Umxholo
- 1. Ukujonga ixesha lokudibana kosapho
- 2. Ukugxininisa ekunyanisekeni nasekuthembeni
- 3. Ukwabelana ngoxanduva
Usapho-ligama elithetha into eyahlukileyo kuye wonke umntu kuba lonke usapho lwahlukile.
Kodwa ngesiqhelo, xa sisiva igama elithi usapho, silinxulumanisa nento eyonwabileyo, into evuyisayo. Kodwa, ayizizo zonke iintsapho ezonwabileyo okanye ubuncinci ezingonwabanga ixesha elininzi.
Ewe siya kuhlala siluthanda usapho lwethu, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha izinto zinokuba nzima kwaye endaweni yokuncedana siqala ukuthintelana.
Usapho kufuneka lube sisikhumbuzo esimnandi sokuba nokuba kwenzeka ntoni kuhlala ikhona indawo onokubuyela kuyo kunye nomntu oza kuhlala enomqolo wakho. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ukuze ube nosapho olonwabileyo, kuya kufuneka uzame kancinci.
Ke ngoko, kwiposti yanamhlanje, sivelisa iimfihlo ezi-3 ezilula kusapho olungenaxinzelelo, ukonwaba, kunye nosapho olusempilweni.
1. Ukujonga ixesha lokudibana kosapho
Uninzi lweentsapho ezinobunzima bokuvana kunye nabanye uninzi lwabo aluchithi ixesha elaneleyo kunye. Kwaye abanye, nokuba bachitha ixesha bekunye, zonke iincoko zabo zihlala zivela ekugwebeni nasekugxekaneni.
Ngeso sizathu, akwanelanga ukuchitha ixesha elininzi nabantu obathandayo-kufuneka ibe lixesha elisemgangathweni. Endaweni yokugxeka, yiza nezisombululo ezifanelekileyo kwaye unike uncedo lwakho, ngakumbi ukuba ungumzali. Bonke abantwana bafuna ukuba nabazali babo ecaleni kwabo, nokuba kunjani.
Ngelishwa, xa abazali bengafumani xesha lokuchitha nosapho, abantwana yeyona nto banokuhlupheka kwaye ekugqibeleni, xa bekhula, banokuphela bengabo abangayi kuba nexesha losapho.
Ukujonga ezi zinto, ukukhulisa usapho yeyona nto inzima emhlabeni kuba zonke izigqibo ozenzayo zinokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwikamva labantwana bakho.
Elinye lawona macebiso abaluleke kakhulu kusapho olonwabileyo kukuthatha ixesha lokudibanisa ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle kwaye kunokonwaba kakhulu onokubanako ngelixa ubopha.
Ungaya kwi-adventure kwindawo engaqhelekanga okanye kwihlathi elikufutshane, ungapheka kunye, nisoloko ninesidlo esinye kunye, nibe nomdlalo webhodi ubusuku kanye ngenyanga, okanye nibe nobusuku be-movie kanye ngeveki.
2. Ukugxininisa ekunyanisekeni nasekuthembeni
Yonke into yosapho iyalwa okanye ungquzulwano luqala kuba umntu ebenganyanisekanga okanye ebefihla into- nto leyo intle ngokufanayo. Ke ngoko, okukhona uxoka kwaye ufihla izinto kusapho lwakho, kokukhona imeko iya kuba mbi ekhaya.
Yinto eyaziwayo ukuba elinye lamaqhosha egolide okuba nolwalamano olukhulu kukunyaniseka.
Ukunyaniseka kuza nentembelo- ebaluleke kakhulu kulo naluphi na ulwalamano olusempilweni- kunye nokuzithemba, kuza nembeko- esisiseko salo naluphina usapho olonwabileyo.
Abazali bahlala bexokisa abantwana babo malunga neemeko zabo zezemali ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo eziqondakalayo, kodwa oko akukwenzi ukuxoka kulungile. Umzekelo, ukuba awuhambanga kakuhle, abantwana bakho kufuneka baqonde ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngayo.
Ngaphandle koko, abantwana bakho banokucinga ukuba unako ukuthenga izinto ezibizayo kodwa awufuni kuba ungabathandi ngokwaneleyo.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba uluhlobo lwesityebi kwaye unokufikelela kuzo zonke izinto ezifunwa ngabantwana bakho, ubeka emngciphekweni wokuzonakalisa. Yiyo loo nto abanye abazali bekhetha ukuxoka - kuba kulula - ke umntwana akazukuphinda abe ngumkhwenyana owonakeleyo.
Kungcono uthembeke kwaye uchaze umntwana wakho ukuba kufuneka usebenze kwaye usebenzele izinto ebomini kuba akukho nto iza simahla. Ungabavuza ngeethoyi ngokwenza imisetyenzana elula- ngale ndlela uyabafundisa indlela elisebenza ngayo ilizwe.
Ukunyaniseka kuza nezifundo ezintle zobomi bomntwana wakho kwaye ekugqibeleni kunokuba yenye yeempawu zabo zobuntu.
Zizinto ezimbi kuphela ezinokuza nokuxoka- khumbula oku nanini na xa uxoka kubonakala ngathi sisisombululo esilula kuzo zonke iingxaki zakho.
3. Ukwabelana ngoxanduva
Zininzi izinto ekufuneka zenziwe endlwini, ngakumbi xa abantwana, ngawo onke amandla abo, banokuba ziinkanyamba ezincinci kwaye benze ukungcola ngaphakathi kwemizuzu nje emva kokuchitha iyure enye ucoca indawo.
Endaweni yokudala ungquzulwano endlwini, ungafundisa abantwana bakho obathandayo malunga noxanduva.
Xa imisebenzi yahlulahlulwe kwaye onke amalungu osapho eyihlonipha eyabo indima, ususa yonke ingxabano enokubakho.
Ngapha koko, unokwenza imisebenzi emnandi ngokuyijika ibe ngumdlalo. Umzekelo, kwimisebenzi nganye, ufumana inkwenkwezi yegolide kwaye kwi-25 yeenkwenkwezi zegolide, ufumana ibhaso.
Uxanduva lokufundisa kunokuba ngumsebenzi onzima, kodwa ngenkuthazo efanelekileyo, ungazisombulula zonke iingxaki zakho.
Ke ngoko, ukunqanda konke ukungavisisani kuba indlu ihlala igcwele isiphithiphithi, phumeza imeko yoxanduva kubomi babantwana bakho - nto leyo eya kwenza ukuba ubomi babantwana bakho bube lula kakhulu xa bekhula, kwaye nezinto zongquzulwano zishenxisiwe, Usapho lunokonwaba ngakumbi.
Bukela le vidiyo ye-Clinical Psychologist uGqirha Paul Jenkins ethetha ngeendlela zokunceda abantwana ukuba babe noxanduva kwaye bafunde nendlela yokwazi ukuba bakulungele na:
Amaqokobhe enathi
Usapho kuhlala kufanelekile ukululwela kuba, ngamanye amaxesha, inokuba yiyo yonke into onayo- abahlobo bokwexeshana, usapho lwakho alunjalo. Ke ukuba izinto azihambi kakuhle mva nje kusapho lwakho, lixesha lokuba uthathe amanyathelo okwakha ubomi bosapho obonwabisayo. Ngokunika ixesha elisemgangathweni omnye komnye, ukunyaniseka nokwabelana ngoxanduva, unokuyenza ngokulula loo nto!