Umxholo
- Kutheni ubudlelwane buphela ngequbuliso?
- "Lowo" uvelisa iimpawu ezifihliweyo kuwe
- Intlungu yokulahlekelwa ngu "one" ayizukuhlala
Uyazi ukuba uziva njani xa udibana nomntu kwaye ube nelaa kwangoko? Oo mabhabhathane uziva esiswini sakho nanini na xa bengena egumbini? Uyayazi ukuba ndithetha ngantoni. Xa nobabini niyibetha kwasekuqaleni, nithetha iiyure malunga nayo yonke into, nilala iyure enye kuba ninolu lonwabo lokuba nidibene "nomnye". Olo thando lothando luyamangalisa! Ke uqala ukujonga ikamva kunye kwaye uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba omnye umntu ukwelo phepha linye.
Ngaphandle kwendawo, iyaphela. Ayisiyontliziyo yakho kuphela eyaphukileyo, kodwa uthathe isimanga kuba khange uyibone isiza. Yonke into ibonakala ilungile, nobabini kwiphepha elinye ... ubuncinci ucinga. Konakele phi? Ndiyazi ukuba oku akukhuthazi ukuba usentlungwini yokwahlukana, kodwa ndive. Ndifuna uqonde ukuba kutheni lo ubucinga ukuba angangumhlobo wakho osenyongweni ngonaphakade, wagqibela ngokuba yeyona nto ungazange ubenayo.
Ekuziqhelaniseni kwam, ndisebenze nabathengi abaninzi abadibene nabantu abaneempawu zonke kuluhlu lwabo, kwaye bonwabile xa bekunye naloo mntu ukhethekileyo. Ngelishwa, ubudlelwane buphela ngendlela engalindelekanga ngenxa yeemeko ezingalawulekiyo okanye ezingaguqukiyo. Ezi meko nangona kunjalo, zezizathu ezilungileyo kakhulu, nokuba azive ngathi ziyathanda.
Kutheni ubudlelwane buphela ngequbuliso?
Zonke ubudlelwane (ezothando, ubuhlobo, ishishini, njl. Banqumla iindlela zethu ukuze bakhanyisele iimpawu ezintle esingazamkeliyo, esinazo nesinamava azo. Ycinge. Kukangaphi apho unokufumana khona iimpawu malunga "naleyo" yamenza waba nomtsalane kakhulu? Mhlawumbi ukhe wathi, "Yena okanye uzise eyona nto intle kum!" Qikelela ukuba? Bakhuphe eyona nto intle kuwe! Nangona kunjalo, ngumsebenzi wakho ukugcina okona kulungileyo uhamba. Bazalisekisile isabelo sabo sasemoyeni kunye nawe ngokukutsalela kwiimpawu zabo ezikutyhila kwiimpawu ezintle ongaziboniyo kuwe. Nangona kunjalo, yayingezizo izabelo zabo zokuhlala.
"Lowo" uvelisa iimpawu ezifihliweyo kuwe
Asinakho ukubona okanye ukuxabisa iimpawu komnye umntu esingaziboniyo okanye esingazixabisanga kuthi. "Lowo" akakhange akhuphe kuphela ezi mpawu zakho, kodwa bakwenze ukuba neempawu ezifihlwe ngaphakathi kuwe. Akakho omnye umntu onokukwenza uzive okanye ube yiyo nantoni na owawungekho kuyo. Akukho mntu "omnye," kuba wonke umntu odibana naye nguye. Wonke umntu ongatshatanga onobudlelwane naye (kwakhona hayi nje kwezothando) liqabane lomphefumlo, kuba bayakufundisa izifundo zomphefumlo kunye nekharityhulamu yobomi.
Intlungu yokulahlekelwa ngu "one" ayizukuhlala
Ndikholelwe, ndiyaqonda ukuba ndiziva ndiphazamisekile ngenxa yokuphulukana nalowo ubucinga ukuba "ngoyena" Isenokungavakali ngathi inje ngoku, kodwa le imvakalelo kukuphelelwa lithemba kwexesha elifutshane. Owona monakalo wexesha elide uya kuba kukungazamkeli ngokwenyani ezo mpawu zimangalisayo uzibonileyo kunye / okanye ufumene amava ngazo. Khumbula, awukhatywa, babelwe kuphela injongo ethile. Injongo yalo naluphi na ulwalamano kukuba sifunde kwaye
ukukhula eluthandweni; komnye umntu nakuthi. Injongo yobudlelwane ayikokusenza sonwabe ngenxa yobudlelwane, okanye ukuzalisekisa izinto ezingenanto ebomini bethu. Kuya kufuneka usebenze ngeentlungu ukuze ufike kwinjongo yolwalamano lwakho, kwaye nendlela ekufanele ikukhonze ngayo.
Nangona ubukho bokwenyani bo "mnye" busenokungabikho, iimpawu obuthandile ngazo ziya kuhlala zezakho. Ngoba? Kungenxa yokuba into oyithandayo ngabo, zezona mpawu zimangalisayo zifunyanwa ngaphakathi kuni. Xa ekugqibeleni ukhupha eyona nto intle kuwe, uya kuba nakho ukwabelana ngayo "nalowo" ukhupha ezona zibalaseleyo kubo. Akukho sidingo sokuyikhangela komnye umntu emehlweni, ezingalweni, okanye ebhedini. Yeka ukuzibuza ukuba umntu olandelayo oza kudibana naye "inguye" kuba Lowo ujonge emehlweni akho kwaye ulindele ukuba umbone lonke ixesha. Umntu ojonga ngasemva esipilini ngulo ukhupha eyona BEST kuwe.