Umxholo
- 1. Qala kwangethuba
- 2. Thintela ukukhula kokuziphatha okungalunganga ebantwaneni
- 3. Fundisa abantwana ngokubaluleka kothando lomntwana wakowenu
- 4. Yenza itheyibhile yokuhlola isimo sengqondo
- 5. Bafundise indlela yokuthobela omnye komnye
- 6. Bathande abantwana bakho ngokulinganayo
- 7. Bafundise umonde
- 8. Vumela abantwana bachithe ixesha elininzi kunye
- 9. Vumela abantwana bajongane
- 10. Bayeke abantwana bakho baziva besondele omnye komnye
- 11. Yenza abantwana bazilungiselele ngokwabo izinto
- 12. Unganqikazi ukuncoma abantwana bakho
- 13. Bayeke abantwana badlale kunye
- 14. Bafundise ukuhloniphana indawo kunye nezinto zabo
- Iingcinga zokugqibela
Ngaba ungumzali? Unabantwana abangaphezu kwesinye? Ngaba bayathandana okanye akunjalo? Wakhe wabava besebeza besoyikelana? Okanye ngaba zihlala zineengxabano ezikhokelela kukuxabana? Okanye ngaba babelana ngento ethandwa luthando?
Umntwana ngamnye unobuntu.
Ukuvela kweengxabano ezibangelwe kukungahambelani kuhlala kusenzeka kusapho. Ukufundisa abantwana bakho ukuba bathande abantakwenu noodadewenu ngumsebenzi obalulekileyo kubazali abafana nawe. Ngaloo ndlela, wena nabantwana bakho ninekhaya elonwabileyo.
Ukukhulisa abantakwenu ukuba bathandane kunye nokufumana iindlela zokukhulisa olo thando phakathi kwabantwana ngamanye amaxesha kubuhlungu. Kodwa kunokwenzeka.
Nazi iindlela zokukunceda ukhulise abantwana bakho ukuba bathandane.
Iindlela ezintle zokukhulisa abantwana abathandanayo kwaye bayakhathalelana
1. Qala kwangethuba
Nokuba unolutsha, alukashiywa lixesha.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unosana, usana oluncinci, okanye umntwana omncinci, unethamsanqa. Unethuba elihle lokuqalisa kwangoko ngokubafundisa ukuba bakhulise uthando lwabantakwabo.
Bafundise ukubaluleka kokuvana nabantakwabo kunye nokuphathana kakuhle. Ngaphandle koko, abantwana bangamaphepha angenanto, kwaye baxelisa zonke izenzo zabo babangqongileyo.
Ke, unokwenza umzekelo ukuba abantwana bakho baxelise.
2. Thintela ukukhula kokuziphatha okungalunganga ebantwaneni
Musa ukubavumela ukuba babe neendlela zokuziphatha ezimbi ezichaphazela omnye nomnye.
Njengomntwana, abanye abantu bake baba yingxowa yakho. Yayiluvuyo lomntwana ngelo xesha, kodwa hayi amaxhoba. Kulabo banamava afanayo, bayabacaphukela okanye babathiya abazalwana babo.
Xa bekhulile, ezo mvakalelo zinokuthi zitshintshe, kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba azikusondelanga.
Ke ngoko, musa ukuvumela ubundlobongela bukhule phakathi kwabantwana bakho. Musa ukubavumela balwe okanye benzele izinto ezingenabubele omnye komnye.
Ukuba benza izinto ezinjalo, bohlwaye, kwaye ubafundise indlela yokuziphatha efanelekileyo.
3. Fundisa abantwana ngokubaluleka kothando lomntwana wakowenu
Abazali kufuneka bahlale bebakhumbuza ngobukho babo. Yibone njengentsikelelo yokwabelana njengentsapho. Unokwenza iidayari ukugcina imifanekiso yabantwana kanye kwinqanaba labo lokuzalwa. Imizuzu esondeleyo, amaxesha okudlala kunye kufuneka arekhodwe. Xa kufika ixesha lokuphonononga le mifanekiso, abantwana baya kuthandana ngakumbi.
