Umxholo
Njengabantu, sinotyekelo lokuzonwabisa ngeemfuno zethu kunye neminqweno yethu ngaphambi kokujonga ukufezekisa iimfuno zabanye. Kunqabile ukufumana umntu ongenabuntu ngokupheleleyo kwihlabathi lethu langoku, kangangokuba sihlala sibancoma abo bantu benza ukungazithembi okwenyani. Isimanga ukuba sibanike eyona nto bangayicelanga ...
"Izinto ezimbi" kubudlelwane bethu zezo zimvo zokuzingca. Yiminqweno esibona kufanelekile ukuba siyifezekise ngaphambi kokubona iimfuno zabanye. Kunzima ukwahlukana nomkhwa wokuzingca wakuba usekiwe, kodwa ayinakwenzeka loo nto. Makhe sijonge ezinye zezona “zibi” kunye neendlela zokuwulungisa umonakalo.
Ixesha lam
Iingozi: Uninzi lwethu luthatha ixesha elincinci esinokulinikela ngokubaluleka. Kukangaphi ulithetha ibinzana elithi "ukuchitha ixesha lam." Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uthethile kaninzi ebomini bakho, mhlawumbi nangoku kutshanje kule veki! Xa kufikwa kwixesha, kulula ukuba nokuzingca, kodwa ukuphinda ujonge ixesha lakho kuyingozi. Awunguye wedwa umntu kubudlelwane bakho!
Izisombululo:Ungaze ulibale ukuba njengayo nayiphi na into kubudlelwane bakho, ixesha kwabelwana ngalo. Kwaye lo mkhwa kunzima ukwahlukana nawo, ngakumbi ukuba nobabini benizimele ngokwaneleyo kwinxalenye yobomi benu, kuba lula ngokuziqhelanisa. Endaweni yokucinga ukuba le nto uyenzayo apha kwaye ngoku yeyona ibalulekileyo, thatha ixesha ubuye umva kwaye uqwalasele ixesha leqabane lakho. Ngaba ukucwangcisa kwakho kubandakanya enye ebalulekileyo? Ukuba akunjalo, ukhe wathetha naye ukuze ugcine unxibelelwano lube nolwelo kwaye luhle?
Iimfuno zam
Iingozi: Sizicingela bodwa njengabantu! Xa sizama ukuba nobudlelwane nomnye umntu, asinakunceda kodwa sicinge ngeziqu zethu! Abanye bayakwazi ukulahla lo mnqweno wokuzingca ngokulula kunabanye. Kodwa lithuku lomntu ukuhlangabezana neemfuno ezisisiseko ngaphambi kokujonga inyathelo elilandelayo. Iimfuno azihlali zisemzimbeni; Banokubandakanya izinto ezingaqondakaliyo ezifana nexesha okanye kubandakanya ezinye ukusondela kwemfuno ezinje ngeemfuno zokomoya nezengqondo.
Izisombululo: Ngelixa kunokubonakala kungalulanga (okanye kube lula, ngaloo nto), kubalulekile ukubeka iimfuno zeqabane lakho ngaphambi kwezakho. Ngokulandelelana, kuya kufuneka ulindele uhlobo olufanayo lokuziphatha kwiqabane lakho! Ukuba kubudlelwane akuthethi ukuzincama ukuba ungubani kunye nento oyifunayo, kodwa oko kuthetha ukuthatha ixesha lokuba nolwazelelelo novelwano. Ukubeka bucala iminqweno yakho yeqabane lakho kungabalulekile ekugcineni uzinzo emtshatweni wakho kodwa kunokudala indawo yokuthembana nokunyaniseka. Uya kubeka ngaphezulu kangakanani iqabane lakho ukuba uyazi ukuba ubabeka kwindawo yokuqala kwizinto zonke?
Iimvakalelo zam
Iingozi: Okokugqibela "kubi" kokona kubi kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba yeyona ilula ukwenza umkhwa ongafanelekanga. Xa unxibelelana malunga neengxaki, ngakumbi ukucaphuka okanye izinto ezikucaphukisayo, akuqhelekanga ukucinga okanye ukutsho amagama, "indlela ondenza ndizive ngayo." Musa ukuwela emgibeni! Iimvakalelo zakho zibalulekile kwaye kufuneka kwabelwane ngazo, ngakumbi kumzamo wokungafihli nto kunye neqabane lakho. Kodwa khetha amagama akho ngobulumko xa usenza njalo. Ngelixa iimvakalelo zakho zibalulekile, akufuneki zixilonge iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho.
Izisombululo: Endaweni yoko, thatha ixesha lokumamelana kwaye unike elowo ixesha lakho ukuba abelane ngeemvakalelo zakhe ngayo nayiphi na imeko. Vumela amaxesha engxabano kunye nokungaqondani kube ngamaxesha apho nikwazi ukwabelana ngokufanelekileyo ngendlela enivakalelwa ngayo omnye nomnye. Kulungile ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho kwaye uvakalise ukukhathazeka okanye umsindo, kodwa ayikaze ilunge ukwenza omnye umntu azive ngathi iimvakalelo zakhe azinamsebenzi. Imigaqo yokulwa ngokungenamkhethe icebisa ukuba umntu ngamnye abe nethuba elifanayo lokwabelana ngendlela avakalelwa ngayo. Gcina ingxelo yakho ilula kwaye uthathe uxanduva ngendlela oziva ngayo. Ukufumana amagama afanelekileyo kunokuba nzima, nangona kunjalo, zama le fomyula ilandelayo. “Ndiva _________ xa u ____________ ngoba ____________.”
Ukwahlukana nomkhwa ombi wokuzingca akukho lula, kodwa kuyenzeka. Khumbula ukubeka iqabane lakho phambili ngalo lonke ixesha linyathelo lokuqala. Ngalo lonke ixesha qaphela indlela omnye umntu aziva ngayo; zalisekise iimfuno zakhe kunye nezakho; kwaye ubuze ixesha kunokuba uthathe ixesha uhlala ulichitha. Ukugcina ingqalelo yakho kugxile komnye, endaweni yesiqu sakho, kuthatha ukuziqhelanisa kodwa kufanelekile ukudibana kunye nonxibelelwano olunokuthi luzise kubudlelwane.