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Umxholo
- Yenza isivumelwano sokuba ngumzali kunye
- Musa ukubarhuqela abantwana kuyo
- Vumela izinto ezincinci zihambe
- Qaphela ukuba ukwabelana ngekhe kuhlala kungu-50/50
- Sukuhlala kumhlaba ongaphezulu kwempahla yakho
- Yiba ngumsebenzi ohloniphekileyo
Nokuba ubukhe waba ngumzali ngokubambisana okwexeshana, okanye ujongene nje nobunyani bobuzali emva kokwahlukana, uya kufumana imiceli mngeni ekufuneka uoyise. Co ukuba ngumzali kunokuba noxinzelelo kwaye masithethe ngokungagungqi, ngamanye amaxesha umzali wakho ongumlingani uya kuwatyhala amaqhosha akho.
Ukufumanisa indlela yokusebenza kakuhle kunye kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bakho baphile kakuhle. Ukubanjwa phakathi kwabazali abangakwaziyo ukuvumelana, okanye ukuziva ngathi kufuneka bathathe icala, kuya kushiya abantwana bakho bexinezelekile kwaye baziva bengakhuselekanga.Ukufunda ukuba ngumzali osebenza naye kulunge kakhulu kubo, yiyo loo nto ukwakha ubudlelwane bobuzali obuhloniphekileyo kufanele kube yenye yezona zinto ziphambili emva kokwahlukana.
Ukuba ufuna ukwenza ubudlelwane obunempumelelo bobuzali, qala ngokuhlonipha umzali wakho. Zama ezinye zezi ngcebiso ukukunceda ufunde ukuba ungakwenza njani.
Yenza isivumelwano sokuba ngumzali kunye
Isivumelwano sokuba ngumzali sibonisa imbeko kwi-ex yakho, kwaye ekugqibeleni siyakunceda nobabini nenze imeko ebhetele kubantwana benu. Kungaba buhlungu ukuyenza, kodwa lixesha lokuba uhlale phantsi kunye kunye nokukhupha iinkcukacha.
Zama ukugubungela izinto ezininzi ezinokwenzeka, ezinje:
- Uyiphatha njani imihla yotshintsho
- Uchitha phi iiholide ezinkulu
- Uyibhiyozela njani imihla yokuzalwa
- Ukuzimasa iintlanganiso zootitshala abangabazali
- Indlela yokwaba amaxesha eeholide
Ikwangumbono olungileyo ukuvumelana ngemithetho yomhlaba, enje:
- Yimalini isibonelelo onokunika
- Imida kwifowuni okanye ixesha lekhompyuter
- Ixesha lokulala nelokutya
- Xa kulungile ukwazisa iqabane elitsha
- Nokuba kulungile ukwabelana ngemifanekiso yabantwana bakho kuFacebook
- Imida ngokubhekisele kuhlobo lwemidlalo, imiboniso okanye imovie oza kuyivumela
- Nini ukunika amashwamshwam okanye ukutya
Okukhona unokuvumelana ngaphambi kwexesha, kokukhona uzinzolela imeko yabantwana bakho. Ukuba nesivumelwano kuya kwenza ukuba ngamnye kuni azive ehlonitshwa kwaye kuncede nisebenze njengeqela.
Musa ukubarhuqela abantwana kuyo
Ukurhuqela abantwana kwiingxabano zakho ayisiyiyo nje uxinzelelo kubo; ikwenza ukuba umzali wakho osebenza naye azive engaxatyiswanga kwaye ejongelwe phantsi.
Ukuba unengxaki nomzali wakho, thetha nabo ngqo. Ungaze uvumele ukuba ungene ekugxekeni phambi kwabantwana bakho. Oko kubandakanya ukugxeka indlela yabo yokuphila, iqabane elitsha, okanye ukhetho lwabazali. Ewe awuyi kuvuma nayo yonke into abayenzayo-ngamanye amaxesha uyakuva izinto ezivela kubantwana bakho ezikukhathazayo-kodwa yithathe ngqo nge-ex yakho.
Sukusebenzisa abantwana bakho njengabathunywa, nokuba. Umntu wakho wangaphambili akufuneki eve iindaba ngobomi bakho, okanye imiyalezo malunga nezicwangciso okanye amaxesha okuthatha, avela kubantwana bakho. Gcina iingxoxo phakathi kwenu nobabini.
