Umxholo
Baninzi abasetyhini abaza kubona umcebisi, bebuza: "Ungangumfazi ongcono kanjani kumyeni wam". Siphila kwixesha apho sityhafiswa kulwandle lolwazi kunye neengcebiso. Kubonakala ngathi bekufanele ukuba kube lula kunangaphambili ukufumana naluphi na uhlobo lwenkxaso kunye nesikhokelo esisifunayo. Kodwa ayisiyiyo. Kukho ulwazi oluninzi kakhulu phaya. Eli nqaku liza kushwankathela iimpendulo eziphambili kumbuzo ongunaphakade wokuba ungoyena mlingane ungcono okanye ungcono.
Nyaniseka - Phantsi kwayo nayiphi na imeko
Zininzi iingxoxo malunga nokukwazi kwabasetyhini ukunyaniseka ngokupheleleyo. Zininzi izafilosofi ezazisithi abafazi banendlela eyahlukileyo yokubona inyani kwaye, ngokwembono yendoda, abanako ukuba bavuleke kwaye bathethe phandle. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba oku kungenxa yokuba abafazi baziva bebuthathaka emzimbeni xa kuthelekiswa namadoda kwaye ke ngokungazi beziva ukuba isixhobo sabo kuphela kukufihla.
Nangona ngekhe sivumelane nengxelo ethandabuzekayo yokuba umntu obhinqileyo akanakuba nenyani, inye into eyinyani- amadoda nabasetyhini babona ukunyaniseka ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Ngokuchanekileyo, amadoda akholelwa ekuxeleni inyani ngokungqalileyo, kwaye kubo, oku luphawu lwentlonipho nothando. Kubafazi, kukho imibala yenyaniso. Abasetyhini bakholelwa kubuxoki obumhlophe. Bakholelwa ukuba yindlela yokukhusela abo babathandayo kwiintlungu, uxinzelelo, ububi behlabathi.
Nangona omabini amacala enendawo, ukuba uyafuna ngokwenene ukuba ngumfazi ongcono kumyeni wakho, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukucinga ngenyaniso njengendoda. Oko kuthetha ukuba kukuziqhelanisa kukuba uxelele okusengqondweni yakho kwaye ungayipolishi inyaniso. Nokuba ucinga ukuba kuya kuba kubi, indoda iya kuyihlonipha incoko emsulwa kunokuba ukhethe into oza kuyithetha kunye nendlela yokuyibeka.
Musa ukumxhasa umyeni wakho
Omnye umthetho wegolide oqhubekayo kulowo ungaphambili kukungaze umkhusele umyeni wakho. Ihambelana njani le nto nokuthetha inyani ngandlela zonke? Ewe, xa uxoka okanye uyihombisa inyani, uyiphatha njengomyeni indoda yakho. Ngokusisiseko umjonga njengongakwaziyo ukuthwala inyani embi. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akakho.
Kodwa, eli cebiso lisebenza kwiimeko ezininzi kunokuthetha nje ngokuthe ngqo. Abafazi ngamanye amaxesha bayalahleka kwenye indawo phakathi kokuba ngumthandi nokuba ngumama nje ukuba batshatile. Wena kunye nomyeni wakho ngoku beninokuba nothando olupheleleyo malunga nomnye kwaye nisebenze njengabantu abadala xa benithandana. Kodwa abaninzi banikezela kumnqweno wokuhlalela kwaye bakhathalele lonke usapho ngokungathi bonke bangabantwana.
Asazi kakhulu ukuba oku kuyenzeka. Kwaye amadoda anetyala ngokunjalo. Bayakonwabela ukuphekelwa ngabasetyhini, ukucoca emva kwabo, ukukhathalela amaxwebhu kunye nokujonga ukuba onke amatyala ahlawulwe ngexesha. Kodwa yintoni abangayilungiselelanga amadoda nabafazi kukuba le nkanuko iya kugqithela kuyo yonke imimandla yobomi babo, kwaye akukho xesha, baya kuphelela ekuziphatheni njengomama nonyana (ongenangqondo okanye othobelayo).
Ke, kwixesha elizayo xa uthetha nomyeni wakho, cinga ukuba ubuthetha nomntwana. Ngaba incoko yakho inokuguqulela kwimeko enjalo? Ukuba impendulo yakho nguewe, kuya kufuneka uthathe ikhefu kwaye utshintshe iindlela zakho kwangoko. Kuba, nokuba umyeni wakho unokuziva etofelwe kangakanani ngoku, uya kudinwa kukuphathwa njengomntwana aphume ayokukhangela umntu oza kubona indoda kuye kwakhona.
Coca umoya
Masijongane nayo-emva kweminyaka sitshatile, kuyakubakho ingqumbo kunye neengxabano eziphindaphindayo. Kwaye le yinto eqhelekileyo, sukuzingcikiva ngayo. Nawuphi na umtshato oqhubeka ixesha elithile ngokungathandabuzekiyo uye wadibana neengxaki ezininzi kunye neentlungu, kwaye ezinye zazo zihlala ixesha elide emva kokuba eyona ngxaki isonjululwe.
Kodwa, ukuba uzimisele ukuqhubeka nomtshato wakho, kwaye nangaphezulu, yiba ngumfazi olunge ngakumbi kumyeni wakho, kuya kufuneka uthethe naye kwaye ekugqibeleni ucoce umoya. Thatha inkunkuma, uvule ikhabethe kwaye uphonsa amathambo. Babone bebonisa iintloko zabo ezimbi ekukhanyeni kwemini, kwaye ekugqibeleni baphelise umthetho weziporho zeempikiswano ezidlulileyo. Kungenxa yokuba ungaqhubeka unjalo okwexeshana, kodwa hayi ngokungenammiselo. Kwaye awunakuphumelela kunye okanye njengabantu ngabanye ukuba uhlala ixesha elidlulileyo. Akukho suku lubhetele kunamhlanje!