Umxholo
- Unokucinga ukuba iqabane lakho alinanxaxheba kwimisebenzi ebalulekileyo
- Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokukruqula
- Abantwana bathabatha ixesha lakho kunye njengesibini
- Into ekufuneka uyenzile xa umtshato wakho ungahambi kakuhle
Ngaba ikho into entle kunothando? Mhlawumbi akunjalo! Kodwa, kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo, ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima ukukhumbula obunye bobuhle buvela kwisibini esitsala ixesha kunye nomzamo wokwenza ukuba usebenze.
Kuthekani ukuba uthatha eyona nto iphambili kwaye ubeke umsesane emnweni wakho? Kulungile! Yomelele. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uzikhumbuze- Kutheni uthandile kwasekuqaleni? Kutheni uthathe la manzi?
Impixano emtshatweni yinto eqhelekileyo
Luphawu lwabantu ababini abomeleleyo abaneminqweno eyahlukileyo ngamanye amaxesha kunye neminqweno eza kuthi, ngenxa kunye nempilo yentsebenziswano yabo, kufuneka bafikelele kwisivumelwano.
Ukuphendula kwezi ngxabano kunokoyikisa- ngamanye amaxesha awufuni nje ukuvuma ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo- kodwa, njengomlingisi womlinganiso, ndingatsho ngokuzithemba ngokupheleleyo ukuba eyona nto iphambili kumtshato owomeleleyo nosempilweni lunxibelelwano. Ukuba awonwabanga, xelela iqabane lakho. Ayizukunceda wena, bona okanye umtshato wakho xa uvumela umba ukhule.
Unokucinga ukuba iqabane lakho alinanxaxheba kwimisebenzi ebalulekileyo
Kungenzeka ukuba siyabona amaqabane ethu ukuba atyale imali encinci kulwalamano. Indlela loo 'mzamo' ubonakalisa ngayo ixhomekeke kwimeko: mhlawumbi abenzi xesha lokuba nobusuku obulungileyo kunye; mhlawumbi ababuxhasi ubomi bakho njengomntu njengokuba ubaxhasa kwezabo.
Nokuba izinto ezibonakala ngathi zincinci zongeziwe- ngaba azincedi ukwenza isidlo sangokuhlwa? Ungaphumeli kwivenkile esekoneni ubisi nangona uxakekile ulalisa abantwana? -Kwaye banokuthatha ixesha labo ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokukruqula
Kwangokunjalo, kuqinisekisiwe ukuba ubomi bomntu ongatshatanga naye bunokubeka uxinzelelo kwinto eyenzeka kwigumbi lokulala. Ubomi bobulili obudala ngokuqhelekileyo ngumqondiso wokuba izinto azihambi ngendlela ongathanda ngayo-kwaye uhlala uthetha kakhulu malunga nolwalamano luphela.
Kungenzeka ukuba ukuthanda kweqabane elinye kutshintshile, okanye kuye kwancipha nje ngandlel 'ithile - kwaye iimvakalelo zokungathandeki okanye ukungafuneki kunokungena kwingqondo yomnye umntu.
Abantwana bathabatha ixesha lakho kunye njengesibini
Ukuba nabantwana kuya kuthatha ixesha elininzi kunye, kwaye uhlala unokudinwa kakhulu ekupheleni kosuku ukuba ucinge ngokutshintsha ubushushu xa kucima izibane.
Into ekufuneka uyenzile xa umtshato wakho ungahambi kakuhle
Akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo, kwaye inxenye kunye nenxalenye yokuba kubambiswano olunothando lokwenene yamkela ukuba iziphene zeqabane lakho ziyinxalenye yomlinganiswa wabo - umlinganiswa owathandana naye ukuqala. Kungokwemvelo ukwahluka ngandlela thile kwiinkolelo, iminqweno, izimo zengqondo- kodwa, ukuba ufuna ukuba isebenze, elona khondo lilungileyo lesenzo akukho namnye onokunyaniseka komnye nomnye.
Thetha neqabane lakho malunga nento esebenzayo- kwaye yintoni engasebenziyo. Sebenzani ngezinto kunye, njengeqela, njengentsebenziswano- kwaye unokumangaliswa yinto nje encinci - kunye noncedo olukhulu lothando-olunokuwenza emtshatweni wakho.