Umxholo
- Buyintoni ukusondelelana?
- Zintathu izinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka zilandelwe
- Umsebenzi wokuqala ziimvakalelo
- Umsebenzi wesibini yindumiso
- Umsebenzi wokugqibela ngumthandazo
Makhe sithethe ngendlela onokukhulisa ngayo ubudlelwane bakho ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba uhlala kubudlelwane bexesha elide okanye umtshato, unganokwenyani. Masichaze ukusondelelana okomzuzwana. Inkcazo yeklasikhi, "Kwam ukubona," yinto entle kakhulu. Ngokwenyani kuthetha ukudibanisa iintliziyo zakho kunye, ukukwazi ukumamela kwaye uve iintliziyo zomnye nomnye. Obo bubuhlobo bokwenene xa unolohlobo lobuhlobo. Ndatshata umhlobo wam osenyongweni uLisa. Sineminyaka engamashumi amathathu ananye sitshatile. Ungoyena mhlobo wam usenyongweni. Uyayiva intliziyo yam. Ndiyayiva intliziyo yakhe. Asisoloko sivuma kodwa siyavuma ukuva kwaye sakuba sive, senza izinto zomelele kwaye zibengcono. Sinezixhobo esizisebenzisileyo ngaphezulu kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu yonke imihla endiza kwabelana nawe.
Buyintoni ukusondelelana?
Ukusondelelana sisiphumo. Ayizi kuba umhle. Ayibi ngenxa yokuba umhle, uphumelele ngokwezemali, okanye ulusu. Unokuba zonke ezo zinto zininzi kwaye ungabinabudlelwane emtshatweni wakho, kuba ukusondelelana sisiphumo senkqubo eyaziwayo yoqeqesho. Kwinkcubeko yaseNtshona, sithanda ukuba izinto zenziwe kwangoko. Sifuna ukutyhala iqhosha kwaye ulibhityile. Sifuna ukutyhala iqhosha kwaye sibe zizityebi. Nanini na xa ufuna ukwenza utshintsho ebomini bakho, utshintsha uqeqesho lwakho.
Awuyi kulifumana utshintsho ngaphandle kokuba utshintshe. Ukuba uqhubeka usenza izinto ezifanayo, uza kuhlala ufumana iziphumo ezifanayo. Ezi zinto ziyaziwa nguwe. Ndiyazi xa ndifuna utshintsho kufuneka ndijonge ukuba zeziphi iindlela endifuna ukuzamkela ukuze ndifumane iziphumo zolo tshintsho. Ukuba ndifuna impilo, kufuneka nditshintshe izinto. Ukuba ndifuna ukusondelelana emtshatweni wam, okanye ubudlelwane bexesha elide, kufuneka ndibe noqeqesho olwenza ezo ziphumo.
Zintathu izinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka zilandelwe
Ukuba wenza ezi daili zintathu, ndiyakuqinisekisa, nakwiiveki ezimbalwa ezizayo, uya kuziva usondele kwiqabane lakho. Uya kulithanda ngcono iqabane lakho kwaye uya kuziva unxibelelana ngakumbi. Ndiyakuqinisekisa oku kuba ndinabantu abathandanayo abangazange babelane ngesondo kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini, kwaye emva kweeveki nje besenza ezi zinto zintathu, babethandana ngokwaneleyo ukuba babelane ngesondo. Iluguqula ngokwenyani ulwalamano lwakho, kodwa ngumsebenzi, WORK. Ukuba uzimisele ukwenza lo msebenzi, unokufumana iziphumo. Bhala phantsi kwenye indawo. Zenzele uxanduva lokuphendula kwikhalenda yonke imihla. Mhlawumbi zinike isiphumo ukuba awuyilandeli. Mhlawumbi wenze i-push-ups okanye olunye uhlobo lwesiphumo esincinci ukuze uqale ukufumana ezi ngqeqesho emtshatweni nakubudlelwane bakho, kuba imitshato emininzi isekwe ngokwasemphefumlweni. Abantu abatshatanga abangaqeqeshwanga ngeendlela abanxibelelana ngazo kwaye ngenxa yoko, banobudlelwane obungenasidima kunye nobudlelwane obunempilo obuncinci.
