Ke usandul 'ukuba nosana- Siyavuyisana nawe! Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo uyothuswa kukumangaliswa okupheleleyo kunye nokonwaba kwalomntu mtsha kraca uvele emhlabeni, kwaye ngakumbi kwilizwe lakho.Mhlawumbi iingcinga zakho phambi kokuba kuzalwe umntwana wakho zazikwindawo ethi, “Into encinci enjalo ayinakuba nzima ukuyikhathalela ... ukuba "usana lwakho oluncinci" luthathe ubomi bakho, umzuzu ngamnye wemihla - nasebusuku!
Ukuba nomntwana kufuna uhlengahlengiso olukhulu emtshatweni wakho, nokuba awukulungelanga na utshintsho. Olu tshintsho lungahluka kwizibini ezahlukeneyo, kuxhomekeka kubuntu bakho nakwiimeko zakho. Enye yeendawo eziza kuchaphazeleka ngokuqinisekileyo bubomi bakho bothando. Ukuze ugcine umtshato wakho uqinile kwaye ubomi bakho bothando buqhuba kakuhle emva kokuba umntwana efikile, kuya kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo ayimfihlo kwicala elifanelekileyo.
Apha ngezantsi kukho la manyathelo asixhenxe kunye neengcebiso ezinokukunceda usukele kwinjongo yokugcina uthando lwakho luphila kwaye usengabathandi ngelixa ukhulisa abantwana bakho.
1. Beka ubudlelwane bakho kwindawo yokuqala
Xa ubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho yeyona nto iphambili kuwe uya kuba usendleleni eya ekunikezeni umntwana wakho esona sipho sibalaseleyo abazali abanokuze babanike abantwana babo: umzekelo obonwayo wobudlelwane obunothando. Imfuno kunye nemiceli mngeni yokunyamekela usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa ngokulula inokukuphazamisa oku kuqala kwaye ungafumanisa ukuba ubudlelwane bakho njengesibini butshintshelwe ecaleni njengoko ujolisa ingqalelo yakho emntwaneni. Khumbula, nobabini benikunye ngaphambi kokuba abantwana bafike kwaye ngenye imini abo bantwana baya kubhabha baphume kwindlwane emva koko ibe nguwe kwakhona. Ke yenza inqaku lokubeka omnye komnye kuqala kwaye ugcine uthando lwakho luphila ixesha elide.
2. Yenza inkcazo yakho ngokusondelelana kwakhona
Kwiiveki ezimbalwa zokuqala emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe ubungakanani bolwalamano lwakho lunokuba nokugoba esofeni kunye nokubamba izandla, nosana emathangeni akho! Oku kunokuba yinto enxunguphalisa ngakumbi kulwalamano oluphosakeleyo ngesondo esiqhelekileyo obukade unalo ngaphambili. Amadoda anceda abafazi bawo ngokwenza imisebenzi esebenzayo, yokufuna ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nokuchitha ixesha lokuba ngumzali kuya kunika abo babathandayo ithuba elingcono lokuchacha kwaye babe namandla angakumbi okufumana imood. Izinto ezinjengokuhlamba iimpahla, ukuhlamba izitya, ukuhlamba umntwana nokutshintsha amanabukeni kunokuba yinto esebenzayo kakhulu.
3. Funda ukusebenzisa amathuba azenzekelayo
Yekani ukucinga ukuba kufuneka ninokuqina okungaphazanyiswanga iiyure ezimbini kunye xa imizuzu engamashumi amabini inokuba yiyo yonke onokuyifumana. Funda ukusebenzisa la mathuba 'egolide' ngokungacwangciswanga njengoko beziveza. Mhlawumbi usana luye nje laya kulala kancinci kwaye nobabini ninokonwabela ukonwatyiswa kukonwaba. Njengokuba abantwana bekhula kuya kubakho amaxesha apho unokukwazi ukuhlala wedwa kunye. Khumbula, ukuzithemba kugcina ukukhanya okuqaqambileyo kunye nokudlala kongeza ulonwabo kubomi bakho bothando.
4. Xhoma uphawu oluthi 'Ungaphazamisi'
Njengokuba abantwana bakho bekhula bafundise ukuba ngamanye amaxesha uMama noTata badinga ixesha lokuba bodwa xa uphawu oluthi 'Ungaphazamisi' lusemnyango. Baza kufunda ukuhlonipha nokuncoma ubudlelwane bakho bothando njengoko bekubona ubazisa kwaye ubeka phambili ixesha lakho nodwa.
5. Ishedyuli
Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokucwangcisa ixesha elisondeleyo kunye kwikhalenda yakho. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ucwangcisa yonke enye into, kutheni le nto ingeyiyo yonke le nto ibalulekileyo kubomi bakho kunye? Ukufumana abalondolozi babantwana abalungileyo kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo abanokukhathalela abantwana iiyure ezimbalwa banokwenza imimangaliso yokugcina uthando lwakho luphila. Cwangcisa usuku lomhla ngeveki, kunye neendlela eziqhelekileyo zeempelaveki qho kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ukuze ube nexesha elihle kunye. Ngale ndlela ninokondla umanyano phakathi kwenu nobabini kwaye khumbula ukuba ungaphezu kwabazali nje.
6. Thetha ngezinye izihloko ngaphandle kwabantwana bakho
Yenza ixesha lokuba nencoko enentsingiselo kunye neqabane lakho yonke imihla. Ukuthetha yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokugcina uthando lwakho luphila kwaye luphilile. Zama ukuthetha ngezinye izinto ezinomdla kunokuba uthethe ngabantwana bakho ngalo lonke ixesha. Ukuba nobabini niyakonwabela ukufunda, thethani ngencwadi yenu yamvanje, okanye iimuvi. Kwaye ungalibali ukucinga ngekamva lakho kunye nokuphupha ngezinto onokuthi usafuna ukuzenza kunye.
7. Ungalibali ukuhleka kunye
Akukho nto ifana nokuhlekisa nokuhleka ukugcina ubomi bakho bothando buphila kwaye kukusondeza komnye nomnye. Sukuvumela uxinzelelo kunye nemiceli mngeni yokuba ngumzali ukuba ikuthintele uvuyo lwakho. Njengoko ujonge umntwana wakho omncinci, wonwabele la maxesha ahlekisayo kwaye uthathe iifoto ezininzi kuba ngaphambi kokuba wazi ukuba baya kuba besakhula ukuya kwisikolo sabantwana abaphambili, kwaye emva koko bekholeji! Qasha umdlalo ohlekisayo wena kunye neqabane lakho ukuba nibukele kunye amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuba uziva ufuna ukonwabisa ngentliziyo encinci ukukhulisa imimoya yakho. Khangela iindlela zokuhlekisana, kwaye nabelane ngazo naziphi na iziqhulo kunye noburharha ohlangana nabo imini yonke xa nithe nahlukana.
Khumbula, ukuba nosana lolona vavanyo lukhulu emtshatweni wakho kwaye ubomi bakho bothando buya kujongana. Njengoko usenza ngempumelelo uhlengahlengiso kunye kwaye unyamezele kwilungelo elikhulu lokuba ngumzali womntwana wakho oxabisekileyo uqinisekile ukuba uphumelele olu vavanyo kwaye ugcine ubomi bakho buphila emva kokuba abantwana befika.