Umxholo
- Inokukunceda ukusombulula imicimbi
- Inokukunceda uphephe iingxaki ezinkulu ezizayo
- 3. Yindawo ekhuselekileyo yokuphuma phandle
- 4. Ayibizi njengokuba ucinga
- Izinto ezingalunganga ngokucebisa ngomtshato
Inkqubo ye- Izibonelelo zokucebisa ngomtshato are ayinakuphikwa, kodwa ziye zaba yimfuneko kweli xesha lanamhlanje. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphantsi kwe-5% yabantu abatshatileyo okanye abaqhawule umtshato bafuna ingcebiso yomtshato ukulungisa ubudlelwane babo.
Umbuzo okhawulezayo: Kugqibele nini ukuya kwiqabane lakho ukuya kubona umcebisi womtshato? Ukuba impendulo ithi "soze" okanye "asikho engxakini, kutheni ke kufuneka siye?", Eli linqaku ekufuneka ulifundile.
Nangona kuhlala kukho ukucinga ukuba ukululekwa ngomtshato kwenzelwe izithandani ezisengxakini, inyani kukuba inkqubo yokucebisa ngomtshato yinto enokuthi ibonakalise iluncedo nakwesiphi na isibini nokuba sisandul 'ukutshata, abazali abatsha okanye amadoda nabafazi ngubani otshatileyo iminyaka engama-30 okanye ngaphezulu.
Kodwa umbuzo apha ngulo- ngaba ingcebiso ngomtshato iluncedo? Zeziphi ezinye zezibonelelo eziqinisekisiweyo eziza nokuya kubona umcebisi womtshato?
Masizifunele ngokwethu-
Impendulo yalo mbuzo -Usebenza ngokucebisa kangakanani ngomtshato ucacisiwe kweli nqaku ngokuthetha ngezibonelelo ezine eziphambili zokucebisa ngomtshato.
Ndiyathemba ukuba, xa ugqibile ukuyifunda le nto, uyakufuna ukwenza idinga lokubonana nomcebisi ngomtshato kwimizamo yokwenza owakho umtshato ubengcono kwangoko ngokukhawuleza.
Inokukunceda ukusombulula imicimbi
Nokuba zezemali, ukusondelelana, ukunxibelelana, ukucwangcisa, okanye nawuphi na umcimbi eninawo neqabane lakho, ngamaxesha athile inokuba njalo kunzima ukuza iya ku isisombululo ngokwakho.
Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi xa nobabini ninemibono eyahluke ngokupheleleyo kule micimbi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, umcebisi womtshato akanxibelelananga ngokwasemoyeni emtshatweni wakho, kodwa, kwangaxeshanye, uyafundwa kwaye abe nobuchule xa kuziwa kubudlelwane bomtshato.
Banokuba neenjongo xa kufikwa ekufumaneni isisombululo esiya kuthi ekugqibeleni sibe sesona sihle kulwalamano. Oko kuhlala kuluncedo xa isibini sikhangela isisombululo kwiingxaki zaso.
Inokukunceda uphephe iingxaki ezinkulu ezizayo
Nangona zininzi iingxelo ezipapashiweyo ezibonisa ukuba enye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo onokuzenza emtshatweni wakho kukubona umcebisi okanye ugqirha (ubuncinci amaxesha ambalwa ngonyaka), ziyafana izifundo Ndiyakwenza njalo Ndikuxelele ukuba ngokukhawuleza ukhetha yenze, ngcono.
Ngelishwa, uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo bathanda ukulinda de umtshato wabo ngokusisiseko ube "kwinkxaso yobomi" ngaphambi kokubona umcebisi. Ithemba labo kukuba umcebisi "angawusindisa" umtshato wabo.
Ngoku, ayingomsebenzi womcebisi ngomtshato lowo. Awunakulindela ukuba basebenzise i-wand yabo yomlingo ukuphelisa iingxabano zakho zomtshato ngoko nangoko. Ukuba unqwenela Yonwabele i izibonelelo zomtshato, kufuneka uye kubo ngalo mzuzu ukrokrela ukuba izinto ziyawa emtshatweni wakho.
