Umxholo
- Indlela umzali onxibelelana ngayo neengxabano emtshatweni
- Iimpikiswano ezonakalisayo zabazali kunye nezinto abazenzayo ebantwaneni
- Iindlela eziphilileyo zokuphikisana
Awukho umtshato onokubakho ngaphandle kwengxabano kwaphela. Ayisiyonyani nje kwaphela ukulindela imeko enjalo, kodwa inokuthathwa njengolwalamano olungenampilo. Xa abantu ababini besabelana ngobomi babo, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubakho uxinzelelo. Ukuba iyaqhubeka ingasonjululwanga kwaye icinezelwe ngenxa yekhaya elingenangxabano, ayizukufundisa abantwana bakho ukusombulula ukungqubana ngokukuko, kwaye ayizukuzisa ulwaneliseko onqwenela ukuba lube njalo. Nangona kunjalo, xa usilwa, inokuba ngumqolo owonakalisayo okanye umntu omdala, utshintshiselwano olusempilweni.
Indlela umzali onxibelelana ngayo neengxabano emtshatweni
Ukuphikisana akuthinteli nawuphi na umtshato, ngakumbi xa kukho abantwana. Izifundo ezininzi zibonise ukuba ukuba nomntwana kunegalelo kubunzulu beengxaki zomtshato. Ngesiquphe, abatshati bazifumana bephithizela kwiindawo, uxanduva, amaxhala kunye notshintsho ekungekho mntu unokulungiselela lona.
Ewe ufunda ngayo kwaye uve malunga nayo, kodwa ayikude ude uzifumane sele ungumzali ukuba ubuqonde ngokwenyani utshintsho olo. Ngaba ngamaqabane kubuzali, kwaye ubuninzi bobomi bakho bakudala (kunye nothando) luphuma ngefestile. Unalo ixesha elincinci omnye nomnye, kunye nomonde omncinci weziphene zomnye nomnye.
Ngokudabukisayo, kanye xa ufuna iqabane lakho ukuba likuxhase kakhulu, kwaye xa kufanelekile ukuba nilwe njengeqela, nigqibela ngokulwa rhoqo.
Into ekufuneka usoloko uyikhumbula kukuba esi sisigaba nje. Ungoyisa kwaye ubuyele kwisibini esonwabileyo. Inokuqhubeka iminyaka, nangona kunjalo, yiyo loo nto kufuneka ulwe nengxaki ngokukuko.
Iimpikiswano ezonakalisayo zabazali kunye nezinto abazenzayo ebantwaneni
Kukho indlela elungileyo nengalunganga yokunxibelelana ngokubanzi. Kuyafana nakwimpikiswano yomtshato. Ungasebenzisa ukungavumelani ukusondela komnye nomnye kwaye uzibonakalise ngelixa uhlonipha omnye umntu. Okanye unako, njengoko izibini ezininzi zisenza, vumela konke ukungavisisani kujike kube ngumlo onzima.
Imilo eyonakalisayo yingxaki iyodwa kubo nakuluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane. Kodwa, xa kukho abantwana ababukeleyo, iba ngaphezulu kwamava oxinzelelo kuwe. Ibuhlungu impilo yabantwana bakho yengqondo. Inokude ishiye amanxeba asisigxina ezingqondweni zabo ezisencinci, inokuthatha iminyaka yokufumana iingcebiso ebudaleni ukuyisombulula.
Ke yintoni impikiswano etshabalalisayo? Kukho izicwangciso ezimbalwa kwimpikiswano ezisetyenziswa ngabazali eziqinisekisiweyo ukonakalisa impilo yabantwana. Kukuhlukumeza ngamazwi (ukuthukwa, ukubizwa ngamagama, ukugrogrisa ngokushiya), ubundlongondlongo bomzimba, ubuchule bokuthula (ukunganyamezeli) isisombululo sokwenyani).
Kukuphinda phinda ukusetyenziswa kwezi ndlela zobutshaba ebantwaneni kukuphazamisa izakhono zabo zokulwa kwaye kubatyhalele kwiimpendulo ezingalunganga. Abanye abantwana banexhala, badandathekile, kwaye baphazamiseka, bade babe nengxaki yeemvakalelo. Abanye bathumela ukungalingani ngokweemvakalelo ngaphandle kwaye babe ndlongondlongo kwaye bayonakalise. Ngayiphi na imeko, ukubakho kweengxaki zentlalo kunye nezifundo kuya kuba phezulu kakhulu.
Ngapha koko, njengoko uqeqesho lubonisa, le micimbi ihlala iqhubekeka nokuba mdala. Abantwana abavela kwiintsapho ezazinemilo emininzi eyonakalisayo babonakala ngathi bafunda ezi ndlela zintle zokunxibelelana kwaye babadlulisele kulwalamano lwabo lwabantu abadala. Ngamagama alula, umntwana ovela kusapho olunjalo unethuba eliphezulu lomtshato ongonwabisiyo kuye.
Iindlela eziphilileyo zokuphikisana
Awudingi koyika impikiswano ngokungathi yeyona nto imbi emhlabeni. Kufuneka ufunde kwaye usebenzise iindlela ezisempilweni zokutshintshiselana ngezimvo. Oku akuyi kubakhusela nje abantwana bakho kuxinzelelo lwengxabano engathandekiyo, kodwa iya kuba ngamava okufunda. Iimpikiswano zakho azizukumenza umntwana wakho abe ethe-ethe ngakumbi, ziya kumenza omelele ngakumbi!
Ke, injani impikiswano enempilo? Umgaqo wokuqala ekufuneka uwukhumbule kukuba-ube novelwano, ububele, kunye nokuzithemba. Ukwiqela elinye (ekulula ukulibala). Soloko uthetha ngentlonipho kwiqabane lakho nangona abantwana bengekho ukuze bahlakulele isiqhelo sokuthetha ngobubele omnye komnye. Musa ukuhlasela kodwa ungazikhuseli.
Khumbula, ufundisa abantwana bakho ukusombulula iingxaki zabo. Bafunda ukuba yintoni elungileyo kwaye yintoni engekhoyo. Ke, eneneni, ungenzi nantoni na ongabacebisi ukuba bayenze abantwana bakho.
Ukuba uziva ngathi ungasebenzisa uncedo lobuchwephesha, isibini esitshatileyo okanye ugqirha wosapho uhlala ulutyalo olukhulu lwexesha kunye nemali. Ngale ndlela, lonke usapho lwakho lunokonwabela ixesha elakhayo nelonelisayo kunye.