Umxholo
- 1. Ncoma rhoqo - kwaye ufumane into ethile
- 2. Cwangcisa ixesha elicacileyo lokumamela
- 3. Ziyeke izinto ezincinci
- 4. Funda iindlela zempixano ezisempilweni
- 5. Yenza izenzo zobubele
- 6. Yamkele into elungileyo
- 7. Zijonge indlela ophendula ngayo
Ukuba unengxaki yokutshata, unokuziva ukhathazekile, ulusizi, okanye uphelelwe lithemba. Umtshato osilelayo ungaziva ngathi ungumgibe, apho kungabikho nto igqitha ngaphaya “kabuhlungu.”
Kwiimeko ezinje, ukufumana unyango okanye ukuzama ukujongana neengxaki zakho kunye njengeqela yingcebiso yobulumko. Kodwa ngaba ikhona into onokuyenza ukuze ugcine umtshato wakho? Uya kumangaliswa kukwazi ukuba ewe, unako.
Ukuba ukhathazekile ngomtshato wakho, zama ezi zinto zisixhenxe zinokuwusindisa.
1. Ncoma rhoqo - kwaye ufumane into ethile
Ukugxekwa qho akwenzi isiseko esihle somtshato. Ukuba ugxeka iqabane lakho kakhulu, uya kubachasa kwaye yonke into izakuziva ilwa.
Zama ukubancoma endaweni yoko. Ukuba benze umgudu, bakwenza wahleka, banobubele kumntu ongamaziyo okanye bancede abantwana ngomsebenzi wesikolo, yithi enkosi. Ukuba uyabathanda uburharha okanye indlela abanomdla ngayo ngezizathu zabo abazithandayo, baxelele.
Kulula kakhulu ukufumana ngokuthe ngqo ukugxeka ("ubunemizuzu engama-40 emva kwexesha!"), Kutheni ungazami ukubalula ngendumiso yakho?
2. Cwangcisa ixesha elicacileyo lokumamela
Omabini la maqela kubudlelwane afanele ukuviwa kwaye aqinisekiswe- kodwa ixesha alisoloko lilungile. Ukuba iqabane lakho lizama ukuthetha nawe ngelixa ujinga ukwenza ukutya kunye nemibuzo yabantwana yesikolo yasekhaya, ngekhe bafumane eyona nto uyiqwalaseleyo.
Endaweni yokubaxukuxa, zama ukuthi "Andikwazi ukuthetha ngale nto ngoku, kodwa masiziphe ixesha lokuhlala phantsi emva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa." Bazise ukuba izinto ezibaxhalabisayo zibalulekile kuwe, uze ulandele ngokuhlala phantsi uthethe nazo.
3. Ziyeke izinto ezincinci
Ukuba uyasokola emtshatweni wakho, kulula kakhulu ukuqala ukukhetha izinto ezincinci ezikucaphukisayo. Ukuba bahlala beshiya isitulo sangasese phezulu, okanye bahlala befumana iinyani ezingachanekanga xa bethetha elo bali linye, ungazifumana sele uthule cwaka.
Kodwa oku akunakunceda ugcine umtshato wakho.
Ukufunda ukuvumela izinto ezincinci ukuba zihambe kuthatha uqeqesho, kodwa iziphumo (ukungabikho koxinzelelo oluncinci macala onke!) Kufanelekile. Thatha umoya ophefumlayo, ubale ukuya kwishumi, kwaye uzikhumbuze ngokulula ukuba ezinye izinto azibalulekanga kangako.
4. Funda iindlela zempixano ezisempilweni
Ukuba uneengxaki zomtshato, amathuba okuba ujongene neengxabano ezininzi. Amanqaku okungavisisani anokuvela ngokulula abe ziimpikiswano ezishiya nobabini nicaphukile. Ingxabano rhoqo iya kukwenza uzive ngathi umtshato wakho uza kutshabalala.
Kungenxa yoko le nto ukufunda iindlela zempixano ezisempilweni kunokunceda ugcine umtshato wakho. Ukuba ungafunda ukumamela ngaphandle komgwebo kwaye ujonge kwisisombululo kunokuba uphumelele, uya kubona umohluko omkhulu. Yenza ukhetho lokuthetha ngentlonipho, umamele ngobubele, kwaye uyeke ukurhuqa ixesha elidlulileyo.
5. Yenza izenzo zobubele
Ngaba ubungaphendula ngcono kumntu ongakuhoyiyo akuphathe njengocaphukisayo, okanye umntu okuphathe kakuhle? Kusengqiqweni kakhulu, kodwa kulula ukulibala ukuba izenzo zakho zichaphazela isiphumo osifumanayo.
Bonisa iqabane lakho uthando kunye nobubele, kwaye unokumangaliswa kukuphilisa okuninzi kwenzeka. Thatha umsebenzi abawuthiyileyo, ubothuse ngokutya okuthandayo, okanye ulungiselele ubusuku obumnandi nobabini.
Ezi zinto zincinci azizukugcina umtshato wakho, kodwa ziya kukhuthaza indawo enobubele elungele ukujongana nemicimbi emikhulu kunye.
6. Yamkele into elungileyo
Ukwazi izinto ezintle emtshatweni wakho kuya kukunceda ube nethemba loku. Unokufumana incwadana kwaye wenze uluhlu lwezinto ezilungileyo. Mhlawumbi uliqela elihle le-DIY. Mhlawumbi wabelana ngamaxabiso asisiseko, okanye niyazi ukuba nihlekisana njani.
Ukujonga okulungileyo kuya kuqeqesha ingqondo yakho ukuze ubone okungakumbi. Xa ungena kule mindset, izinto ezimbi ziba lula ukujongana nazo, kuba awoyiswa zizo.
Khangela iindlela zokomeleza okuhle emtshatweni wakho ngokuchitha ixesha usenza izinto eziza nezona zibalaseleyo kuni nobabini- kwaye ungalibali ukuxelela iqabane lakho zonke izinto ozithandayo ngokutshata nabo.
7. Zijonge indlela ophendula ngayo
Awunakho- kwaye akufuneki! - lawula amagama nezenzo zeqabane lakho, kodwa ungagcina iso kwindlela ophendula ngayo.
Indlela esiziphendula ngayo inokwenza imeko ibe mandundu ngakumbi. Ukuba uzibhaqa uphithizela okanye ulungisa impindezelo, thatha umoya kwaye ubuye umva kwimeko. Ukuba ufuna njalo, yenza inkathalo ngokwakho njengokucamngca, iyoga okanye ikomityi yekofu ethuleyo yokubuyisela ibhalansi yakho.
Ukuba ungasondela kwiingxaki uzolile, azizukubonakala zingenakoyiswa.
Ngamanye amaxesha into egcina umtshato ayisiyonto inkulu kodwa zininzi izinto ezincinci ezongeza kulwalamano olusempilweni. Zama ezi ndlela namhlanje- ungazisebenzisa ukwakha isiseko sokondla kunye nembeko apho ungaya phambili kunye.