Umxholo
- 1. Uqhawulo-mtshato lwenzeka ngendlela ngaphambi kokuba sithathe isigqibo sokuhamba ezantsi
- 2. Akukho mntu usifundisa indlela yokuvuma ukungavumelani
- 3. Nawuphi na umlutha osebenzayo uza kuwatshabalalisa amathuba omtshato ophilileyo
- 4. Ukuhlala kunye ngaphambi komtshato
'Lithini inqanaba loqhawulo-mtshato eMelika' okanye 'lithini izinga loqhawulo-mtshato eMelika' eminye yemibuzo ephendulwa kakhulu ngoqhawulo-mtshato.
Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba malunga neepesenti ezingama-50 zabantu abatshatileyo bayaqhawula umtshato eMelika. Amanqanaba oqhawulo mtshato welizwe kunokuba azobe umfanekiso omnyama kakhulu. Amanani oqhawulo-mtshato eUnited States ngelishwa lomelele kwaye akhuselekile iminyaka eliqela. Ke ulinciphisa njani inqanaba loqhawulo mtshato kwilizwe lethu?
Ayisiyiyo kuphela e-United States kodwa ukuba u-google amazinga oqhawulo-mtshato ngelizwe okanye amaxabiso oqhawulo-mtshato ngokwamanani elo nani limnyama.
Nazi izitshixo ezine eziphambili ukunceda ukunciphisa izinga loqhawulo-mtshato eMelika, oko kungabakhathazi nje abantu abadala ngokubhekisele kukuzithemba, ukuzithemba kunye nemeko yabo yezemali kodwa kube nefuthe elibi kulwakhiwo losapho, kushiya abantwana benombono ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato luyinto eqhelekileyo emtshatweni. Funda ukufumana ezinye zezisombululo ezinokuthintela uqhawulo mtshato eMelika (nayo yonke enye indawo).
1. Uqhawulo-mtshato lwenzeka ngendlela ngaphambi kokuba sithathe isigqibo sokuhamba ezantsi
Njengokuba kunjalo, uninzi lwezibini endikhe ndasebenza nazo kule minyaka ingama-28 idlulileyo zithi zazinemvakalelo eyomeleleyo kwasekuqaleni kulwalamano umtshato owawungazukuhlala.
Inqanaba loqhawulo mtshato eMelika liyenyuka kuba abantu sele beqalisile ukuwuthatha kancinci umtshato kwaye musa ukutyala ixesha elaneleyo lokuqinisekisa ukuba umntu omkhethileyo ulungile kubo.
Uninzi lwabantu lundixelela ukuba bayazi ngexesha lokuthandana ukuba isenokungabi ngumbono olungileyo ukutshata nalo mntu kuba mininzi kakhulu imicimbi enzima ababengayazi ukuba bayoyisa njani. Ke oku kusikhokelela kwimeko enomdla kakhulu, ngepesenti ephezulu kangaka yabantu besazi ukuba umtshato usengxakini ngaphambi kokuba batshate, ithini inyathelo lokuqala?
Kukho lo mthetho ubhontsi oza kuwulandela xa uthandana nomnye umntu ukuze ungaqhubeli phambili ebomini xa sele kukho iiflegi ezibomvu ezinkulu ezibethwa ngumoya zisithi ubudlelwane buphelile kwasekuqaleni.
Umgaqo we-3% wokuthandana uthi unganakho ukungqinelana ne-97% neqabane lakho, kodwa ukuba baphatha nabaphi na ababulali oqinisekileyo ukuba ngekhe bakusebenzele, kufuneka sibuphelise ubudlelwane ngoku.
Ngaba oku kuvakala kukrakra? Yi. Kwaye iyasebenza. Ababini abalandela eli cebiso abayi kugqibela ngokutshata nomntu onokubulala kakhulu kwiimpawu zabo zobuntu. Ukuba wonke umntu uqala ukuyilandela le nqanaba loqhawulo mtshato eMelika liza kuhla ngokuqinisekileyo.
Nazi ezinye izinto eziphambili zokubulala
Omnye wabantu ababulalayo unokuba ngumntu osela kakhulu, othatha inxaxheba ekusebenziseni iziyobisi, oxokayo, ekungcatsha ngexesha lokuthandana, mhlawumbi uya kuthi umntu onabantwana akanakuze akusebenzele, okanye umntu lonto ayifuni ukuba abantwana soze ikusebenzele.
