Umxholo
- Izinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe xa uphelisa ubudlelwane bexesha elide
- 1. Thetha ngomtshato wakho nobudlelwane
- 2. Ngaba ungakwahlula ngokulula iiasethi zakho?
- 3. Unabo abantwana okanye izilwanyana zasekhaya?
- Ukutyikitya ubudlelwane bexesha elide kuyaphela
- 1. Awusathethi
- 2. Omnye kuni nobabini nicinga ngokuba nithandane
- 3. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuye kwaba ngumsebenzi
- Ukuphelisa ubudlelwane ngoxolo
- 1. Yenza isindululo esivumayo kwelinye iqela
- 2. Yiba nocwangciso
- 3. Xoxa ngalo mbandela ubuso ngobuso
- 5. Phuma ngokukhawuleza emva kokwahlukana
Kukho abanye abantu abadlula kubudlelwane bexesha elide obuhlala iminyaka, kodwa alupheli emtshatweni. Zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni kungenzeki, nokuba isibini siyathandana ngokwenene, kodwa kuye kufike inqaku xa uchitha nje ixesha lomnye. Ukuphelisa ubudlelwane bexesha elide akukho lula, kodwa ukuhlala nomntu kwaye unethemba lokuba izinto zingatshintsha kunzima ngakumbi.
Kukho abantu abangenakuhamba emtshatweni nokuba sele behlala kunye namaqabane abo iminyaka. Abantu abanobuhlobo bohlobo lwentlalontle njengokuthintela uthando kunye nabantu abane-Asperger's syndrome bathambekele ngakumbi kuyo.
Izinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe xa uphelisa ubudlelwane bexesha elide
Kukho amacala amabini kuwo onke amabali, kwaye xa ubudlelwane bexesha elide buhambile, nokuba elinye okanye omabini amaqabane akasenamdla kwaye agcina ukubonakala nje ukuhlala kunye.
1. Thetha ngomtshato wakho nobudlelwane
Abanye abantu abatshatileyo bacinga ukuba kuba bekudala behleli kunye, banokuqikelela iingcinga zomnye nomnye. Le ngcinga iphantse yahlala ingalunganga. Nxibelelana kwaye uthethe ngobudlelwane bakho.
2. Ngaba ungakwahlula ngokulula iiasethi zakho?
Amaqabane kubudlelwane bexesha elide, ngakumbi abo bahlala kunye kusenokwenzeka ukuba batyale iiasethi zomzimba kunye. Oko kunokubandakanya, ikhaya labo, iimoto, izixhobo zemali, kunye nobunye ubutyebi bezinto ezinokufuna inkqubo ende kunye neyonakeleyo ukwahlulahlula.
3. Unabo abantwana okanye izilwanyana zasekhaya?
Ngokungafaniyo nobutyebi bezinto eziphathekayo, izilwanyana zasekhaya kunye nabantwana abancinci azinakwahlulwa. Ngaba ukulungele ukubeka ubomi babo kwi-ringer ukuba bohlukane neqabane lakho?
Ukutyikitya ubudlelwane bexesha elide kuyaphela
Ukuphelisa ubudlelwane bexesha elide nomntu omthandayo ayisosigqibo ekufuneka usenze ngokulula. Ukuba usamthanda umntu, kusekho ithemba lokuba izinto ziya kuphuma zibe ngcono. Kodwa kufuneka ibe ziindlela ezimbini. Ukuba umntu omthandayo uthandana nomntu wesithathu. Eso sisizathu esivakalayo sokuyiphelisa, ngakumbi ukuba bekuqhubeka okwexeshana.
Ngaphandle, ngaphandle kwezizathu, mininzi imiqondiso yokuba ukufutshane ekupheliseni ubudlelwane bexesha elide. Nalu uluhlu olufutshane.
1. Awusathethi
Ayisiyongxoxo nje enzulu ngentsingiselo yobomi kunye nethemba namaphupha akho, awusenzi nentetho encinci malunga nemozulu kwakhona. Uyazi ukuba uyakuphepha ukuthetha omnye nomnye ukuthintela iimpikiswano.
2. Omnye kuni nobabini nicinga ngokuba nithandane
Ukuba awusenayo into yokuncamathela ngokweemvakalelo neqabane lakho, izimvo ezinjengokuba nomtshato ziqala ukugcwalisa iingcinga zakho. Uyalukhumbula uvakalelo olufudumeleyo kwaye ufune ezinye ezenza uzive uthandwa kwaye unqabisekile. Kungenzeka ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho sele ufumene omnye umntu njengengubo yakho yengubo. Nokuba akukho ndibano yesondo yenzekileyo (okwangoku), kodwa wena, iqabane lakho, okanye nobabini, sele nenza ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo.
3. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuye kwaba ngumsebenzi
Ngaphandle kokulala ngesondo rhoqo, omnye okanye nobabini niyakuphepha ukunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni. Ukuba ugqibela ngokulala kunye, kuyadika kwaye akunangqondo. Ukudlala ngothando ngoku kulula kuyekile, kwaye ukudlala kuyacaphukisa. Kukho amaxesha apho ukhetha ukutya ibug kunokulala ngesondo neqabane lakho lexesha elide.