Abazali banokubuza nemibuzo emincinci malunga nendlela abacinga ngayo.
Umzekelo -
“Yintoni othanda ukuyidlala nodadewenu / ubhuti wakho? Ufuna ukumenzela ntoni udade / umntakwenu? ... “
4. Yenza itheyibhile yokuhlola isimo sengqondo
Kukho imisebenzi yothando yabantwana abasaqala isikolo ukuphuhlisa isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kubo besebancinci.
Olu luvo ngokungathandabuzekiyo luya kuba yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokunceda abantwana baqonde indlela abaziphethe ngayo kunye namagama. Abazali kufuneka basebenze nabantwana babo ukwenza uvavanyo lwesimo sengqondo, esiya kuthi, kuxhomekeke ekunene, kumndilili, kwaye hayi kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo, eliya kunceda abantwana bavavanye isenzo sabo kubantakwabo kusuku olunye okanye iveki.
Abazali kufuneka babe nembuyekezo ngokuziphatha kakuhle.
5. Bafundise indlela yokuthobela omnye komnye
Ukufundisa abantwana ukuba bafunde ukuhlala bethobekile ikwayindlela efanelekileyo yokuvuselela uthando ebantwaneni.
Abazali kufuneka basoloko bebakhuthaza abantwana ukuba babuze imibuzo malunga nobulungisa.
Umzekelo -
"Ungalunga njani?". Kwaye vumela umntwana aphendule lo mbuzo ungasentla.
Endaweni yokukhwaza nokunyanzela abantwana ukuba bayeke ukudlala xa bexabana, abazali kufuneka babavumele ukuba bafumane esona sisombululo sisiso kubo bobabini.
6. Bathande abantwana bakho ngokulinganayo
Ukubonisa uthando kubantwana bakho yenye yeendlela zokubafundisa ukuba bathande njani. Babonise ukuba uthando aluyi kubenza bazive benomona, kunoko uthando luya kubakhuthaza ukuba bakwazi ukuhlala kunye.
Ukuba baziva bethandwa, baya kubonisa uthando kwabanye.
7. Bafundise umonde
Umonde luphawu oluhle kwaye ufanele ukuhlonitshwa.
Akululanga ukuba neempawu ezintle, kwaye kufuna ukuzeyisa nokuqonda. Ngokukodwa kubantakwenu abadala, umonde usenokuba mbalwa, kunye nonxunguphalo lunokuthatha.
Ngokufundisa umonde, abantwana baya kuba nokuqonda ngakumbi nokunyamezelana kubantakwabo.
8. Vumela abantwana bachithe ixesha elininzi kunye
Xa abantu bechitha ixesha bedlala kunye, iimvakalelo kumalungu osapho ziya kukhula zibasondeze njengentsapho enye enkulu, eyonwabileyo.
Iintsapho ziyavuya xa zichitha impela-veki zazo kunye. Abazali kufuneka bakhethe ixesha ngeempelaveki lokuchitha ixesha elifanelekileyo nabantwana babo. Le ntshukumo iya kudala iinkumbulo ezintle kubantwana.
Ikwayindlela yokudibanisa amalungu osapho kunye.
9. Vumela abantwana bajongane
Ayisiwo umdlalo kuphela owenza ukuba imeko yosapho lwakho ibenomdla ngakumbi kwaye ibemnandi, kodwa ikwayindlela yabantwana yokubona ubuso babanye. Ukuba uyaziqonda ngakumbi iimvakalelo, uya kuba novelwano ngakumbi kwaye uyazi ukuba ungaphendula njani kwiimvakalelo zomntakwenu xa nikunye yonke imihla.
