Umxholo
- Kutheni le nto abantu behlala kubudlelwane obuxhaphazayo?
- 1. Baziva beneentloni
- 2. Baziva benoxanduva
- 3. Abanandawo bangaya kuyo
- 4. Bayayoyika
- 5. Banethemba lokunceda umxhaphazi wabo
- 6. Banexhala ngabantwana babo
- Isiphelo
Uninzi lwabantu bacinga ukuba xa befumene umntu olungileyo, baya kuchitha ubomi babo bonke kunye. Ekuqaleni, ubudlelwane bunothando kwaye buyaxhasa kodwa emva kwethutyana, baqala ukuqaphela utshintsho. Le yi Isiqalo esiqhelekileyo samabali onke abuhlungu ibaliswa ngamaxhoba obundlobongela basekhaya kwihlabathi liphela.
Uphando olwenziwe liZizwe eziManyeneyo lubonisa ukuba phantse I-35% yabasetyhini kwihlabathi liphela unayo abanamava uhlobo oluthile ngokomzimba okanye ngesondo amaqabane obundlobongela. Kananjalo, ukuba ucinga ngokwenzeka kulwaphulo-mthetho, uyabona ukuba phantse ama-32% abasetyhini ngamaxhoba obundlobongela basekhaya kwaye i-16% yabasetyhini baphantsi koqhakamshelwano ngokwesondo liqabane elisondeleyo.
Kancinci kancinci, zabo Iqabane liqala ukubonisa isimilo esingaqhelekanga ephindaphindayo eguqukayo inobundlobongela. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ayilulo lonke uxhatshazo lwasekhaya olwasemzimbeni. Zininzi amaxhoba kanjalo Amava okuphathwa gadalala kwengqondo, engenampembelelo ingako.
Amathuba kukuba ukuxhatshazwa kuqhubeka ixesha elide, kokubi kuya kuba kubi.
Akukho mntu ucinga ukuba baya kuze bazifumane bekule meko.
Akukho mntu ufuna ukwenzakaliswa nokuhlaziswa liqabane labo. Kwaye, ngasizathu sithile, amaxhoba asakhetha ukungabashiyi abo bababethayo.
Kutheni kunjalo?
Ngoku, ukushiya ubudlelwane bokuhlukumeza akukho lula njengoko kunokuvakala kuwe. Kwaye, ngelishwa, zininzi izizathu ngoba abantu bahlala kubudlelwane obuhlukumezayo, obuhlala buhlala buze bubulale.
Kutheni le nto abantu behlala kubudlelwane obuxhaphazayo?
Kule nqaku, siza kujonga kwesi sihloko ngokunzulu kwaye sibone ukuba yintoni na enqanda amaxhoba ukuba ashiye kwaye anike ingxelo ngabaxhaphazi babo.
1. Baziva beneentloni
Ayothusi loo nto iintloni ngu esinye sezizathu eziphambili kutheni amaxhoba obundlobongela basekhaya ahlala. Kuyamangalisa ukuba le mvakalelo ihlala ithintela abantu ekwenzeni into abayifunayo kwaye beziva ilungile.
Uninzi lucinga ukuba ukushiya ikhaya, ukwahlukana nomxhaphazi okanye ukuqhawula umtshato kuthetha ukuba bohlulekile. Abakwazi ukuvumela usapho lwabo, abahlobo, kunye noluntu ukuba babone imeko abazifumene bekuyo kwaye babonakalise ukuba babuthathaka.
Ukungafikeleli kulindelo loluntu kuhlala kubeka uxinzelelo olukhulu kumaxhoba, yiyo loo nto baziva ngathi kufuneka bahlale kwaye banyamezele. Nangona kunjalo, ukushiya umxhaphazi ngu hayi uphawu lobuthathaka, yi umqondiso wamandla Oko kubonisa ukuba umntu womelele ngokwaneleyo ukuba angawaphula umjikelo kwaye ajonge ubomi obungcono.
2. Baziva benoxanduva
Abanye amaxhoba obundlobongela basekhaya are zoluvo ukuba bona wenze into ukuya baxhokonxa ubundlobongela. Ngelixa kungekho nto umntu anokuyenza ukukhuthaza uhlaselo, abanye abantu basaziva benoxanduva kwezi zehlo.
Mhlawumbi bathethile into okanye benze into ecaphukisa iqabane labo. Oku kudla ngokuba ngumbono obekwa entloko ngumxhaphazi wabo.
Abaxhaphazi baqhele ukuxelela amaxhoba abo ukuba akrwada, ayangxixha kwaye abenza babanomsindo ngenxa yokuziphatha kwabo. Akukho nanye kwezi sizathu sokuba nobundlobongela, ukanti amaxhoba obundlobongela basekhaya akholelwa koko axelelwa kona.
Ngapha koko, ukuba Ukuphathwa gadalala kuyingqondo, Bacinga ukuba ayifakwanga ngokwenyani kudidi lokuxhatshazwa xa bengenayo imikrwelo yokubonisa.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuzithemba kwabo kuchaphazeleka kwinqanaba apho bakholelwa ukuba bafanelwe ngamazwi arhabaxa.
3. Abanandawo bangaya kuyo
Ngamanye amaxesha, ubundlobongela basekhaya amaxhoba awanandawo angaya kuyo. Kwaye, sesona sizathu sokuba boyika ukuhamba enjalo ubudlelwane bokuhlukumeza.
Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa ukuba baxhomekeke ngokwezimali kumxhaphazi wabo. Ukuba baziva befuna ukushiya ikhaya, kufana nokuvuma ukoyiswa. Ngokuqinisekileyo ngekhe baphindele kubazali babo.
Ukujikela kubahlobo kuhlala kusisisombululo sexeshana, kwaye badla ngokubeka umngcipheko kumaqabane abo emva kwabo kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba babandakanye nabahlobo kwingxabano.
Kwelinye icala, Amaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala zihlala kunjalo bebodwa ukuba bona abanabomi ngaphandle kwekhaya kwaye uzive uwedwa nge akukho bahlobo banokuthembela kubo.
Nangona kunjalo, banokujonga indlu ekhuselekileyo kwindawo leyo, bebona indlela la maziko ahlala enikezela ngayo izindlu, uncedo kwezomthetho kunye neengcebiso, ukongeza ekuncedeni abantu babuyisele ubomi babo emgceni.
4. Bayayoyika
Ukuva rhoqo malunga neentlekele zosapho ngenxa ubundlobongela basekhaya ezindabeni ayikhuthazi kwaye ayimangalisi into yokuba ubundlobongela basekhaya amaxhoba ayoyika ukushiya ikhaya.
Umzekelo -
Ukuba bakhetha ukuxela amaqabane abo, basengozini yokuqhubeka nobundlobongela, ngokufuthi nangakumbi, xa amapolisa engenzi nto ukubanceda.
Nokuba bayaphumelela ukuphumelela ityala kwaye amaqabane abo agwetywe, maninzi amathuba okuba bayakubafuna emva kokuba bephumile ejele ukuze baziphindezele.
Kwelinye icala, ukufumana umyalelo othintela umxhaphazi ikwayi- kunokwenzeka kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukulinganisa ubuhle kunye neengozi zokwenza into enjalo, into leyo ingcali evela kwiNkonzo yeNgcebiso ngezoMthetho inokunceda ngayo.
Nangona kunjalo, nokuba baziva njani malunga neqabane labo abafuna ukuziphindezela kunye nokubenzakalisa emva kokuba bemkile ukuxhatshazwa ekhaya Unako ngokunjalo ineziphumo ezibi ukuba abasabeli ngexesha.
5. Banethemba lokunceda umxhaphazi wabo
Esinye sezizathu eziphambili zokuba abafazi bangabashiyi abo baxhaphazayo kukuba bayathandana nabangcungcuthekisi babo.
Ewe! Ngamanye amaxesha, ubundlobongela basekhaya amaxhoba nangoku jonga umbono womntu, bona ndathandana nayo, kumxhaphazi wabo. Oku kuhlala kukhokelela ekubeni bacinge ukuba banokubuyela kwindlela eyayikade ingayo ngaphambili. Bayakholelwa lonto banokunceda umntu obethileyo kwaye ubabonise inkxaso eyoneleyo ukunqanda ukuxhatshazwa.
Ukunikezela ngokunyaniseka nothando olungenamiqathango ayisiyondlela yokuphelisa ubundlobongela, njengoko umhlukumezi eya kuqhubeka nokuthatha ngakumbi nangakumbi.
Abanye abantu bahlala beziva kakubi kumaqabane abo ngenxa yeemeko zabo, njengokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi okanye umzali. Kwelinye icala, Abaxhaphazi rhoqo thembisa ukuyeka kunye notshintsho kunye amaxhoba akholelwa kubo ide iphinde yenzeke.
6. Banexhala ngabantwana babo
Xa kukho abantwana ababandakanyekayo, imeko yonke iba nzima ngokukhawuleza.
Ixhoba lidla ngokungafuni ukubaleka kwaye lishiye abantwana kunye neqabane labo elinobundlobongela, ngelixa ukuthatha abantwana kunye nokubaleka kunokubangela iingxaki ezininzi zomthetho. Ke ngoko, bakulungele ukuhlala Kweli khaya lixhaphazayo ukuya thintela abantwana babo ukusuka amava i inqanaba elifanayo lokuxhatshazwa.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba umxhaphazi akanabundlobongela ebantwaneni, ixhoba lifuna ukuba abantwana babe nosapho oluzinzileyo elinabazali bobabini abakhoyo, nokuba kubuhlungu kangakanani oku kubo. Oko kwathiwa, amaxhoba ahlala engayiqondi nefuthe lokuphathwa gadalala kwasekhaya ebantwaneni.
Inokuba nefayile ye- ifuthe eliyingozi kumsebenzi wabo wesikolo, impilo yengqondo kunye nefuthe labo ekungeneni kubundlobongela kamva ebomini babo.
Isiphelo
Ezi zinto zintandathu azizizo kuphela izizathu zokuba amaxhoba akhethe ukuhlala, nangona kunjalo, zezona zixhaphakileyo kwaye ngelishwa, kuhlala kukho indibaniselwano yazo zonke ezi zinto zidlalwayo.
Ngelixa ikhona akukho ndlela yokunyanzela umntu ukuya bashiye indawo yabo enetyhefu, sonke singasebenzela ukudala uluntu olungcono apho siya kuwakholelwa amaxhoba kwaye singabavumeli ukuba babe neentloni ngokuvuma into enje.