Ngoku ukuba ujonga oku kungasentla, kwaye baninzi abantu ababulala abanye abantu inokuba yinkolo, abanye abantu abanakho ukuphatha imali yabo kakuhle, kodwa ukuba ujonga zonke ezi zintlu ndikhuthaza abathengi bam ukuba Yenza ngokwakho, kwaye uthandana nomntu one, babini okanye bathathu ababulali besivumelwano, uneendlela ezimbini onokukhetha kuzo, enye iya kuba kukuxelela loo mntu ukuba kufuneka acoce isenzo sabo ngaphambi kokuba ubatshate, okanye ezimbini uyaphela ubudlelwane ngoku. Eli nyathelo linye apha liya kulinciphisa ngokunzulu inqanaba loqhawulo-mtshato eMelika namhlanje.
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2. Akukho mntu usifundisa indlela yokuvuma ukungavumelani
Akukho mntu usifundisa indlela yokuphikisana ngokwakhayo, okanye ukungavumelani neqabane lethu. Kwaye oku kubalulekile kumtshato ophilileyo. Ukucebisa ngaphambi komtshato kunokunceda abantu abatshatileyo ukuba bafunde ukoyisa ukungavisisani, ukungavumelani ngentlonipho, ukungavali kwigumbi lokulala, ukungavali ngaphandle nokwenza iindlela zokuziphatha ezinoburharha uninzi lwethu oluthandayo.
Zonke izibini kufuneka zigqibe ikhosi ebanzi ngaphambi kokutshata nokuba ungakanani, nokuba nithe nahlala ixesha elide kangakanani. Sikwakholelwa ukuba kubalulekile ukwenza iingcebiso ngezemali nabantu ngexesha lesifundo sangaphambi komtshato, kunye nokuza ekuqondeni nakwisivumelwano ngokubhekisele kubantwana, inkolo, indlela yokuphatha imali, iiholide, isondo nokunye okuninzi. Zininzi izibini ezitshatayo ngaphandle komsebenzi wangaphambi komtshato nomphathiswa, urabi okanye umbingeleli konke konke kwaye olu tshintsho lunokunciphisa izinga loqhawulo mtshato eMelika.
3. Nawuphi na umlutha osebenzayo uza kuwatshabalalisa amathuba omtshato ophilileyo
Kufuneka sithathe uxanduva, siziphathe ngokwethu ukuba sisokola ukungcakaza, ukutya, inikotini, iziyobisi, utywala, isondo ... Kwaye ukuba uneqabane, elilwa nayo nayiphi na kwezi zinto zingasentla, funda nje kwakhona. Inomboloe yokuqala. Kufuneka ubeke imida ekufuneka ayinyange kuqala umntu, ngaphambi komtshato.
Ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi kuxhaphakile kwezi ntsuku, inqanaba loqhawulo-mtshato eMelika ngokuqinisekileyo liza kuncipha ukuba abantu baqala ukukhetha amaqabane angamakhoboka kwimikhwa yabo yeziyobisi.
4. Ukuhlala kunye ngaphambi komtshato
Yibholgame ehluke ngokupheleleyo ukuhlala nomntu, emva koko ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Kwaye wakuba ubeke iindima ezongeziweyo kunye nokulindelweyo komtshato kwisibini esingazange sihlale kunye, ubuza kwinkqubo yam yenkolelo yokuba abantu baphathe okungaphezulu kunokuba benokwazi.
Kuyacetyiswa ukuba abantu abazimiseleyo ngomtshato, bahlale kunye unyaka omnye ngaphambi kokuba batshate. Hlalani kunye. Yiya kumahla ndinyuka wento ekuhlala kuyo kwindlu encinci, ikhaya elihambayo okanye indlu yendlu. Ayinamsebenzi isithuba okanye ubungakanani, ngokungathi kubalulekile ukuba nihlala phantsi kophahla olunye kunye. Ukuhlalisana, njengoko kunjalo, ayisiyonto eMelika kwaye ukuba abantu balilandela eli nyathelo, inqanaba loqhawulo mtshato eMelika liza kuhla.
Ezi zezinye zezitshixo ezinokubaluleka ekwehliseni izinga loqhawulo-mtshato eMelika kunye nokunyusa umlinganiso wolonwabo kwizibini ezingonwabanga eUnited States.
La manyathelo anokuzisa utshintsho olukhulu kwizibini eziceba ukutshata okanye izibini esele zitshatile, zibanceda ukuba bafunde ukuxoxa, ukungavumelani kunye nokuphikisana ngentlonipho nothando. Ukulandela la manyathelo kuya kulinciphisa inani loqhawulo mtshato eMelika.