Ukuphelisa ubudlelwane ngoxolo
Ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho libonisa iimpawu zokuphelisa ubudlelwane bexesha elide, lixesha lokuba lenze okanye liphule. Uninzi lwezibini zihamba kwiindawo ezinobunzima ngakumbi kwi-4 kunye ne-7th year. Ukuba sele ugqibe kwelokuba uyiphelise emva koko, nazi izinto ekufuneka uzenzile ukuqinisekisa ukuba awupheli uchitha imali eninzi kumagqwetha.
1. Yenza isindululo esivumayo kwelinye iqela
Awungekhe uthi ufuna ukwahlukana, emva koko ugcine indlu, imoto, kunye neekati. Nokuba ekuqaleni ibingabakho, iqabane lakho bekufanele ukuba lenze utyalomali olubonakalayo lwezezimali kunye nolweemvakalelo kule minyaka igcina yonke loo nto, kubandakanya neekati. Ukuba ucinga ngokuzingca kwaye ukhaba iqabane lakho ngelixa ugcina yonke into, kungcono ube negqwetha elilungileyo.
Ukuba nekhekhe kunye nokutya kuyindlela enzima. Ukuphelisa ubudlelwane ngale ndlela kuya kuphelisa ukuthandana, kodwa ubudlelwane bakho abuyi kuphela de ufumane umyalelo wenkundla. Ukunyanzelwa kweemeko ezithandekayo kwangoko kuthintela ukwahlukana okungcolileyo, kwaye usenokuhamba ungabahlobo.
2. Yiba nocwangciso
Ukuba ucwangcisa ukuphuma endlwini kwaye ushiye abantwana, cinga ngezinye iziphumo zedomino, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba wenze amalungiselelo kwangaphambili wokuvala umsantsa.
Ukuphuma endlwini kulula, kodwa usaya kufuna indawo yokulala ulungiselele umsebenzi ngomso. Ukulala emotweni yakho kunye nokuhlamba kwiofisi ngumbono ombi. Kubalulekile ukuba nesicwangciso esineenkcukacha malunga nokwenza emva kokuphelisa ubudlelwane bexesha elide. Ukuphuma nje uye kunkqonkqoza kumhlobo wakho emva kweyure kunokukhokelela kwiziphumo ebezingalindelekanga.
3. Xoxa ngalo mbandela ubuso ngobuso
Ukuthumela isicatshulwa esithi ufuna ukwahlukana bubugwala kwaye kukungahloniphi umntu okunike iminyaka yobomi babo kuwe. Ukwahlukana akunakuze kube lula, kodwa ukuba nobudlelwane kuluntu kunye ne-ex yakho, ngakumbi ukuba unabantwana, kubalulekile kwikamva lomntu wonke. Isinyathelo sokuqala ekuhlalisaneni ngoxolo emva kokuphelisa ubudlelwane bexesha elide kukwahlukana okunentlonipho.
Yenze ngasese kwaye ungaze uliphakamise ilizwi lakho. Isizathu sokuba uninzi lwabantu lukhuphe ukuphuma ekwahlukaneni ubuso ngobuso kuphelela kwimpikiswano enkulu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ugqibe kwelokuba ubuphelise ubudlelwane, akukho nto iphikisana ngayo.
Ukujongana nokuphelisa ubudlelwane bexesha elide kukwayindlela elilolo kwaye inzima. Ukugcina ubudlelwane obungathathi hlangothi kunye ne-ex yakho kunokukunceda nobabini niqhubeke.
5. Phuma ngokukhawuleza emva kokwahlukana
Into yokugqibela ofuna ukuyenza emva kokuphelisa ubudlelwane bexesha elide kukuqhubeka nokuhlala kunye ngokungathi akwenzekanga nto. Umntu ocebise ngokwahlukana kufuneka aphume ngaphandle kwaye aphathe ukwahlula iiasethi zakho kunye nenye ipropathi yomntu wonke. Ukuba unabantwana, qala ngokuxoxa ngamalungiselelo kwaye uqiniseke ukuba abantwana bayayazi le meko.
Sukuhlukana nje emva koko ukholelwe ukuba ukhululekile ukuba wenze nantoni na oyifunayo. Kuyinyani kwinqanaba elithile, kodwa hayi kubantwana nakwimpahla eqhelekileyo njengendlu. Khumbula ukuba isimo sengqondo sinesiphene, sisebenza ngeendlela zombini. Usafuna ukusebenzisana ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba de yonke into ihlawulwe.
Ukuphelisa ubudlelwane bexesha elide ayingomsebenzi olula, kodwa zininzi iimeko apho kuyinto elungileyo ukuyenza ngakumbi ukuba omnye wenu nobabini narcissist, gadalala, okanye sele ukuzibophelela komnye umntu. Unenjongo yokuqinisekisa ukuba ubudlelwane buphela ngoxolo. Imipu oyenzileyo ayibi yitsunami, imisa wonke umntu okujikelezile.