Umxholo
- Impixano engasonjululwanga
- Imigangatho emibini
- Ukuphulukana nokuziva kwakho
- Ungaze ukhululeke ukubeka iimfuno zakho kuqala
- Isidingo sokuba sisityeba kakhulu kwaye somelele
Masingenzi mathambo malunga nayo; xa umntu othile edibana okokuqala neqabane lakhe elingumlingisi, kusenokwenzeka ukuba banikwe izimbo zothando nezokuzibophelela.
Basenokuba bacinyiwe iinyawo zabo kwaye bacinga ukuba iqhalo elithi 'knight kwisikrweqe esikhanyayo' likho okanye ukuba badibene nendoda okanye ibhinqa eligqibeleleyo elakha ladibana nabo.
Umlingane wabo we-narcissistic (ngoku otshatileyo) usenokuba wakwazi ukugcina le facade ixesha elide de babe bayazi ukuba banokubayeka balinde.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba babesazi ukuba liya kufika nini elo xesha; kungalula kubo ukuba bachonge kuba baya kuba beyiphumezile injongo yabo yokukuqinisekisa ukuba wena kunye nabo ibingumdlalo ogqibeleleyo onje ngomdlalo abanokufumana isandla sakho emtshatweni.
Ewe kunjalo, banokuba babe neembono malunga nentsingiselo yoko bakuthethayo kunye nokuzibandakanya kwindlela abawujonga ngayo umtshato kodwa masijongane nenyani. Babeza kuba neminqweno yabo kuphela entliziyweni.
Ubuyinto nje edlalwa kumdlalo nokuba ngowona mgangatho uphambili bazimisele ukufumana amava 'othando' kunye nomtshato okanye umbono wabo ngalo.
Uyabona abantu abenza izinto ezingekho mthethweni abenzeli nto komnye umntu kubandakanya ulungelelwaniso; abaziqwalaseli iimvakalelo zomnye umntu, kwaye abanalo uvelwano okanye uvelwano. Endaweni yoko, konke malunga nabo.
Ke ukuba ucinga ukutshata ne-narcissist lumka!
Nantsi into onokuyilindela xa utshata i-narcissist:
Impixano engasonjululwanga
Ayinamsebenzi into oyifunayo, into oyifunayo, okanye ubungakanani ubulungisa obutyala wena kwiqabane lakho, inye into onokuyilindela xa utshata i-narcissist kukuba akukho nanye kwezo zixhalabisayo.
Nokuba oko kunokubavakala kuyinyani, kuyinyani.
Ukuba unomlingane we-narcissist, ukugxila kwabo kuphela kwiimfuno zabo nakwi-ajenda yabo. Ke nantoni na oyifunayo, kuya kufuneka ujongane nayo wedwa okanye uyonelise kwenye indawo.
Asikukhuthazi oku kuziphatha ngokungakhathali, ayisosiseko somtshato ophilileyo, kwaye kuya kufuneka ulindele ubulungisa, uthando kunye nenkathalo kwiqabane lakho. Sonke kufanelekile, kodwa awuyi kuyifumana kwiqabane laseNarcissistic.
Imigangatho emibini
Ulindelo olukhathazayo ekuya kufuneka ujongane nalo xa utshata umntu osebenzisa i-narcissist yimigangatho emibini.
Uya kudinga ukusombulula ukungavisisani, umzekelo, kuyakufuneka unike iqabane lakho elingumlingisi we-narcissist ubulungisa, kuyakufuneka ubazise ukuba ufuna kangakanani kwaye uyabadinga, kuyakufuneka ulalanise, uthando kunye Khathalela iqabane lakho, kwaye kuya kufuneka uyenze ngendlela abafuna ngayo enokuthi itshintshe!
Kodwa awunakulindela okufanayo.
Njengoko kuchaziwe kwicandelo 'lempixano engasonjululwanga' le nto inokuba njalo ukuba uza kutshata narcissist.
Ukuphulukana nokuziva kwakho
Ngenxa yokulalanisa, niyakwenza; ukungabikho kothando, ukuhamba phezu kwamaqokobhe amaqanda oza kuwenza, ukuxhamla ekufuneka ukwenzile xa utshata i-narcissist, ekuhambeni kwexesha, uya kuphulukana nokuzazi kwakho.
Khumbula ukuba uza kutshata, uzibophelele kwaye uhlala neqabane lakho kwaye unokuba nabantwana.
Mnye kuphela umntu onokuthatha, kwaye kuya kufuneka ukuba ukulungele ukutyhalelwa kuloo ndawo, lonke elixesha uzive ubuthathaka kwaye ulibale ukuba ungubani.
Ungaze ukhululeke ukubeka iimfuno zakho kuqala
Njengazo zonke izihloko ezingentla zikhankanyiweyo ukuba uzifumene iziphumo zomtshato kwi-narcissist, uyakuqonda ukuba ubunzulu kakhulu.
Kodwa kuyakufuneka uqaphele ukuba awusoze ukhululeke ukubeka iimfuno zakho kuqala (ezibandakanya ukubanakho ukurhoxisa uhambo, ungonwabeli imibhiyozo yakho, okanye nokuba nakho ukujongana neemfuno zakho ezisisiseko ezinje ngoxolo kunye nokuthula okanye yenza izinto ofuna ukuzenza) okoko uhlala utshatile neqabane lakho elithandanayo.
Oku kuya kuba yinto onokuyilindela xa utshata i-narcissist.
Isidingo sokuba sisityeba kakhulu kwaye somelele
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba yintoni enye onokuyilindela xa utshata i-narcissist, ewe, kuya kufuneka ulusu-lukhuni.
Nokuba isikrweqe sakho siza kunxitywa ngokuhamba kwexesha sinokuhlala sibonwa, mhlawumbi ungahlala unolusu olomeleleyo kwaye womelele kodwa ngaba kufuneka uyenze le nto?
Ngaba kufanelekile ukuba ucinge ngokutshata i-narcissist ukuba uyazi ukuba kufuneka ubenolusu olomeleleyo kwaye womelele, ngaba ngenene kufuneka uzincame kangako ukuze utshate i-narcissist?
Into kukuba ukhethe ukuba uza kutshata nabani kwaye uchithe ubomi bakho bonke, uqinisekile ukuba ungathandana nomlingane wakho kodwa ukuba ucinga ukuba umtshato kunye narcissist uza kuba yimpepho okanye uyonwabise cinga kwakhona.
Njengoko sihamba ebomini iimfuno zethu zitshintsha, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka somelele kumaqabane ethu, ngamanye amaxesha amaqabane ethu kufuneka asixhase, siya kuba sengozini ngamanye amaxesha kodwa xa oku kusenzeka iqabane lakho lingabikho kuwe.
Ubudlelwane kunye nokusondelelana ekufuneka kwenzeke emtshatweni ngekhe kubekhona, kwaye uya kujongana nobomi wedwa kwaye ungaziva ulilolo kunokuba ungacinga.
Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe i-plunge, ukuba ukrokrela ukuba i-fiance yakho yi-narcissist, yima kwaye ucinge kwakhona. Ayisiyiyo ngoku into yokuba uza kunikezela kwiqabane lakho kodwa nekamva lakho lonke.
Okona kuncinci, ngaphambi kokuba utshate kufanelekile ukuthatha inxaxheba ekuthatheni iingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato nokuba uwedwa, okanye neqabane lakho, ukuba ungaya nabo! Yinto encinci onokuzenzela yona.