Umxholo
La ngamaxesha angaqhelekanga othando nokuthandana. Ngokudibana ubuso ngobuso kunqunyanyisiwe, uninzi lwamadoda nabasetyhini abangatshatanga bajongene nobunzima ekufumaneni umdlalo wabo ogqibeleleyo.
Ingxaki yeCoronavirus inyanzelise ukuba sijonge ezinye iindlela zokufumana ubudlelwane.
Ngenxa yokuba iindawo zokuzonwabisa kulindeleke ukuba zihlale zivaliwe iiveki okanye iinyanga ezininzi, abantu ngoku bayasokola ngezobuchwephesha ezinxulumene nokuthandana- Yintoni onokuyenza xa ungakwazi ukuya kumhla kwibhar okanye kwindawo yokutyela?
Udibana phi xa iimuvi zingenakho ukhetho, kwaye yonke imiboniso icinyiwe?
Nokuba undwendwela umvumisi ngomhla wakho wokuqala ukujonga ukuba ngaba akukho sizathu somhla wesibini awusekho ukhetho (ewe, abantu bayayenza).
Ihlabathi elitsha lokuthandana kwi-Intanethi
Apho kukho umyolelo, kukho indlela. Kwiiveki ezidlulileyo, umhlaba wokuthandana utshintshile ngokukhawuleza ukulungiselela le nyani intsha.
Ewe uthando ngexesha lokutshixa lifumene indlela yokuphuma!
Ukusetyenziswa kokubonakalayo ukuthandana apps iyakhula, abantu basebenza ngakumbi kwimidiya yoluntu, kwaye imihla ebonakalayo iba yinto.
Ewe, abantu abaninzi baye babhenela ekuthandaneni ngokuchanekileyo njengenye indlela yomhla wakudala.
Nangona kunokubonakala ngathi kukulalanisa, ukuthandana okwenyani ngexesha leengxaki zeCoronavirus kunezibonelelo, oko kwenza ukuba ibe lukhetho olufanelekileyo kwabaninzi.
Oku kulandelayo kunikwe ezinye zeenzuzo zokuthandana okwenyani.
1. Ukusondelelana okungakumbi
Ukuthandana ngokuchanekileyo kunokubangela ukusondelelana ngakumbi. Ngelixa uninzi lwabantu lunxulumana nokunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni, ukusondelelana akubandakanyi imisebenzi yesondo okanye ukudibana komzimba ukuze ikhule.
Imihla yeklasikhi igcwele iziphazamiso- ukutya, ubuhle bendawo, umculo, utywala, kunye nabahlobo okwenzeka ukuba ungene kubo.
Izinto ezinjalo zingenza ukuba umhla ubenomdla ngakumbi, kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, abantu bayazisebenzisa njengendawo yokuphepha ukuthintela ukungazinzi okwenzeka ngamanye amaxesha xa abantu ababini abangaziwayo behlangana okokuqala.
Kuhlobo lokwenyani, ukusebenzisana yeyona nto iphambili. Eyona nto kugxilwe kuyo kukwazana.
Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ukusondelelana ngamava kunokukhula. Ikuvumela ukuba wazi omnye nomnye kwinqanaba elinzulu-umdla, izinto ozithandayo, uloyiko, amava kunye nokunye.
2. Uxinzelelo oluncinci kunye nokuhamba okungaphezulu
Ukuthandana okuqhelekileyo akusoloko ngokuthe ngqo. Iingxaki ekuhlangatyezwane nazo, ngakumbi kumhla wokuqala, zinokuba nzima.
Siza kuya phi? Umboniso bhanyabhanya umnandi, kodwa aninakuthetha omnye komnye. Indawo yokutyela iyathandana, kodwa kuthekani ukuba kukho into exabileyo emazinyweni akho?
Ibha imnandi, kodwa ungayifumana phi ibha ethuleyo eyaneleyo, engenanto ngokwaneleyo, kwaye oxakeke ngokwaneleyo ukuba ube nalo mhla ugqibeleleyo? Ngaba beza kunilanda, okanye nidibana apho?
Ngaba mabanyanzelise ekuhlawuleni, okanye kuya kufuneka usabele ukwabelana? Kwaye eyona ngxaki inkulu kuzo zonke - uthini ngokwanga ekupheleni komhla?
Kuhlobo lokwenyani, obu bunzima abukho. Akukho sidingo sokuthatha nabani na ekhaya. Akukho sidingo sokubonelela ngokwabelana ngetyala.
Akukho sidingo sokuzama ukuthembela kuye ukuze ufumanise ukuba awuzifundi ngokuchanekileyo imiqondiso. Akunyanzelekanga nokuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba uza kunxiba ntoni (ubuncinci hayi kwisiqingatha esisezantsi somzimba wakho).
Xa kuziwa ekuthandaneni kwenyani, ngabantu ababini kuphela, ngamnye ehleli kweyona ndawo intle kakhulu (ekhaya), bayathetha. Ilula kakhulu kwaye iyinyani!
Kwaye, nokuba ufumanisa ukuba umhla awuqhubeki kakuhle kwaye ayisiyiyo kanye le ubuyilindele, ungaphelisa ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokulula inkqubo yokubonana.
