Umxholo
- Ungasinda njani ngokwahlukana: Zinyamekele
- Ukujamelana nokwahlukana: Cinga ngamanyathelo alandelayo
- Ukujongana nokwahlukana xa abantwana bebandakanyekile
- Uhlangabezana njani nokwahlukana ngexesha lokukhulelwa?
Akukho mntu utyikitya esazi ilayisensi yomtshato elindele ukujongana neenyanga okanye iminyaka yokwahlukana emva kotshintsho olonwabisayo "ndiyayenza." Kodwa ukwahlukana komtshato kuyenzeka. Kwaye xa kusenzeka, amaqabane ahlala eshiyeka eziva ngathi aphambene, oyisiwe, unetyala, kwaye uneentloni. Ukujongana nokwahlukana kubuhlungu. Kubuhlungu ngokulusizi ukujongana noxinzelelo lokwahlukana neqabane elihamba nokupheliswa komtshato.
Nokuba amaqabane asoloko esilwa ngomba othile okanye omnye, ukuphulukana kobudlelwane-nokuba kungalunganga-kunokuba kukukhubekisa. Ukuba ukujongana nokwahlukana emtshatweni bekungonelanga, amaqabane ahlukanisiweyo kufuneka alwe noxanduva olugqithisileyo lwezomthetho nolwezemali oluhamba nokuchithwa. Funda ukuze ufumane indlela yokuphatha ukwahlukana komtshato.
Ungasinda njani ngokwahlukana: Zinyamekele
Ke ngawaphi amanyathelo alandelayo amaqabane ajongene nokuphela kwezinto? Uhlangabezana njani noxinzelelo lokwahlukana? Kubafazi abaninzi, ukwahlukana nendoda kunokuziva ngathi kukuphela kwehlabathi kwaye into yokuqala abayenzayo kukuyeka ngokwabo.
Ngaba likhona ingcebiso eluncedo malunga nendlela yokujongana nokwahlukana kubudlelwane? Ngelizwi, ngokuqinisekileyo. Ingcebiso yokuqala esabelana ngayo nabo bafuna ukwazi indlela yokujongana nokwahlukana emtshatweni kukuba "uzikhathalele."
Ukuba ingqondo yakho, umzimba, kunye nomoya wakho zikwindawo yonke yokuphazamiseka, kuya kufuneka uthathe ixesha lokuphumla, ulolonge umzimba, utye ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye uphilise. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzingqonga ngenkxaso nangexesha lokujongana nokwahlukana. Umcebisi, oomoya, igqwetha, kunye nabahlobo abathembekileyo kufuneka babhalise "umntu kwikona yakho" njengoko utyhutyha iintsuku ezinzima xa uzibuza ukuba ungajongana njani nokwahlukana.
Ukujamelana nokwahlukana: Cinga ngamanyathelo alandelayo
Icandelo elilandelayo lokusinda emva kokwahlukana emtshatweni kukuseka umbono wexesha elide wena neqabane lakho elahlukileyo. Ukuba unxibelelwano kwakhona yinto enokwenzeka kuwe nakweyakho, kunokuba yimfuneko ukubeka iimeko ezithile kwindibano yokuhlangana kwakhona. Mhlawumbi iingcebiso ngesibini singabonisa indlela. Ukwahlula ukuxhalaba kwizibini ezitshatileyo kuyinto eqhelekileyo kodwa ukuba nembono ejolise kwiphilisi okanye kumcebisi ngokuqinisekileyo kunokubeka izinto kwindawo efanelekileyo.
Ukuba ukwahlukana kugwetyelwe ukwahlukana kuqhawulo-mtshato olupheleleyo, lixesha lokwenza amalungiselelo ayimfuneko oqhawulo-mtshato. Incoko negqwetha ingabaluleka ngeli xesha. Umgcini zimali kufuneka abandakanyeke kwincoko.
Naxa ucinga ngezinto eziza kwenziwa, usenokuzibuza ukuba ungakwenzi ntoni ngexesha lokwahlukana. Ngaba ikhona into endiyenzayo ngokungalunganga xa ndijongana nokwahlukana? Ndazi njani? Ewe, ngenxa yoko kufuneka ukhumbule "Umthetho Omkhulu" okt uphathe iqabane lakho ngendlela obungathanda ukuphathwa ngayo.
Ukuba izinto ziqala ukuphuma esandleni ngelixa ulwahlulo kunye nokujongana nokwahlukana kuqala kuchaphazela ezinye iindawo ebomini bakho kancinci kakhulu ke ungathandabuzi ukuya kwiingcebiso zokwahlukana komtshato kwiingcali okanye ingcali.
Unokudibanisa amaqela enkxaso yokwahlukana komtshato kunye okanye ngaphandle kweqabane lakho. Awuwedwa kule nto, uncedo luhlala lukhona ukuba uyalufuna.
Ukujongana nokwahlukana xa abantwana bebandakanyekile
Ngokuzibandakanya kwabantwana, ukujongana nokwahlukana kunokuba yinkohliso. Ukulawula utshintsho okanye ukulawula uxanduva lokuba ngumzali emva kokwahlukana kunokuthatha umthwalo. Ngale nto, kuya kufuneka uqonde ukuba ukubakhulisa ngokweemvakalelo yinkqubo engapheliyo. Umvandedwa wokubona ukwahlukana kwabazali kunokuba neziphumo zexesha elide ezinokubachaphazela njengoko bekhula bebadala. Zama ke:
- Gcina izinto zilungile kwaye ugcine imeko emanyeneyo yabantwana
- Baqinisekise ukuba ayilotyala labo
- Musa ukusika ngokupheleleyo kwiqabane lakho kwaye usebenzise abantwana ukunxibelelana nabo
- Bayeke bagcine unxibelelwano lwabo nabanye abantu
Uhlangabezana njani nokwahlukana ngexesha lokukhulelwa?
Inokuba ziintlungu ezininzi ukusingatha ukuba isigqibo sokwahlukana neqabane lakho sithathiwe ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Kodwa ngenxa yempilo yakho kunye neyomntwana, kuya kufuneka uyibone le njengesiqendu ebomini bakho esiya kudlula. Yiya ngokucebisa ngokwahlukana kwaye ujonge phambili ekunikezeni konke okusemandleni akho emntwaneni.
Nangona kubuhlungu konke oku, unako kwaye uya kuyenza indlela yakho kubo bonke ubunzima. Zithembe iimvakalelo zakho, lithembe iqela lakho kwaye uqhubele phambili ngobomi bakho emva kokwahlukana emtshatweni. Ukujongana nokwahlukana akukho lula kodwa kunokwenzeka.