Umsebenzi wokuqala ziimvakalelo
Ukuchonga nokuthetha ngeemvakalelo sisakhono. Izakhono zinokufundwa nangubani na. Ndingangqina ngoko buqu kunye nakubani na. Ndizibonile izibini ezininzi ezikhule ngesakhono sokuchonga kunye nokuthetha ngeemvakalelo zazo.
Ngokubhekisele kuLuhlu lweemvakalelo esingakuthumela lona, phezulu ephepheni kukho izikhokelo ezintathu ekufuneka uzilandele. Inombolo yokuqala ngu akukho mizekelo malunga nomnye. Ke xa usabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho, awuthi, "Ndiziva ndikhathazekile xa u ..." Ungaziva udanile ngabantwana, izinja, izaphuli-mthetho, ezopolitiko, imingxunya, nantoni na ebomini bakho ngaphandle kweqabane lakho. Inani lesibini, mjonge emehlweni, ibaluleke ngokwenene. Abantu abaninzi abasaphinde bajongane emehlweni. Inani lesithathu—akukho mpendulo. Ke awusatsho ukuthi, “Hayi, andiqondi. Andiyifumani. Yimba nzulu, undixelele ngakumbi. ” Akukho nokuba ibe nye — ukuva nje omnye umntu ekwabelana ngemvakalelo.
Ngokungahleliyo beka umnwe wakho kuluhlu lweemvakalelo. Boom. Kulungile, uwele phantsi "kuzolile." Ngoku kukho izivakalisi ezibini ephepheni lakho, "Ndiziva ndizolile xa ... ndiqala ukukhumbula ndiziva ndizolile xa ..."
Wenza lo msebenzi ngokuchanekileyo ngale ndlela kwiintsuku ezingama-90. Emva koko, yenza nje iimvakalelo ezimbini kusuku lwakho, kodwa kuthatha malunga neentsuku ezingama-90 ukuze ufunde ngokwasemoyeni. Ukuba ufuna ukukhawulezisa oko, incwadi "yokomelela komzimba" inokukunceda ukukhawulezisa ukukhula kweemvakalelo.
Umsebenzi wesibini yindumiso
Cinga ngezinto ezimbini ozithandayo, okanye ozithandayo ngeqabane lakho. Bafake entlokweni yakho. Lo uthanda iping pong. Wenza enye, iqabane lakho lenza enye, wena wenze enye, kwaye iqabane lakho lenze enye. Umzekelo, "Ndiyithanda kakhulu into yokuba niyile ngendlela enisombulule ngayo ingxaki." Emva koko kufuneka athi enkosi. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Kuya kufuneka uthi enkosi ukuvumela indumiso ukuba ingene. Abantu abaninzi bayanconywa kodwa abayivumeli ukuba ingene, ke iakhawunti yabo ihlala isasilela kuba bengayivumeli imali kwiakhawunti.Xa umntu edumisa, omnye umntu kufuneka athi enkosi.
Umsebenzi wokugqibela ngumthandazo
Nokuba injani imvelaphi yakho yokomoya, zibandakanye kuloo nto. Ukuba awunayo, yithi, “Thixo, kufanelekile ukuba sithandaze. Ndiyabulela kakhulu namhlanje. Enkosi ngomfazi wam. Ndiyabulela ngosapho lwam. ” Kwanele, ufuna ukungena kuhlobo oluthile lonxibelelwano lokomoya kuba unomoya kwaye nangona kunjalo uyayibonisa loo nto okanye amava, ufuna ukuwafumana kunye. Ndiyakwazi ukukuxelela ezi zinto zintathu zokuzilolonga: iimvakalelo ezimbini, iindumiso ezimbini, kunye nomthandazo, ukucamngca (Unxibelelwano, uhlobo oluthile lonxibelelwano lokomoya) yonke imihla iba luqeqesho. Yonke imihla, wena neqabane lakho niza kucwangcisa iimvakalelo zakho. Uya kuva iqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho njengomntu okhuselekileyo. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, uqala ukwenza ngokubanzi, “Umlingane wam ukhuselekile. Ndingabelana nentliziyo yam neqabane lam. ”
Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba uqale usondela usondele kwaye usondele kwaye usondele. Into entle malunga noku emva kweentsuku ezingamashumi alithoba ungabeka uluhlu lweemvakalelo kude. Mna noLisa besisabelana ngeemvakalelo ezimbini ukusukela kwimini yethu yonke imihla. Siyazana ngokwenene kwaye sihlala ngokwenene sihlobo kuba abahlobo babelana ngeemvakalelo.