Xelela elinye icala ukuba bekulungile kwaye ayisiyiyo le nto uyikhangelayo. Yiyo lento. Cofa nje kude!
3. Akukho sidingo somhla wesibini
Ingcamango yonke "yokubala imihla" ayibalulekanga.
Imihla ekwi-Intanethi inokwenzeka rhoqo ngakumbi kunakwimihla yeklasikhi, ngakumbi kuba ukuthandana okwenyani sisiganeko esidinga umzamo omncinci kakhulu xa kuthelekiswa nokuthandana ngokwesiko.
Unokuthetha imizuzu embalwa kusasa kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokutya isidlo sasemini "kunye" kwiiyure ezimbalwa.
Kwaye ukuba phakathi "komhla," ngequbuliso kufuneka wenze enye into (njengokuhambahamba nenja ejonge kuwe ulindele, ngamehlo ayo, isithi- kungoku, okanye ndichamele endlini ), emva koko akukho ngxaki yokukhupha kwaye "uthandane" kwakhona kamva.
4. Amava amatsha
Ndisoloko ndifumana amadoda nabafazi abangatshatanga abaye bancama ukuthandana. Baziva ngokungathi ayingabo.
Umzekelo, oku kunokwenzeka kubantu abaye baphoxeka amaxesha amaninzi xa elinye iqela labhengeza ukuba abanamdla okanye kwabo baziva bengaphumelelanga ngokuzibonakalisa ngokwenyani ngomhla.
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantu abaqolileyo abafuna ukuqala ubudlelwane (obutsha) kwaye bangaziva bekhululekile (kwaye ngamanye amaxesha baneentloni) betyhubela kuyo yonke imiqobo yokuthandana kwakhona.
Ukuthandana okwenyani kudala amava amatsha, alula ngakumbi, kwaye anamava ngakumbi kwabaninzi. Inokubonelela abantu abaye bancama ukuthandana ithuba lokubuya kakhulu.
Imibono yokuthandana eyiyo
Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba umhla wokwenyani kufuneka ujongeke njengabantu ababini "odliwanondlebe" omnye nomnye ngencoko yevidiyo. Kodwa oku akuyonyaniso.
Ukuthandana okwenyani kuzisa igumbi elininzi lokuyila. Nayi eminye imizekelo yendlela yokwenza iziqholo kwizinto.
1. Umhla wothando
Omabini la macala anxiba iimpahla zasebusuku zomhla (phezulu kuye ezantsi - ewe, kubandakanya izihlangu), zisa iglasi yewayini, unciphise izibane, kwaye wenze imeko entle.
2. Ukubukela umboniso
Uthatha isigqibo ngomboniso (into ethile kumabonwakude okanye kumovie), kwaye uyayibukela ngaxeshanye ngelixa incoko yevidiyo ivulekile.
Oku kuyakunika ithuba lokwabelana ngamava (hleka kunye, yoyike kunye- ngokusekwe kuyo nayiphi na into oyibukeleyo), kwaye nithethe ngayo nantoni na ethi qatha engqondweni.
3. Ukhenketho lwasekhaya
Xa uziva ukhululekile ngokwaneleyo, ungathatha iqabane lakho ukhenketho olubonakalayo kwikhaya lakho. Chitha ixesha kwigumbi ngalinye.
Bonisa amabala owathandayo endlwini, thetha ngezinto ezihlekisayo ezenzeke kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo, kwaye ubonise izinto ozithandayo endlwini, njengegagasi yakho yekofu oyithandayo.
4. Ukwabelana ngeenkumbulo kunye namaxesha
Khetha iifoto ezinomdla okanye ezihlekisayo (kwifowuni yakho okanye kwimidiya yoluntu) kwaye wabelane ngazo. Emva koko, xelela ibali emva kwabo.
5. Pheka kunye!
Zama ukulungiselela isidlo sangokuhlwa esimnandi kunye. Nobabini kufuneka nenze isidlo esinye kwaye nihambe ngenkqubo efanayo kunye.
Bukela le vidiyo ukuze ufunde kwaye uyonwabele inkqubo yokuthandana okwenyani.
Uthando ngamaxesha eCorona
Nangona i-coronavirus inyanzelisa ukuba sihlale umgama, oko akuthethi ukuba asinakusondela.
Ngala maxesha, xa kufuneka siziqhelanise nenyani entsha, akufuneki sikoyike ukuthandana okuqinisekileyo. Kuya kufuneka samkele izibonelelo zayo.
Uya kumangaliswa kukusondela kufutshane kangakanani na umntu ngokuthandana kwenyani, nokuba luqine kangakanani unxibelelwano, ngaphandle kokudibana nabo ubuso ngobuso.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukugcina umgama ngokwasemzimbeni kunokubangela ukuba abantu benze ubudlelwane obomelele ngakumbi.
Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, kodwa emva kokuba ingxaki idlulile, wena neqabane lakho niya kuba neenkumbulo ezimnandi zento ekufuneka niyenzile ukugcina ubudlelwane.
"Ubunzima bumanyanisa abantu ukuba ubabelana nabo." -UJohn Wooden.