Umxholo
- 1. Lithetha ukuthini igama elithi ‘isifungo’?
- 2. Kufuneka zenze ixesha elingakanani izifungo?
- 3. Zikhona iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokwenza izifungo zomtshato?
- 4. Ngubani ohamba kuqala - umtshakazi okanye umyeni?
- 5. Ungazibhala izifungo zakho zomtshato?
- 6. Athini amazwi ezithembiso zomtshato wesintu?
- 7.Baluleke ngantoni imisesane kwizifungo zomtshato?
- 9. Lithetha ntoni igama elithi 'umtshato ongcwele'?
- 10. Kutheni abanye abantu behlaziya izifungo zabo?
Ukuba wena kunye nesithandwa sakho nicinga ukuthatha izifungo zomtshato nangaliphi na ixesha kungekudala, unokuzibuza ngezinto ezimbalwa, kwaye unokuba nemibuzo engqondweni yakho. Ke eli nqaku liza kufuna ukuphendula imibuzo elishumi ebuzwa rhoqo malunga nezifungo zomtshato ngolu hlobo lulandelayo:
1. Lithetha ukuthini igama elithi ‘isifungo’?
Ngaphambi kokuba wenze naziphi na izibhambathiso, kulungile ukwazi ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukwenza olu hlobo lwesibhengezo. Ngokusisiseko, isifungo sisithembiso esinyanisekileyo nesibophelelayo esenziwa ngumntu, kwaye kwimeko yesifungo somtshato kulapho abantu ababini besenza izithembiso omnye komnye, phambi kwamangqina ukuze babe nokutshata ngokusemthethweni nangokwasemthethweni. Ezi zibhambathiso zihlala zenzeka ngexesha lomsitho ocwangcisiweyo ngakumbi ukulungiselela ukwenza nokutshintsha izifungo. Kuhle ukuba wazi kwaye uzilungiselele ngaphambi kokuba wenze isifungo, ngakumbi isifungo somtshato, kuba ayisiyiyo into onokuyirhoxisa ngokulula xa utshintsha ingqondo yakho emva koko.
2. Kufuneka zenze ixesha elingakanani izifungo?
Nangona ngokuqinisekileyo izifungo zomtshato zibalulekile kwaye zinzima, akuyomfuneko ukuba zibe nde. Ngapha koko, malunga nemizuzu emibini umntu ngamnye uhlala enele ukwenza ezona ngongoma zibalulekileyo ngokuchanekileyo, ngaphandle kokutsala uqhubeke. Khumbula ukuba izibhambathiso zichanile kwaye zinzulu izithembiso, ngelixa kuya kubakho ixesha leentetho ezinde kumbhiyozo wolwamkelo emva komsitho.
3. Zikhona iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokwenza izifungo zomtshato?
Indlela okhetha ukuzenza ngayo izifungo zakho zomtshato ngumcimbi wobuqu oya kuthi uthathe isigqibo ngawo. Ngokusisiseko zintathu izinto ezinokukhethwa sisibini, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukudityaniswa kweendlela ezimbini okanye ezingaphezulu zisetyenziswa. Okokuqala, unokufuna ukuqamba okanye ukhethe owakho isibhambathiso kwaye emva koko uzifunde okanye uzithethe. Okwesibini ungafuna ukuba umntu osebenza naye athethe izifungo kuqala, ibinzana ngebinzana ngelixa uziphinda. Okwesithathu, unokukhetha apho umphathi wakho abuza imibuzo kwaye uphendule ngokuthi 'ndiyakwenza'.
4. Ngubani ohamba kuqala - umtshakazi okanye umyeni?
Kwimisitho yomtshato wesintu, umyeni wayedla ngokuthetha kuqala ngezifungo zakhe emva koko kulandele umtshakazi.Ngamanye amaxesha isibini sinokukhetha ukuvumelana ngezifungo zazo. Amaxesha amaninzi izithembiso ziya kuthethwa xa isibini sijongana kwaye sibambe izandla, sijongane emehlweni njengoko bethetha ngokunyanisekileyo nangesizathu izithembiso ezinzulu abazenzayo omnye komnye.
