Umxholo
- 1. Kuphephe ezine ubudlelwane killers
- 2. Ziqhelise ukuba novelwano
- 3. Qonda ukuba neqabane lakho loyike
- 4. Yazi ukuba olu luvavanyo olukhulu ubudlelwane bakho
- 5. Yiba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo kwiqabane lakho
Iinyanga ezimbini ukuya kwezintathu zokuvalelwa ngenxa yobhubhane wehlabathi uya kuvavanya ubudlelwane obomeleleyo. Nditsho nabantu abanemitshato emangalisayo banenkxalabo yokuba amaqabane abo angabaqhuba ukuba baphambane ukuphela kwayo.
Endaweni yokuba nexhala, ndifuna ukuba uphucule umtshato wakho, ngokuzicingela njengo ukuvela ngokuzimela wedwa kweli hlobo ngomtshato onamandla kunakuqala.
Uyawomeleza umtshato ngokulandela amanyathelo ambalwa omtshato ongcono.
Ndiyazi kuba ndingumlamli woqhawulo mtshato. Ndingumqeqeshi woqhawulo mtshato, apho ndigxila ekugcineni izibini ekufuneni umlamli. Yonke imihla ndibona iindlela abantu abathandanayo ababuthabatha lula ubudlelwane babo, kunye nento abanokuyenza endaweni yoko ukomeleza ulwalamano lwabo.
Jonga kwakhona:
Nazi iingcebiso ezintlanu zokuphucula umtshato wakho, uzive ukhuselekile emtshatweni wakho, woyise ukudideka ngokweemvakalelo emtshatweni kwaye ugcine umtshato womelele kuyo yonke i-COVID-19 yokuzahlula kwaye uphephe isifo "sokugqibela sendiza".
Nasi isicwangciso sokuhlangula sokugqibela sokuphucula umtshato wakho.
1. Kuphephe ezine ubudlelwane killers
Kukho amaxesha, nakowona mtshato wonwabileyo, xa iqabane lakho likucaphukisa okanye likwenza ube nomsindo.
Ukuziva ezi mvakalelo kusempilweni.
Sebenzisa ukugxeka, ukuzikhusela, indelelo, okanye ukubetha ngamatye ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho kuya kuyenza imeko esele isiba mandundu ngakumbi kwaye kuthintele iinzame zakho zokuphucula umtshato wakho.
Ngenye imini umhlobo ubize nebali endicinga ukuba libonelela ngomzekeliso olungileyo:
Umyeni wakhe wathi uza kuya evenkileni ayokufuna ukutya. Wayecinga ukuba oko kuthetha ukuba uza kubuya ekhaya nobisi, isonka, kunye (ukuba nethamsanqa) iphepha langasese. Kunoko wagoduka ephethe iilitha ezimbini zeoli yomnquma — ezazingadingi nto.
Uye wabona ukuba unokhetho olunokuba nefuthe elide kumtshato wakhe ngexesha (nasemva) kokuvalelwa yedwa:
- Unokuthi "ioyile ye-olive? Ingaba ucinga ntoni? Ndizakwenza ntoni ngeelitha ezimbini zeoyile yomnquma? Unokuba sisidenge njani? ”
- Unokuthi "enkosi sithandwa sam, ndiyayixabisa into yokuba uye waleqa lo myalezo."
Ukhethe ukhetho lwesibini kuba ukukhetha ukhetho lokuqala bekuya kuba yindlela ekhawulezayo eya eofisini yam. Xa ekhetha olo khetho, wayeziqhelanisa nengcebiso.
2. Ziqhelise ukuba novelwano
Ngaphambi kokuba ucaphuke kunye neqabane lakho, zama ukuzibeka ezihlangwini zabo ngokwenza uvelwano.
Ingcali yezobuntlola yeemvakalelo uDaniel Goldman uthi: “Ngolu hlobo lovelwano, asiqondi nje imeko yomntu kwaye siziva sinabo kodwa sishukunyiswa ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba sincede xa kufuneka njalo.”
Umhlobo wam waqonda ukuba impendulo yomyeni wakhe inento yokwenza noloyiko kunye nokungakwazi kwakhe "ukulawula" imeko. Ngasizathu sithile esiphume njengokuthatha isigqibo, bafuna iigaloni zeoyile yomnquma.
Xa usenza uvelwano, gcinani engqondweni ukuba yonke into eyenziwa liqabane lakho ngexesha lokuvalelwa liza kuphuma kwindlela amadoda nabafazi abajonga ngayo iimeko zoxinzelelo. Oku kuqonda kuya kuhamba indlela ende ukuba ufuna ukuphucula umtshato wakho kwaye uthintele idrama yobudlelwane engafunekiyo.
