Umxholo
- 1. Ilizwi lakho malivakale kwaye ungoyiki ukuthetha
- 2. Phanda uze ufumane iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo
- 3. Lwamkele uncedo kumgqirha wakho
- 4. Ukuba uyathandabuza ukuba lonyango luhamba njani, thetha
- 5. Lungela ukuba nejenali yakho
- 1. Thetha malunga nokuba kutheni ukhethe ukunyanga
- 2. Vula malunga nolindelo lwakho ngexesha leeseshoni zonyango
- 3. Nyaniseka ngexesha leseshoni yonyango
- 4. Thetha ngokuphandle ngeengxaki zakho zomtshato
- 5. Yiba nakho ukuthetha ngezinto ozoyikayo
- 6. Vula iingcinga onazo
- 7. Thetha ngamaphupha akho
- Iingcebiso zokukunceda uvule kunye nonyango lwakho
- 1. Khululeka
- 2. Yakha ukuthembana
- 3. Vulela utshintsho
- Ukubhalisela unyango lomtshato ngokuqinisekileyo kuyathandeka
Xa sisiva igama elithi unyango, yintoni ethi qatha engqondweni yakho? Ngaba ucinga ngomntu onesifo sokudakumba okanye naluphi na uhlobo lokuphazamiseka kubuntu?
Kukho nezimvo ezinje-ngaba banengxaki zomtshato kwaye ekugqibeleni ziya kukhokelela kuqhawulo mtshato? Unyango ngokuqinisekileyo aluqondwa kakuhle.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, unyango lunokuziva lungaqhelekanga ekuqaleni kodwa ungakhathazeki, awuzukufumana hypnotised xa ukhetha ukufuna uncedo lonyango. Into oza kuyithetha ngonyango ngamanye amaxesha inokuba yimfihlakalo kwabanye, kodwa enyanisweni, nguwe kunye nengcali ethetha ngawo nawuphi na umba ocinga ukuba ubalulekile ukusonjululwa okanye ukwamkelwa.
Yintoni ekufuneka uyikhumbule xa usiya kunyangi
Xa uthatha isigqibo sokufuna uncedo kwiingcali, kuya kufuneka unombono wento ongena kuyo. Oku ayikukoyikisi kodwa kunoko kukulungiselela ukuba ungalindeli iinjongo ezingekho ngqiqweni.
Nazi ezinye zezinto ekufuneka uzikhumbule xa ubona ugqirha.
1. Ilizwi lakho malivakale kwaye ungoyiki ukuthetha
Abanye abathengi bayathandabuza kwiiseshoni zabo ngakumbi xa beqaphela ukuba konke abakwenzayo kukuthetha ngeziqu zabo. Kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba i-Therapist ikhona ukumamela kwaye ngumsebenzi wakho ukuba uhlale ngokukhululekileyo kwaye uvuleke malunga nokuxoxa ngayo yonke into malunga nawe.
Ungaziva ungonwabanga kwiiseshoni zakho zonyango. Vula kwaye uthembele.
2. Phanda uze ufumane iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo
Sebenzisa i-intanethi ukuze ukwazi ukufumana olona nyango lubalaseleyo kuwe. Ngale ndlela, ufumana isiqinisekiso sokuba ukhethe umntu olungileyo oza kukunceda.
3. Lwamkele uncedo kumgqirha wakho
Enye yeengxaki ezinkulu zokuba kutheni ezinye iiseshoni zonyango zingasebenzi kukuba umthengi akazimiselanga ukusebenzisana nomcebisi. Abanye abantu banengxaki yokwamkela iingcebiso kunye noncedo oluvela kwabanye abantu.
Khumbula, ungalindela njani utshintsho kwimeko yakho yangoku ukuba awuzimiselanga ukuzitshintsha?
4. Ukuba uyathandabuza ukuba lonyango luhamba njani, thetha
Nantoni na onokucinga ukuba iya kuchaphazela unyango lwakho lulwazi olubalulekileyo. Thetha into oza kuyithetha.
5. Lungela ukuba nejenali yakho
Ngamanye amaxesha, sihlala sikhumbula izinto esifuna ukuvula kodwa sizilibale xa sele sikwiseshoni. Qala incwadana uze ubhale amanqaku akho abalulekileyo.
Imixholo kufuneka uvule
Xa ukhetha ukufumana unyango okanye iingcebiso, kunokuthandabuza ngakumbi ukuba lixesha lokuqala. Rhoqo kunokuba kungenjalo, asiqinisekanga kwaphela ngento esinokuyithetha kunyango, ke ukukunika umbono, Nazi ezinye zezinto onokuzivula
1. Thetha malunga nokuba kutheni ukhethe ukunyanga
Ngaba yayingumbono wakho okanye wawucetyiswa liqabane lakho. Musa ukoyika ukuqala incoko kwaye uthethe inyani malunga nezizathu zokuba kutheni ukhethe ukufuna uncedo.