5. Ungazibhala izifungo zakho zomtshato?
Ewe, izibini ezininzi zikhetha ukubhala izifungo zazo, ngakumbi ukuba zivakalelwa kukuba zingathanda ukubonakalisa uthando lwazo omnye komnye ngendlela eyenzelwe bona. Kungayinto entle ukuba uthathe amagama ezifungo zesiko kwaye uzilungelelanise ngandlela ithile ukuze zilungele ubuntu bakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho, ngaloo ndlela ugcine isiseko sihleli kodwa usenze esakho ngexesha elinye. Okanye ungathanda ukwazisa kwaye wenze into eyahluke ngokupheleleyo neyakho. Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, hlala ukhumbula ukuba lusuku lwakho kunye nomtshato wakho ukuze ukhethe ukwenza nantoni na ekwenza uzive ukhululekile.
6. Athini amazwi ezithembiso zomtshato wesintu?
Amazwi azanyisiweyo nathembekileyo kwizifungo zomtshato wesintu zezi zilandelayo:
"Ndi .........., ndikuthabatha ... Okubi kakhulu, ukuba sisityebi okanye sihlwempuzeke, sigula kwaye sisempilweni, ukuthanda nokugcina, de kube sekufeni, kwaye ndiyazibophelela kuwe. ”
7.Baluleke ngantoni imisesane kwizifungo zomtshato?
Emva kokuba izibhambathiso zithethiwe, kuqhelekile kwezinye iinkcubeko ukuba isibini sitshintshisane ngamakhonkco njengophawu okanye uphawu lomnqophiso abawenzileyo nomnye. Iringi ngokwesiko imela unaphakade njengesangqa esingenasiqalo nasiphelo. Kumazwe asentshona, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukunxiba iringi yomtshato kumnwe wesine wesandla sasekhohlo. Xa le nto yayiqala ukwenziwa, bekukholelwa ukuba kukho umthambo othile, obizwa ngokuba yi-vena amoris, obaleka usuka ngqo kumnwe wesine uye entliziyweni. Kwezinye iinkcubeko iringi yothethathethwano ikwanxitywa, okanye iringi yangaphambi kokubandakanya ethi ngamanye amaxesha ibizwe ngokuba ngumsesane wesithembiso.
8. Sithini isibhengezo somtshato?
Xa umtshakazi nomyeni begqibile ukwenza izifungo zomtshato umbingeleli okanye umntu oza kwenza umtshato baya kwenza isimemezelo somtshato esiya kuhamba ngoluhlobo:
“Ngoku ekubeni ........... (uMtshakazi) kunye ... ukunikwa nokwamkelwa kwamakhonkco, ndibhengeza ukuba bayindoda nomfazi, eGameni loYise neloNyana nelikaMoya oyiNgcwele. ”
9. Lithetha ntoni igama elithi 'umtshato ongcwele'?
"Umtshato Ongcwele" lelinye igama okanye igama elisetyenziselwa umtshato, kwaye ibhekisa kwinto yokuba umtshato wawumiselwe kwaye wamiselwa nguThixo njengobudlelwane bobomi phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Umtshato (okanye umtshato oyingcwele) sisipho esivela kuThixo kwaye lolona lwalamano lusondeleyo nolungcwele lwabantu olunokwenzeka phakathi kwabantu ababini.
10. Kutheni abanye abantu behlaziya izifungo zabo?
Ukuhlaziywa kwezifungo zomtshato yinto eyaziwayo kwamanye amazwe nakwiinkcubeko kwaye zinokubakho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zokwenza oku. Ngokusisiseko kukubhiyozela umtshato emva kweminyaka eliqela sikunye - mhlawumbi ishumi, amashumi amabini, amashumi amabini anesihlanu okanye ngaphezulu. Esi sibini sinoluvo lokuba singathanda ukuqokelela izihlobo kunye nosapho kunye kwaye siphinde siziqinise okanye sizibeke esidlangalaleni. Oku kunokuza emva kokusinda kwisiqwengana esibi kubudlelwane babo, okanye njengengxelo yombulelo kunye nokubhiyozela ubudlelwane obuhle ababonwabileyo kunye.