Amadoda asombulula iingxaki okanye alungisa abantu. Bajonge emfanekisweni omkhulu. Banokuhlala bezihlaziye ngokupheleleyo iindaba kunye nemeko yezoqoqosho. Banokwenza izijekulo ezinkulu kwaye bathathe iiprojekthi ezinkulu njengendlela yokukhusela usapho.
- Abasetyhini benza into ekufuneka yenziwe ngoku. Ngokuqinisekileyo abafuni ukujonga umfanekiso omkhulu kuba bakhathalela iinkcukacha zangoku. Baza kudwelisa yonke into ekufuneka yenzekile ngoku.
3. Qonda ukuba neqabane lakho loyike
Wonke umntu uyoyika ngoku.
Wonke umntu. Nokuba abayithethi kwaye / okanye bazenze ngathi abayinyani. Uloyiko luphuma ngeendlela ezininzi, kwaye ngaphandle kwenjongo elungileyo yokuphucula umtshato wakho, wena kunye neqabane lakho niyakufumana enye, okanye mhlawumbi ngaphezulu, kwezi mvakalelo ziqhelekileyo:
- Umsindo
- Uxinzelelo
- Ukwanda koxinzelelo
- Ukuba ndindisholo ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukugxininisa kakhulu emsebenzini
Ukuba uphawula ukuba iqabane lakho lisebenza kakhulu kwezi ndlela, nqumama phambi kokuba uthethe nantoni na. Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba uloyiko lwabo lubonakala njani. Kwaye khumbula, usenokusabela ngale ndlela ngokwakho. Sebenzela ekuqapheleni indlela enisabela ngayo nobabini, kwaye mhlawumbi nigqithisa, kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo njengokuhlamba impahla, ukucoca indlu, amanqanaba engxolo ngexesha lomsebenzi, njalo njalo.
4. Yazi ukuba olu luvavanyo olukhulu ubudlelwane bakho
Siphila kwixesha elimangalisayo nelothusayo, kwaye oko kwenza olona vavanyo lukhulu emtshatweni wakho owakha wanalo-kwaye uya kuba nalo. Ukuphucula umtshato wakho ngabom, thetha malunga nento oyifunayo, kwaye unike iqabane lakho indawo ukuba bayayifuna.
- Fumana isithuba sokuba ngamnye wenu abize esakhe. Xa iqabane lakho lisiya kuloo ndawo, hlonipha isidingo sabo sokuba bodwa. Ukuba uhlala kwindlu encinci apho ungenakuzenzela eyakho indawo, yenza indlela yokufumana ixesha elililo, njengokunxiba ii-earphone zokucima ingxolo. Makubekho indawo kubudlelwane bakho, ingawuphucula umtshato wakho. Isithuba kubudlelwane bakho asixhomekeki, sisenzo sokuzikhusela kunye nokuziphucula ngokwakho.
- Ukuba ubona iqabane lakho lidandathekile, lixhalabile, okanye lindindisholo, cinga ngento encinci oyaziyo ukuba bayayithanda. Zoba ibhafu, ubhake cookies, ukhanyise ikhandlela. Izenzo ezincinci zenkonzo zenza umahluko omkhulu. Ukuqiqa kunokuwuphucula umtshato wakho, ngaphandle kwezikhonkwane kunye nemikhombe yobomi bomtshato.
- Cwangcisa amaxesha oza kuthetha ngawo. Buzana ngokuthe ngqo ukuba kufuneka ugcine ntoni engqondweni.
- Nika ingqalelo kuzo zonke izinto ezenziwa liqabane lakho, ulixabise kwaye ulixelele ukuba unombulelo.
5. Yiba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo kwiqabane lakho
Ukuthetha ngeemfuno zakho kubalulekile. Ukumamela iqabane lakho kubalulekile ngokufanayo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho lithetha into ekucaphukisayo okanye ekhathazayo, musa ukuphendula kwangoko. Thatha ixesha lokuqonda impendulo yakho — ngaba uyenza into engaphaya kwamandla akho okanye uyenza krwada?
- Ngaba le nto ithethwa liqabane lakho ibonisa uloyiko lwabo ngoku?
- Ungalubonisa njani uvelwano?
Eli lixesha elifanelekileyo lokushicilela indlela oziva ngayo, ocinga ngayo, kunye nendlela yokuphendula.
Umtshato yinto entle. Ukuziqhelanisa nezi ngcebiso zintlanu kuya kuwuphucula umtshato wakho kwaye kuqinise iqhina lothando kunokuba ubucinga.