Xa uNarcissist Esithi- Ndiyakuthanda

Umxholo

• Le yeleta yothando evela kwi-narcissist iye kwiqabane lakhe
• Ndizikhathalele kuphela
• Ndiyawathanda amandla endinawo phezu kwakho
• Nazi ezinye izinto endizithandayo ngawe
• Wenza i-ego yam izive ilungile

Ukuba usebudlelwaneni narcissist, sele uyazi ukuba olu hlobo lobudlelwane lulodwa.

Uhamba ngamaxesha okonzakala okugqithileyo, usizi kunye nemibuzo hayi kuphela impilo yakho kodwa kutheni uhlala nomntu oyityhefu.

Umlingane wakho unokuhlukumeza. Uyakuthanda ngokwemiqathango yakhe kuphela, ekugcina ukwimeko yokungeniswa rhoqo kunye nokungazithembi. Xa umbiza ngeendlela zakhe zokuzingca, ukutyhola ngokuba novakalelo kakhulu okanye ukungamqondi.

AbakwaNarcissist abaze bathathe uxanduva ngokwenzakalisa kwabo babangqongileyo kuba ngamehlo abo, bagqibelele. Lixesha lehlabathi elinetyala, okanye elinolwazi oluninzi lokuqonda ubukhulu babo.

Okwangoku, ii-narcissists zinamaxesha anqabileyo okuzazi kunye nobulumko. Ezi azibonakali rhoqo, kwaye azihlali thuba lide. Kodwa makhe sijonge ileta umntu oza kubhala nge-narcissist anokuyibhala kwelinye lala maxesha.

Le yeleta yothando evela kwi-narcissist iye kwiqabane lakhe

Mlingane othandekayo,

Awusoze undive ndiwathetha la mazwi ebomini.

Okokuqala, kuba ukuveza ezona mvakalelo zam zangaphakathi yinto engaqhelekanga kum kangangokuba ngekhe yenzeke. Okwesibini, kunqabile ukuba ndibenamaxesha okuboniswa okuyinyani, ke ngekhe bahambe ngexesha endinokwabelana ngalo nani ngokuvakalayo. Kwaye, andizange ndixelele nabani na inyaniso kuba andazi nokuba yintoni eyam inyaniso.

Ndizikhathalele kuphela

Ndikukhathalele ngengqondo yokuba undinike into, ewe, ndiyakuthanda ngenxa yoko.

Olu ayilohlobo luthando olungelulo olwe-narcissists. Andikwazi ukwenza olo hlobo lothando — olo lujolise kulonwabo nakwimpilontle yomnye umntu. Hayi, ndifuna ukondla i-ego yam, ukuzixabisa kwam, kwaye uncome yonke into ngam. Yiyo le nto ndikugcina ujikeleze, kwaye kutheni ndimise ngabom ubudlelwane ukuze ucinge ukuba ukuba awuqhubeki undenzela ezi zinto, ndiza kukushiya kwaye uphile ubomi bakho bonke wedwa. Yiloo nto endikuxelela yona ukuze uhlale unamandla.

Ndiyazi ukuba ayiyonyani leyo. Ndiyazi ukuba ungumfazi omnandi, okrelekrele, mhle. Uya kuhluthwa ngomzuzu. Kodwa andinakukukholelwa oko, ke ndiyakugxeka, ndigxeke izinto ezibalulekileyo kuwe njengezihlobo zakho, usapho lwakho, inkolo yakho, konke ke uya kukholwa ukuba awuxabisekanga kwaye kufuneka uhlale nam .

Ndiyawathanda amandla endinawo phezu kwakho

Ndiziva njengoKumkani weLizwe xa ndibona ukuba zininzi iindlela zokuyekelela ozenzayo ukuze ndihlale ndonwabile. Njengokuba xa uzinqumle kubahlobo bakho, okanye uxelele usapho lwakho asinakuyenza le mpelaveki. Oko kundenza ndizive ndikhulu.

Kulungile, ndiziva ndisiba mbi malunga naloo nto ngoku, kuba ndinomzuzu omncinci wenyaniso yangaphakathi, kodwa kungenjalo ndiyayithanda indlela ondinika ngayo ukubaluleka okukhulu.

Nazi ezinye izinto endizithandayo ngawe

Xa ukwigumbi lethu lokulala, ukhala uthe cwaka kuba ndikhe ndakuyekisa ukwenza nantoni na enokunika umbono wokuxabiseka kwakho? Njengokuba ndibucimile ubulungu bakho kwindawo yokwenza umthambo, ndisithi zibiza imali eninzi kakhulu (kodwa emva koko ndaphuma ndaya kuzithengela izihlangu ezintsha ezibiza kakhulu, ndikuxelela ukuba indoda yesikhundla sam ifuna izihlangu ezilungileyo).

Ndiyayithanda indlela endikwazi ngayo ukukuqinisekisa ukuba awusoze ube neqabane elikhulu nelinenkathalo njengam ungakhe ucinge ngokundishiya.

Ndiyayithanda indlela okholelwa ngayo xa ndikuxelela ukuba nguwe ophambeneyo okanye osweleyo xa undicela ukuba ndihlale phantsi sithethe "ngemiba yethu yobudlelwane." Xa ndikuxelele-kuya kufuneka ushiye ukuba awuyithandi indlela izinto eziyiyo, ngekhe.

Wenza i-ego yam izive ilungile

Ndikuthandile ukukubona uzama ukusebenza kubudlelwane wedwa, kunye neencwadi zakho zokuzinceda malunga nokuzama ukuqonda ukuba isebenza njani ingqondo yengqondo. Ude waya kunyangi! Yonke le misebenzi inecala elinye, yenzelwe mna kuphela. Oko kuyenza i-ego yam izive ilungile.

Okokugqibela, wawunolindelo oluqinisekileyo kum nakwinto ubudlelwane obungakunika yona. Kwaye yile ndlela ekufanele ukuba yiyo. Ngenxa yokuba andinakuze ndikwazi ukukunika nantoni na-konke oko kungqonge mna.

Ndiyayithanda indlela eliye lancitshiswa ngayo ilizwe lakho ukuze lihlelwe kwiimfuno zam, iimoods kunye neminqweno. Awusabuzi nto. Kodwa ujonge kakhulu kwinto endinokuyenza ngokulandelayo. Xa uziva umsindo wam usakha umsindo, uye kwindawo ethe qwa, uzama ukundithulisa, undisasaze, ubuyele “esiqhelweni.” Ngamandla am lawo! Kuyandonwabisa ukukubona unika, unika, unika kwaye ungaze ubuze nantoni na.

Ewe ewe, ndiyakuthanda. Kodwa kungenxa yokuba unoluhlobo lobuntu olunokusetyenziselwa ukukhonza iimfuno zam. Ndivile ukuba umzuzu esadibana ngawo, kwaye ndawasebenzisa. Unokwenza ngcono, ewe, kodwa ngekhe ndikuyeke ucinge njalo.

Ugqirha wakho

Ewe, le leta yinyani. Kodwa ibonakalisa ngokuchanekileyo oko kuqhubeka kwingqondo yomntu othanda izinto zoburhalarhume. Ukuba unamathele kolu hlobo lobudlelwane, nceda wenze konke onako ukuphuma. Ufanelwe ngcono, ngaphandle kwento exelelwa liqabane lakho.