kunye nepitsa ngolwesiHlanu ebusuku okanye ube nekofu kwivenkile oyithandayo ngeCawa kusasa. Ukwenza isiko elikhethekileyo kunye kunye nokukunika into ekhethekileyo ukuba ujonge kuyo nokuba buxakeke kangakanani na ubomi.
Sukuba nexhala lokuba lahlukile okanye isenokuba yinto edityaniswe kakhulu, de kube lixesha lokuba nobabini nizonwabele kunye ziya kusebenza kakuhle.
7. Dibana nomlingane wakho
Umtshato usenokuthetha ukuvalelisa ukuthandana, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba uyeke ukonwaba kunye namava othando neqabane lakho.
Yenza ixesha loku Yenza izinto enanithanda ukuzenza kunye ngaphambi komtshato ukunqanda ukuwela kumkhwa kunye nokulahlekelwa yintlantsi kunye nonxibelelwano olukhokelele ekutshateni kwasekuqaleni.
Yenza omnye nomnye azive ngendlela enanenza ngayo ukuqala kwenu ukudibana, ayizukuba lula kwaye ayizukuphanga umdla kodwa umbono uhlala uhlala ufikelela kwaye uzama ukufumana into ekunceda ukuba ubalekele kwilizwe elilelakho.
Esinye sezikhalazo ezinkulu kubantu abatshatileyo kukuba abaziva unxibelelwano olufanayo neqabane labo ababelwenza xa babethandana. Umtshato unika ithuba lokwakha lonke olunye uhlobo losondelelo oluza ngokwenza ukuzibophelela ekubeni kunye kude kube sekufeni nizahlule.
Oku akufuneki kuthathe indawo yonxibelelwano obunalo ngaphambi kokuba nditsho, nangona kunjalo. Ungalahli umbono womntu abathandana naye okanye umntu othandana naye. Qhubeka nokudibana namava amatsha kwaye wonwabe kunye nokuba uxanduva lobomi ludlala.