Ndakhathazeka ndakuva ezi ndaba. Kwakungekho ndlela inokuba yinyani.Ukuba abakwazanga ukuphumelela, liliphi ithuba ebesinalo abanye bethu?
Usenokuba nempendulo efanayo xa weva ngokwahlukana kuka-Angelina Jolie noBrad Pitt. Ndiyathanda ukuzicingela njengomntu ongazinikeli ngqalelo iindaba zabantu abadumileyo kuba ndixakeke kakhulu ngokwakha ingqondo yam ngokuzityebisa ngemisebenzi yobukrelekrele nemisebenzi elungileyo ehlabathini. Nangona kunjalo, ndimele ndivume, ndamangaliswa ukuba ndivuswe kwaye ndibuhlungu ngebali labo lothando olulahlekileyo.
Babenako konke, akunjalo? Imali, inqanaba, ubuhle, inkxaso kwezentlalo, amaxabiso abajolise kuwo ukuze baphile ... ke ingaba ubudlelwane obunobutyebi obufanelekileyo bunokuwela njani ekuphelisweni? Ndiyathetha, ndiqinisekile ukuba babenazo iingcinezelo zaseHollywood zokujongana nazo, kodwa ngaba ziphelile ngokwenene?
Ewe kunjalo, sonke siyazi ukuba ubudlelwane obusondeleyo abuhlali phantsi kwamehlo alambileyo aseHollywood bujamelana noxinzelelo oluqhubekayo. Uxinzelelo lomsebenzi, uxinzelelo lwemali, abantwana, eminye imisebenzi yokunika ukhathalelo, uxinzelelo lokuphucula imeko yakho kunye nenkcubeko ekhuthaza ukuzimela ngokugqithileyo ekuxhomekekeni, zizinto ezimbalwa nje zemiceli mngeni uninzi lwentsebenziswano olujongana nayo.
Apha ngezantsi, ndingathanda ukwabelana nabanye ngento endikholelwa ukuba zezinye zeentsomi ezimalunga nobuhlobo obusenyongweni endikholelwa ukuba abuloncedo ekwakheni ubudlelwane obuhlala buhleli, obanelisayo:
Inkolelo # 1:Ubambiswano olusondeleyo kwaye kufuneka lube mnandi.
Kuya kufuneka uzive ngathi uhlala kwi-sitcom eyakhiwe ngendlela yokuhleka 24/7.
Njengoko ndibhalela oku, ndihleli kwiikawusi zam ezingcolileyo kwiqabane lam ebhedini yethu. Imisebenzi ezizigidi zemihla ngemihla eyakha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo: ukuthumela umyalezo malunga nento oza kuyenzela isidlo sangokuhlwa, ukuthenga ivenkile, ukuba nengxoxo emfutshane engacacanga malunga nokuba ngubani oshiye inkunkuma ekhaphethini ukuze ishiye ibala, indawo yokuhlamba impahla, ulungele ukusebenza, uthathe ikhitshi Ngaphandle koko unokufumanisa ukuba kutheni unesifo se-moth ...
Ubugcisa bokwakha ubudlelwane mhlawumbi bufunda ukuxabisa ukuba ayibobu buhle, ngoko ke ixabiso lemihla ngemihla njengezicwili ezinxibelelana ezigcina umzimba wolwalamano kunye. Ayisiyonto intle kodwa zizinto zothando lokwenene. Ndingakucebisa ukuba uyeke ukuzicinezela ngokulindela okungekho ngqiqweni?
Intsomi # 2: Kuya kufuneka "usebenze" emtshatweni wakho.
Andazi ngawe, kodwa igama "umsebenzi" lenza ukuba ndifune ukubaleka ebhedini ndiphose izigqubuthelo phezu kwentloko yam. Ezinye izithetha-ntonye esinokuthi sizidibanise nomsebenzi zezi: ”ukubulaleka”, “ukusebenza”, “ukuzibhokoxa” kunye “nomsebenzi onzima” endiwuthandayo. Andazi ngawe, kodwa le mibutho ayindikhuthazi. Ukuba wakhe wathi komnye umntu, "Ndicinga ukuba kufuneka sisebenze kubudlelwane bethu", ndiyakrokrela ukuba unolwazi lokuba isebenze njani loo nto. Abanye abantu, ukuva loo magama okanye ukuwathetha kufana nokuxelelwa ukuba kufuneka ube nengcambu.
Inkolelo # 3: Awudingi ukuba ukhethe ngobuchule kubudlelwane bakho.
Kukho umbono kwinkcubeko yethu onokulufikelela uhlobo lomsebenzi / ubomi / ulungelelwano. Kwaye oku ndicinga ukuba kuyimbono efanelekileyo ukuba unamandla okwenza izigqibo ebomini bakho. Kodwa ukuba uku-99% yabantu, ishedyuli yakho igqitywe ngumphathi kwaye inxibelelene neeshedyuli zabanye ebomini bakho-abantwana, iqabane lakho, izalamane ... Kwakhona thatha uxinzelelo lwakho ukwenza into enomdla ubudlelwane obungekhoyo.
Endaweni yoko, cinga ngokwenza ukhetho olusengqiqweni, olunokufikelelwa kubudlelwane bakho. Umzekelo, ungayisebenzisa njani intetho yomzimba ukubonisa uthando kunye nokuthantamisa? Ke mhlawumbi emva kosuku loxinzelelo emsebenzini, endaweni yokumbombozela, unika iqabane lakho irabha emnene. I-Comic Tracy Morgan kwisiqendu se-View sithetha "ngamehlo" anothando anika umfazi wakhe nentombi. Mhlawumbi ukuthatha uhambo lwempelaveki yothando akunakufikeleleka, kodwa ungakhetha ukujonga iqabane lakho, lo mntu uluthando. Mhlawumbi awunakuba nawo “ubusuku bomhla”, kodwa ubukele umabonwakude onokuthi uqaqambise amanye amaxabiso ozama ukuwakhulisa kubudlelwane bakho. Yenza ubudlelwane bobudlelwane obusebenzela iimeko zakho ezizodwa.
Ndinqwenela uthando oluninzi bathandekayo!