Abacebisi ngomtshato bakho nje ukukunceda ufumane izixhobo ozifunayo ukuze ugcine umtshato wakho. Kodwa okukhona usiya uzibona ngaphambi kokuba izinto zizame kakhulu, kokukhona banokukunceda kwaye kulunge kuwe neqabane lakho.
3. Yindawo ekhuselekileyo yokuphuma phandle
Kuzo zonke izibonelelo zokucebisa ngomtshato ezikhankanyiweyo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, le inokubonakala njengengaqhelekanga; kodwa loo nto ayenzi ukuba kungabi semxholweni.
Enye into entle malunga abacebisi ngomtshato kukuba banako sebenza njengomlamli ukuba kukho izinto wena kunye / okanye iqabane lakho othe woyika kakhulu ukuba wabelana ngazo okanye khange ukwazi ukufumana isisombululo esicacileyo nesokugqibela.
Ukugcina izinto ngaphakathi akulungile kwimpilo-ntle yakho ngokweemvakalelo kwaye iseshoni yokucebisa ngomtshato sisimo esihle sokukhupha. Kwaye, umcebisi ngemitshato unokukunceda ukuba ufunde indlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo zakho ngendlela enemveliso ngakumbi.
4. Ayibizi njengokuba ucinga
Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba kuya kufuneka uye kumcebisi womtshato, kodwa eyakho Uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali luqinile, eneneni lolunye uncedo oluza nokuya kubona enye.
Enye yezibonelelo zokufumana iingcebiso kwizibini ezitshatileyo kukuba iiseshoni zixabiso liphantsi kunokubona ugqirha wezifo zengqondo okanye ugqirha wengqondo, ikwayaye kufuna ixesha elincinci kwaye isebenze ngakumbi kunokuya kubona umcebisi wedwa.
Kananjalo, ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ukwimeko emaxongo yemali, uninzi lwabacebisi ngemitshato luvulekile ukuba lusebenze isicwangciso sokuhlawula.
Njengoko ubona, zininzi izibonelelo zokucebisa ngomtshato ezivela ekuboneni umcebisi. Yenye yezitshixo zokufumana uhlobo lomtshato ekudala ulufuna-kwaye lufanelwe!
Kodwa njengazo zonke izinto, kukho iseti ethile ye okuhle nokubi ye iingcebiso ngomtshato. Sele sizijongile izibonelelo zokufumana iingcebiso ngezibini, lixesha lokuba siphonononge iingxaki zokucebisa ngomtshato.
Izinto ezingalunganga ngokucebisa ngomtshato
Ngaphambi kokuba uzibekisele ixesha lokubonana nomcebisi, kukho izinto ezithile ekufuneka uzazi- iziphene ezimbalwa zokudibana nomcebisi ngobuhlobo.
Ngoku, yonke into ingxaki yomtshato yahlukile, kunjalo nangoncedo olufumanekayo lokubamba loo micimbi ingachazwanga ngegama. Kwangokunjalo, ukucebisa ngomtshato akusebenzi rhoqo kwaye rhoqo, kuyasilela ukufumanisa iingxaki okanye ukufumana isisombululo esifanelekileyo kuso.
Kananjalo umntu angangcamla izibonelelo zokucebisa ngobuhlobo ukuba omabini amaqabane azinikele ngokulinganayo ekuziseni utshintsho olufanayo emtshatweni wabo, abazinikele ekujonganeni nemiba engasonjululwanga, kwaye benyanisekile kwiimpendulo zabo kwimibuzo yomcebisi.
Ukucebisa ngomtshato kuthatha ixesha kwaye kufuna i inani elilinganayo lokuzinikezela kuwo omabini amaqabane. Elinye iqabane alinakulwela umtshato wedwa.
Ke, ngaphambi kokuba unqwenele ukonwabela izibonelelo zokucebisa ngomtshato, kuya kufuneka wazi malunga nezinto ezilungileyo nezingalunganga zokucebisa ngomtshato. Kwaye, ukuphendula umbuzo wakho, 'ngaba ingcebiso ngomtshato iyanceda?' impendulo ngu-Ewe, kunjalo.