2. Vula malunga nolindelo lwakho ngexesha leeseshoni zonyango
Vulelekile malunga nolindelo lwakho ngakumbi xa unyango lumalunga nomtshato okanye iingxaki zosapho.
Iseshoni yokuqala yonyango lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuqalisa le ncoko. Le yeyona ndawo intle yokuba wena neqabane lakho niqale ukwabelana ngokoyika malunga nomtshato wakho okanye nobuntu bakho.
3. Nyaniseka ngexesha leseshoni yonyango
Ukunyaniseka kwasekuqaleni kweseshoni yonyango kuya kukunceda kakhulu wena kunye nonyango lwakho ekwakheni ubudlelwane bokuthembana.
Ukuba unemiba malunga nokuba intuthuzelo iqhubeka njani, thetha ngayo.
4. Thetha ngokuphandle ngeengxaki zakho zomtshato
Ukuba unyango lulungiselelwe umtshato wakho, vuleleka kuzo zonke iingxaki zakho zomtshato.
Umgqirha wakho akakho ukugweba wena okanye iqabane lakho. I-Therapist ikhona ukunceda nokumamela. Ukuba awuphumi apha, ungancedwa njani?
5. Yiba nakho ukuthetha ngezinto ozoyikayo
Ungacingi ukuba ukuvuma uloyiko luphawu lobuthathaka. Unyango, zonke iimfihlo zakho zikhuselekile kwaye uyakhuthazwa ukuba uzikhuphe zonke.
Lo ngumzuzu ofanelekileyo wokunyaniseka kuwe.
6. Vula iingcinga onazo
Kukho iimeko apho esinye sezibini esiya kunyango somtshato siya kuvuma ukuba sinobudlelwane obungaphandle komtshato okanye iingcinga malunga noko ubuncinci.
Oku kunokubonakala njengesityhilelo esikhulu kodwa yindlela yokulungisa ubudlelwane ngoncedo lwegqirha.
7. Thetha ngamaphupha akho
Abanye banokucinga ukuba iiseshoni zonyango ziphela malunga neengxaki kunye nemicimbi, akunjalo.
Abaxhasi bayangena kwaye bathethe ngezicwangciso zabo zexesha elizayo kunye namaphupha kwaye yinto eyonyusa inkuthazo yabo.
Iingcebiso zokukunceda uvule kunye nonyango lwakho
Ngoku ukuba uqhelene nezihloko onokuzivula nonyango lwakho, lixesha lokujongana nesinye sezona zizathu zixhaphakileyo zeeseshoni zonyango ezingaphumelelanga, ezingakwaziyo ukuvula ngokupheleleyo.
Kweminye, oku kungangena njengomsebenzi olula kakhulu kodwa kwabanye, yinto enkulu.
Ke uqala njani ukuvula ugqirha wakho?
1. Khululeka
Ngelixa kulula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe, akunakwenzeka. Jonga ugqirha wakho njengomhlobo wakho osenyongweni, usapho lwakho kunye nengcali eya kuthi incede.
Khumbula, abayi kukugweba.
2. Yakha ukuthembana
Kulungile ukuvavanya amanzi kwiiyure ezimbalwa zokuqala zonyango kodwa ufunde ukuthembela.
Vumela ukuba uvule kwaye uthethe ngaphandle kokukhathazeka malunga neemfihlo zakho ezityhilwe eluntwini kuba akunakwenzeka.
Iingcali zonyango ziingcali kwaye ngekhe zichaze naluphi na ulwazi lwabaxhasi bazo.
Ungalindela njani ukuba ugqirha wakho athembe into obaxelela yona ukuba awukwazi ukubathemba ukuba bakuncede?
3. Vulela utshintsho
Ukuya kwiiseshoni zonyango kuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka uvuleleke utshintsho.
Ngaphandle kokuzibophelela, akukho lunyango luya kusebenza, nokuba ulunge kangakanani ugqirha wakho. Ukuba ngenene ufuna izinto zitshintshe, qala ngokwakho.
Ukubhalisela unyango lomtshato ngokuqinisekileyo kuyathandeka
Ukukhetha ukubhalisa kunyango kunokuba yenye yezona zinto zintle umntu anokuzenza ngakumbi xa kubandakanya ukusombulula umtshato kunye nemicimbi yobuqu.
Into oza kuyithetha ngonyango ixhomekeke kuwe. Ubumba unyango kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe, ugqirha wakho uya kukukhokelela kwindlela efanelekileyo yokusombulula ukungavisisani kwakho.
Ke, ukuba ucinga ukuba ufuna isikhokelo, mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka uqale ngokukhangela olona nyango lubalaseleyo kwindawo yakho.