Vumela izinto ezincinci zihambe
Nje ukuba isivumelwano sakho sokuba ngumzali sisebenze kwaye wonwabile yindlela ezisingathwa ngayo izinto eziphambili, zama ukuyeka izinto ezincinci.
Qiniseka ukuba isivumelwano sakho sobuzali sigubungela yonke into ebaluleke kuwe, nokuba ingakanani isibonelelo sokunika okanye indlela yokusingatha imicimbi esikolweni. Ngaphandle koko, zama ukuyeka izinto ezincinci ezingabalulekanga kangako. Zibuze ukuba ngaba kukho nawuphi na umonakalo wokwenene oza kuvela kubantwana bakho ukuba babe nexesha lokulala elahlukileyo okanye babukele imovie eyongezelelweyo kwikhaya labazali babo.
Qaphela ukuba ukwabelana ngekhe kuhlala kungu-50/50
Kulula kakhulu ukubanjwa uluvo lokuba ukuba ngumzali ngokubambisana kufuneka kusoloko kuthetha ukwahlulwa okungama-50/50. Ayizukuhlala isebenza nangona kunjalo.
Ukuba omnye wenu kufuneka ahambe kakhulu ngomsebenzi, kunokuba sengqiqweni ukuba omnye anakekele abantwana rhoqo. Okanye ukuba omnye wenu ubandakanyeka ngokukodwa kwimidlalo abayidlalayo, baya kubandakanyeka ngakumbi xa kufika ixesha loqeqesho.
Endaweni yokugxila ekufumaneni i-50/50 ngqo yokwahlulahlula, jolisa kwinto eza kunika abantwana bakho obona bomi buzinzileyo. Ngokwendalo nobabini niya kufuna ukuba nexesha nabantwana benu, kwaye niqiniseke ukuba nobabini niyayifumana kubalulekile, kodwa ukungxama ngenani leeyure ozifumanayo kuya kuguqula ukuba ngumzali ngokubambisana kwibala lomlo. Gxila kumgangatho wekhwalithi, ungahlukanisi iinwele ngaphezulu kobungakanani.
Sukuhlala kumhlaba ongaphezulu kwempahla yakho
Ngaba ukhe wakhathazeka ngenxa yokuba abantwana bakho beshiye isixhobo somdlalo esinexabiso eliphezulu okanye ihempe yabo esemagqabini kwindlu yomnye umzali wabo? Ukucaphuka kunokwenza umzali wakho asebenze naye azive ngathi indlu yakhe ayilokhaya lokwenyani labantwana bakho, elingayi kukhuthaza ubudlelwane obuhle bobuzali.
Ewe uyakufuna ukukhuthaza abantwana bakho ukuba balumke ngezinto ezibizayo okanye ezibalulekileyo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba izinto zabo ziyilento, zezabo. Zombini indlu yakho kunye nendlu yomzali osebenzisana naye zihlala ekhaya ngoku, ngenxa yoko inani elithile lokwahlula izinto phakathi kwabo liyindalo. Sukwenza abantwana bakho bazive ngathi bahlala eholideyini kunye nomnye umzali.
Yiba ngumsebenzi ohloniphekileyo
Ukugcina imbeko echubekileyo, enentlonipho xa ujikeleza umzali wakho ayizukuhlala ilula, kodwa iyakunceda ubudlelwane bakho bobuzali buqine. Nokuba bangacofa kangakanani amaqhosha akho, luma ulwimi lwakho kwaye uhlale uzolile ngalo lonke ixesha.
Thatha ixesha lokuthi enkosi ngezinto abazenzayo, nokuba kukwazisa kwangexesha ukuba bahamba kade, okanye bangenele bathathe abantwana baye kwiHockey. Bonisa ukuba uyayixabisa iinzame zabo, kwaye ubuyisele ubabalo ngohlobo ngokuhlonipha ixesha labo kunye nemida, nabo.
Co ukuba ngumzali kunokuba noxinzelelo, kodwa akufuneki kube njalo. Ukuba unako ukukhuthaza isimo sengqondo esihloniphekileyo kumzali wakho osebenzayo, unokwakha iqela eliqinileyo lokuba ngumzali eliza kunika abantwana bakho ukhuseleko abayidingayo emva kokuhlukana.