Umxholo
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo sesinye sezifundo ezibuthathaka kunye namava afanayo ayingozi anokuvela ngexesha lokunyanga kwengqondo. Kuqheleke kakhulu ukuba sikhokelwe ukuba sicinge. Kwaye iimpembelelo zayo zihlala ixesha elide, zihlala ziphawula ubukho bomntu.
Asingekhe sihloniphe amaxhoba ukuba besinokubanga ngenye indlela. Nangona kunjalo, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo nako kungaguqulwa kukhule buqu kwaye kukhokelele ekubeni ixhoba lomelele kunangaphambili.
Yintoni edla ngokwenzeka ngaphandle
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kuhlala kungachazwa. Sinokuqikelela kuphela ukuba iqheleke kangakanani. Ngokwabanye, lininzi elinye lamantombazana amane kunye nelinye kumakhwenkwe amathandathu aphantsi koxhatshazo ngokwesondo ngaphambi kokuba abe neminyaka eli-18, kwaye yi-6-8% kuphela yezi zehlo eza kuxelwa. Kwaye xa umntwana oxhatshaziweyo ekhulile kwaye ethatha isigqibo sokubalisa ibali labo kungajongwanga neziphumo ezinokubakho, ummiselo wokulinganiselwa uqinisekisa ikakhulu ukuba ulwaphulo-mthetho aluhlwaywanga. Oko ixhoba lishiyeke nako kukuhlaziswa, ukungakholelwa, amagqabantshintshi angenangqondo kunye nemvakalelo yokukhuthuzwa ebuntwaneni babo nakwezomthetho ngokunjalo.
Nokuba lungaqondwa njani uluntu lwethu lwale mihla lwaseNtshona ngamanye amaxesha, amaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala ngokwesondo ahlala evuselelwa umzuzu abaya kuwo malunga nokuxhatshazwa. Ngelishwa, ukubhengeza ukuba ulixhoba lomonzakalo wokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kunokubangela uthotho lweempendulo ezigwenxa kwindawo ekuhlaleni.
Impendulo isusela ekunciphiseni ubuzaza bomothuko, ngaphezulu kokuthandabuza ubunyani bebali, ukuya ekusoleni ixhoba. Ayisiyiyo into yokuba indawo ekufutshane nexhoba isabele kakubi kwaye ibangele ingozi kulowo usindileyo onesibindi. Umntu usenokuweva la magama athi “(s) ngokuqinisekileyo wamcaphukisa ngandlela thile” xa abantu besiva ngexhoba eliphumayo.
Kwenzeka ntoni kulowo usindileyo ngaphakathi
La mava asabela kuluntu ekuxeleni ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kuyahlangana kumlo wangaphakathi wexhoba. Xa sele umdala, ixhoba lokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo ebuntwaneni, ngokufana nabo bahamba kolu sana kwiminyaka yabo edlulileyo, uhlala eza kubona ugqirha weengxaki ezahlukeneyo zengqondo ngaphandle koxhatshazo ngokwalo.
Ixhoba lihlala linengxaki yeemvakalelo kubo bonke ubomi babo. Nokuba luxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, okanye ukudityaniswa kokubini, kunqabile ukuba umntu afumane ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kwaye angaze abe neengxaki zolu hlobo. Kuqheleke kakhulu ukuba ixhoba liye kumaxesha okulutha, ukuphazamiseka kwindlela yokutya, ukuzenzakalisa. Ngamafutshane, iziphumo zoxhatshazo ngokwesondo azibonakali ziphela xa ukuxhatshazwa kukodwa kuyekile. Endaweni yoko, bayanyamezela, batshintshe iifom, kwaye bathuthumbise ixhoba de ingxaki isonjululwe.
Ixhoba lokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo lifumana indlela yokungcwaba ukukhumbula komothuko. Nangona kunjalo, umthwalo onamandla ngolo hlobo awunakugcinwa engqondweni kabani ngokupheleleyo, kwaye uthambekele ekufumaneni indlela yokuya kwixhoba. Ixhoba lokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kufuneka lijongane neenkumbulo ezingathandekiyo, amaphupha amabi, kunye nokufika kwexesha elibi ebomini babo ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye ayimangalisi into yokuba beziva benomdla wokufuna iindlela zokuphelisa ingqondo.
Ukuqala kokuphilisa
Ukuphela kwendlela yokuphilisa, nangona kunjalo, kuqala ngokubiza yonke loo mifanekiso ibuhlungu neyoyikisayo, amavumba, izandi kunye neengcinga ezibuyela engqondweni yomntu. Yiyo loo nto uninzi lwamaxhoba lunqabile ukuqala ngenkqubo. Bachitha ixesha elininzi lobomi babo bezama ukulahla ezi nkumbulo, ngubani onokufuna ukuphinda aphile kwakhona?
Nangona kunjalo, nje ukuba ixhoba liqokelele amandla alo lize lithathe isigqibo sokuwulungisa lo monakalo, ngokukhethekileyo ngoncedo oluthile lobuchwephesha kunye nenkxaso kwezentlalo, okulandelayo kukungunda kweemvakalelo ezinamandla, amadabi amatsha kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukuba aphile kwaye aphile. Unyango luqala ngesixa esikhulu samalungiselelo, sokuzithemba, ukukhulisa kunye nophuhliso lwezakhono zokujamelana.
Ixhoba kufuneka ngoko lijongane nomxhaphazi. Kuxhomekeka kwimeko nganye, oku kwenziwa ngokuthe ngqo xa kunokwenzeka, okanye ngokungathanga ngqo, ngeeseshoni zonyango apho ixhoba "lithetha" nomxhaphazi ongekhoyo kwaye livakalise iimvakalelo neengcinga zalo. Eli nyathelo likwesinye sezizathu zokuba ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwesondo kuhlala kuhlala kufihlakele kwindawo ebonakalayo, njengoko ukujongana nomxhaphazi yeyona nto yoyikisayo kuninzi lwamaxhoba oxhatshazo ngokwesondo.
Nangona kunjalo, nje ukuba ixhoba ligqibe kwelokuba lithethe phandle, nangona ukungalandeli kweempendulo ezingonelanga ezivela kwindawo ebangqongileyo kunokulandela, kwaye iziqendu zokungazithembi kunye nokuzisola zinokwenzeka, bakwindlela ekhuselekileyo eya ekukhululekeni nasekunyangekeni.