Olu luvo lunceda abantwana ukuba baqonde ngakumbi oodade kwaye bathintele ukubakho kwengxabano.
10. Bayeke abantwana bakho baziva besondele omnye komnye
Kuhlala kukho umgca ocacileyo phakathi kwabantu abadala nabantwana. Kutheni le nto oomama bengasebenzisi elo xesha ukugxininisa ukusondelelana abanako kunye?
Abazali banokwenza ikona yokuba abantwana babo badlale kunye okanye babavumele ukuba balale kunye ukuze babone ukuba bazokwabelana njani kwigumbi lokulala. Ikwayindlela yokunceda abantwana babelane kwaye bathandane ngakumbi, baphephe ukuxabana ebomini.
11. Yenza abantwana bazilungiselele ngokwabo izinto
Nceda umntwana wakho aphuhlise izakhono zokusombulula ingxaki yokusombulula kunye nendlela yokusebenza kwiqela ukwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo kunye. Endaweni yokuba uthathe iremote yeTV ukhethe amajelo akho owathandayo, nceda ufundise abantwana bakho indlela yokuvumela omnye nomnye njengokucela ukutshintshana ekubukeleni loo majelo.
Unokuthi: “Ukuba ungakhetha inkqubo oza kuyibukela, siza kuyibukela kunye emva kwexesha lesidlo sasemini” emva koko uyeke abantwana bazinze. Ikwayindlela efanelekileyo yokuba abantwana bangaphikisani kwaye bathandane ngakumbi.
12. Unganqikazi ukuncoma abantwana bakho
Abazali akufuneki banciphise ukuncoma kwabo abantwana babo, babazise ukuba benza okungalunganga kwaye babayalele ukuba bayeke.
Kodwa ungalibali ukubancoma xa beqonda ukuba bayathobela. Xa nidlala kunye, kuya kufuneka undixelele ukuba wonwabile kwaye unebhongo.
Uthando lomntakwenu luzisa izibonelelo ezininzi ebantwaneni.
Kwixesha elizayo, abantwana baya kuyazi indlela yokumodareyitha ubudlelwane babo noontanga babo, bazi indlela yokusombulula ukungavisisani ngendlela elungileyo, bazi indlela yokuhlengahlengisa iimvakalelo ngcono kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, bahlala bonwabile.
13. Bayeke abantwana badlale kunye
Ukudlala umdlalo weqonga yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokunceda abantwana baziqhelanise nezakhono zentlalo kunye nokwakha ubuhlobo. Ukufumana iskripthi esifanelekileyo, abantwana kufuneka bahoye isenzo somnye, ngokudibanisa izimvo zabantu.
Lo mdlalo weqonga nawo uyonwabisa xa abantwana bedlala kunye. Inceda nabantwana ukuba baphephe ukuba nengxabano ebomini babo.
14. Bafundise ukuhloniphana indawo kunye nezinto zabo
Imida yobuqu ibalulekile kubantu abaninzi. Kwaye xa umda woyisiwe, ukungqubana kuhlala kwenzeka.
Kuya kufuneka ufundise abantwana bakho ukuba ngamanye amaxesha abantu bafuna nje ukuba bodwa. Kwaye ukuba bafuna ukuboleka into yokudlala okanye enye ipropathi, kufuneka bacele imvume. Akufuneki bathathe nje kwabanye kwaye bacinge ukuba yonke into iza kulunga.
Khathalela kakuhle ubomi bakho bomtshato.
Oku kuya kunceda abantwana ukuba baphile kwaye bafundiswe kwindawo efanelekileyo.
Iingcinga zokugqibela
Ukukhulisa abantwana abakhulayo nabathandanayo ayisiyonto ilula leyo.
Ifuna inkqubo ende kunye nomonde wabazali. Sukuphelelwa ngumonde xa usenza iimpazamo, ngabantwana kuphela, kwaye bafuna wena ubakhokelele kwicala elifanelekileyo.