Umxholo
- Kutheni usabelana ngesondo nowayesakuba ngumfazi wakho?
- Kwaye woyika ukuba ngekhe uphinde ulalane
- Ukuba uthanda ukulala nomntu owayesakuba ngumfazi wakho
- Oko akuthethi ukuba neentlobano zesini kunye nomfazi wakho wangaphambili ngumbono olungileyo
- Zibuze ukuba kutheni unomdla wokuqhubeka nobudlelwane?
- Kutheni ulala nomntu owayesakuba ngumfazi wakho kunokuba shushu kakhulu
- Uninzi lweengcali ziya kukuthintela
Wena nomfazi wakho wangaphambili niqhawule umtshato. Isenokuba yakutshanje. Isenokuba kwakudala. Nobabini nihamba ngesahluko sokungatshati. Usatsala umdla kuye. Kwaye uyazibuza ... ngaba uya kuvuleleka kubahlobo abanezibonelelo zohlobo lobuhlobo?
Uqala ukubonisa ukuba kutheni le nto inokusebenza. Nobabini niyazana ngokusondeleyo. Uyazi ukuba yintoni emguqula. Benihlala nilungile kunye kwinqanaba lezesondo. Ke, ngesondo ne-ex yakho. Ngoba kutheni?
Kutheni usabelana ngesondo nowayesakuba ngumfazi wakho?
Akukho phando lukhulu phaya olujongana nokwabelana ngesondo ne-ex. Oku mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba uninzi lwabantu oluzibandakanya koku luthwala iintloni. Yimfihlakalo encinci emdaka engakulungelanga ukuqhayisa ngayo esidlangalaleni. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba usabelana ngesondo ne-ex yakho, kutheni na waqhawula umtshato?
Kodwa isizathu sokuba abantu abaninzi babelane ngesondo ne-ex ilula kakhulu. Niyazana. Kuba uqhawule umtshato ngoku, akusekho moya woxinzelelo nokulwa. Konke okusemva kwakho ngoku. Kwaye uqhelene kakhulu kuwe.
Ngapha koko, okoko waqhawula umtshato ebezikhathalela ngcono. Ukunxiba isondo ngakumbi. Unenwele entsha. Yintoni la perfume intle ayinxibileyo ngoku?
Kwaye woyika ukuba ngekhe uphinde ulalane
Uloyiko oluqhelekileyo kubantu abasandul 'ukuqhawula umtshato ukuba abayi kuphinda babelane ngesondo kwakhona. Uqhawulo-mtshato luthathe umthwalo wokuzithemba kwabo kwaye abanakucinga ukuba umntu othile utsaleleka kubo, ubuncinci ngokwaneleyo ukuba balale nabo.
Ke isondo kunye ne-ex yakho iyavakala njengeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuba usabelana ngesondo, kunye nomntu ongenabungozi. Akukho bungozi bezifo ezingaziwayo, akukho bungozi bokuba bathandane ngokukhawuleza okukhulu okanye bakwenze uzibophelele kubudlelwane xa ungekakulungeli.
Ukwabelana ngesondo nomntu owayesakuba ngumfazi wakho kulula. Iyaxelwa kwangaphambili. Akukho xhala malunga nokuhamba ze kunye neqabane elitsha kunye nokukhathazeka malunga nokuba banokucinga ntoni malunga nesisu esidala sebhiya. Kwaye ubuncinci ngesondo!
Ukuba uthanda ukulala nomntu owayesakuba ngumfazi wakho
Kukho uphando oluncinci olubonisa ukuba isondo ne-ex yakho ayinakuba nefuthe elibi kwimeko yengqondo yomntu. “Abo bafuna abo babesakuba liqabane labo babesengozini yokuba bafune ukwabelana ngesondo nabo, kwaye abo bantu zange baxele ukuba baziva bekhathazeke ngakumbi emva kwenyani; Ukuxhuma kunye ne ex yabo kubashiye beziva benethemba mihla le ", utshilo omnye umphengululi ophambili kolu phando, uGqirha Stephanie Spielmann.
