Umxholo
- Injini "yam"
- I-narcissism lelinye igama elichanekileyo
- Ukuzithanda ngokugqithiseleyo
- Ayizizo zonke izinto ezimbi
- Qhubeka uthethe, kodwa andizukumamela
- Imithetho eyi-100 yeyakho kunye ne-1 yam
"Ndililizwe, kwaye eli lizwe ndim."
Ngaba umgca uyakukhumbuza umntu othile ngokuthe ngqo, okanye ukhe waba ngumhlobo naye okanye ubudlelwane nomntu onomkhwa wokuzizisa kuyo yonke into? Umntu othile, ongenakuyikhuphela ngaphandle into yokuba ‘ngabona bantu babaluleke ngeenxa zonke kwaye ngaphandle kwabo, umhlaba awunakubakho.
Umntu onjalo, yile nto siyibizayo, 'yi-narcissist.'
Usenokungazi, ukuba yi-narcissist ayisiyonto yenzekayo, eneneni kukuphazamiseka kubuntu okuvela kwizizathu ezingaziwayo, ngokungafaniyo neempawu zazo ezichongwe ngokufanelekileyo. Ke ngubani i-narcissist, ziziphi iimpawu ezizodwa kubo kwaye yintoni ebenza bakhethe kakubi njengabahlobo kunye namaqabane?
Makhe sixoxe ngale ingezantsi:
Injini "yam"
Ngaba ukhe weva oololiwe behamba 'choo-choo'? Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka ube nayo.
Kuyafana nengxolo ephindaphindwayo eyenziwa ziinjini zoololiwe, zeziphi izinto ezenziwa zii-narcissists ngokuvakalayo ngathi: 'Me, Me, Me!
Oku kuqhubeka kwilokhwe yokucaphukisa isihogo kuwe; ngekhe ubve ngokuchanekileyo bethetha 'mna' 24/7 kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo yinto abaqala ukuyifuzisela kuzo zonke iimeko emva kokuba befikile ebudaleni.
Yonke into abayenzayo okanye abayithethayo, okanye abayicingayo ine-dash 'me' kuyo. Asikuko nje ukuzizukisa kwabo kuzo zonke iimeko ezinokwenzeka; zininzi iinzame ezenziwa ngabo zokuzibhengeza njengokumkani.
Bayenza njani loo nto?
Bayakukhobokisa kunye nawo wonke umntu anokufumana, ubuqhetseba sisixhobo sabo kwaye banelisa i-ego yabo, injongo.
I-narcissism lelinye igama elichanekileyo
Unayo, akunjalo?
I-narcissist ngumntu ongenakukunyamezela ukuxelelwa ukuba bayaphazama.
Nantoni na abayithethayo, yinyani kunye nenyaniso. Kulilize kwaphela ukuphikisana nabo okanye nokuba ukholelwe kancinane ukuba unokubenza baqonde ukuba bayaphazama kwinto ethile. Boyika ukugxekwa kwaye abakwazi kuvelana nabanye.
Injini 'yam' isebenza kuphela kwaye iqhubeke ukukuxelela ngokubaluleka kwazo kunye nendlela abanokuphazama ngayo nantoni na.
Ukuzithanda ngokugqithiseleyo
Sonke siyazi ukuba ukuthanda wena kubalulekile ukugcina impilo-ntle yomntu kwaye inkulu kangakanani indima ayidlalayo ekugcineni ukuzithemba kunye nokugcina ii-intshi zokungakhathali kude.
Kodwa, ngaba ngamanye amaxesha kunokuqheliselwa kwinqanaba lokuba ibe yingozi? Ewe, impendulo nguewe.
Inani elingaqhelekanga lokuzithanda lityhala umntu kude ukuba angakwazi ukuba novelwano okanye uvelwano ngokufanayo, kuthintela umntu ekubeni akwazi ukwahlula phakathi kokulungileyo nokungalunganga kwaye kubangele ukuba umntu asebenzise abanye abantu ukuba azenzele eyakhe i-ego.
Iresiphi yokutshatyalaliswa, kunye nokushiyeka kokuqonda ukuba le ntlekele yinto ekhokelela kuyo kuba i-narcissist ayikaze iphosakele.
Ayizizo zonke izinto ezimbi
Nokuba yeyiphi na into eyenziwa ngabakwa-narcissist, akunakuba konke kubi.
Ukuze benze abantu babathande, bathambekele ekunikeni izixa ezikhulu ukuze bakhohlise abanye bacinge ukuba ngabona bantu bahle. Nantoni na nayo yonke into abayenzayo kukufumana indumiso.
Iinjongo zabo azinamsebenzi, kwaye banokuhamba ixesha elide ukubonisa ukuba bangoyena mntu unothando nenkathalo, owakha wabakho. Yonke le nto, kukuva nje ukuba baphume kulo mhlaba.
Qhubeka uthethe, kodwa andizukumamela
AbakwaNarcissists bazimisele ukumamela kuwe, kuphela kuwe ukuze kamva uqonde ukuba bebengamameli kwaye endaweni yoko, bezenzela iingxelo entlokweni yabo ukuba babuye.
Ukukwazisa, ukuba zibalulekile. Ukuba uluvo lwabo lolona lubalulekileyo, kufuneka ubamamele nokuba abakumameli kwaye ubancome nokuba uyahluka. Ukuba uyahluka, nguwe ongalunganga, kwaye baya kuba nelungelo lokuba nomsindo malunga nayo kamva.
Kwaye, ukuba umlo uqhubeka, nguwe kanye onetyala kwaye ayinguye kuba ucinga ntoni? Abaze baphosise.
Imithetho eyi-100 yeyakho kunye ne-1 yam
Yonke imigaqo isebenza kubo bonke abanye abantu ngaphandle kwabantu abaphila ngobundlobongela.
Wonke umntu kufuneka alandele amakhulu emithetho abayenzayo; kubo, akukho mthetho usebenza ngaphandle komnye, kwaye ulandela isiko elithi 'me'. Nantoni na esebenza kuwe ayisoze yenze kubo, ke, awungekhe ubabuze ngokwenyani okanye ubonakalise ukuba abachananga.
Awunakho ukuphikisana okanye wenze inqaku lakho njengoko yonke into iphela kubo bevukela kwaye bephosa ulungelelwano.
Eyona ndlela ilula yokuchonga abantu abanjalo kukuqaphela ukuba umntu uzenza kangaphi ezi zinto ngathi ukubuza le mibuzo ilandelayo: Ungalinga njani ukuyibuza into endiyithethayo? Ungathini wena ukungalandeli imigaqo endiyimisileyo? Ungaba nobuganga obunjani, uphike ukuba ndiyile nto lihlabathi elijikeleze yona?
Ukuba uziva ngathi yile nto ithi qatha engqondweni yakho xa ukunye nomntu othile, udibene narcissist.