Oko akuthethi ukuba neentlobano zesini kunye nomfazi wakho wangaphambili ngumbono olungileyo
Ngelixa abanye abantu banokucinga ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokulala nomntu owayesakuba ngumfazi wakho, ayisiyiyo imvakalelo yendalo iphela. Uninzi lwabantu olwabelana ngesondo ne-ex, nokuba yinto yexesha elinye okanye imeko ephindaphindwayo, baneemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo ngayo. Inokukuyekisa ekubeni uqhubele phambili kwaye ufumane iqabane elitsha, elilunge ngakumbi.
Inokuvuselela naziphi na iimvakalelo ezingasombululwanga malunga noqhawulo-mtshato kunye nokukhokelela kuko. Umfazi wakho wangaphambili usenokungabikho kwiphepha elinye nelokuba ufuna ntoni kule meko. Ngaba ulala nawe kuba ecinga ukuba ningabuyelana?
Zibuze ukuba kutheni unomdla wokuqhubeka nobudlelwane?
Zibuze ukuba kutheni unomdla wokuqhubeka nobudlelwane, nokuba ungowesondo kuphela, kunye nowayesakuba ngumfazi wakho. Umbuze umbuzo ofanayo. Nobabini kufuneka ninyaniseke ngokumasikizi malunga nezinto enizifunayo kobu budlelwane bokwabelana ngesondo. Ngaba kukhululwe ngokwasemzimbeni?
Ngaba omnye wenu unethemba lokuba oku kuya kubangela imvakalelo endala, mhlawumbi akubuyisele kunye?
Ukuba omnye wenu useneemvakalelo zothando, ukwabelana ngesondo kuya kuzenza nzulu ezo zinto, kwaye mhlawumbi unike amathemba obuxoki kwiqabane elinengxaki yokuyeka umtshato.
Qiniseka ukuba nobabini ninokuqonda okucacileyo malunga nokuba nifuna ntoni kolu lungiselelo.
Kutheni ulala nomntu owayesakuba ngumfazi wakho kunokuba shushu kakhulu
Amadoda avumayo ukuba abelane ngesondo nabafazi bawo bangaphambili athi isini sishushu kakhulu. Kuqala, kukho into engavumelekanga. Umbutho uthi awufanelanga ukuba ulale nomntu owayesakuba ngumfazi wakho, ke inyani yokuba uphakathi kwamashiti kunye naye yenza izinto zibe mnandi.
Okwesibini, uqhawulo-mtshato lwakho lukukhulule kuyo yonke imithwalo umtshato ombi owawukusinda kuwo. Ngenxa yokuba akusekho mntu unenzondo, unako ukuba nobundlobongela kwaye uphambene, njengakwiintsuku zakudala.
Ngaba ufuna ukuzama ikink entsha? Nge-ex, ungaya khona ... niyazana kakuhle. Ke kumadoda amaninzi, isondo kunye nowayesakuba ngumfazi sineziqholo ezimangalisayo. Akumangalisi ukuba uphononongo lwakutsha nje olupapashwe kwiJenali yezeNtlalontle kunye neClinical Psychology ifumanise ukuba kwabali-137 ababethathe inxaxheba kubantu abadala ngaphambili, umntu omnye kwabahlanu wayesabelana ngesondo nomntu wabo wakudala emva komtshato wabo.
Uninzi lweengcali ziya kukuthintela
Unontlalontle oklinikhi onelayisensi, uSherry Amatenstein, uxwayisa ngalo naluphi na uhlobo lokudibana ngesondo kunye nomntu wakudala. Ukholelwa ekubeni oko kukhokelela kwintlungu ende kunye nokutsala malunga nokwahlukana okanye uqhawulo-mtshato.
Ke cinga malunga nexesha elizayo xa ubona umfazi wakho wangaphambili ekhangeleka eshushu kwaye enomdla. Ngelixa ukulala naye kungabonakala kungumbono olungileyo, ekugqibeleni ungangcono xa usiya phambili kwaye ufumane iqabane elitsha. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokuvakala njengomsebenzi ongaphezulu, kodwa kungcono kwimpilo yakho yengqondo.