Umxholo
- 1. Khumbula, utyikitye imigaqo kunye neemeko
- 2. "Ndiyayiqonda" kwaye "unyanisile" ayizizo iingcebiso nje
- 3. Jika iitafile zomlo kwaye ukhuphe "imipu emikhulu"
- Ngamanye amaxesha kulungile ukwenza njengomntwana
- 5. Musani ukuzicingela kakhulu!
Akukho ndlela ifanelekileyo yokutshata; Isibini ngasinye sahlukile kwaye sahlukile. Njengenxalenye yokwahluka, iingxaki kunye nemiceli mngeni eza kuvela iya kwahluka ngokunjalo. Endaweni yokugxila ebunzimeni, thatha eli cebiso lihlekisayo.
1. Khumbula, utyikitye imigaqo kunye neemeko
Ungahlali ungaliqondi iqabane lakho, kodwa usatsho ukuba "ndiyavuma." Ukutyikitya iphepha-mvume lomtshato kungaphezulu kokufunwa ngumthetho. Sisivumelwano, umnqophiso okanye isithembiso, enisenze namangqina ukuba nithandane kwaye nixabisane ubomi bonke. Ngelixa unaphakade unokuba ungabikho kwikamva lomntu wonke, umtshato ngumsebenzi onzima kwaye uthatha ukuzibophelela kule "migaqo nemiqathango". Akukho mathandabuzo ngayo - kwimeko yomtshato, imigaqo nemiqathango njalo faka isicelo.
2. "Ndiyayiqonda" kwaye "unyanisile" ayizizo iingcebiso nje
Njengokwesiko kwaye kungenangqondo njengoko kunokuvakala, ukuqonda ukuba umfazi wakho uhlala elungile yinto ephambili esisiseko yomtshato. Oku akuthethi ukuba unyanisile kwaye usoloko elungile. Kodwa intetho ethi umfazi owonwabileyo uthetha ubomi obonwabisayo ayikude kakhulu kumqondiso. Ngamanye amaxesha impikiswano ayifanelekanga ukuba nayo. Ngamanye amaxesha idabi lelinye alifanelanga kuthathwa. Ngenye indlela, uxolo, nokuba awuziva wenze into ephosakeleyo, izakwenza lukhulu ukubonisa umfazi wakho ukuba ubaluleke kangakanani kuwe.
3. Jika iitafile zomlo kwaye ukhuphe "imipu emikhulu"
Ukulwa nokungavisisani kuyinxalenye yendalo yalo naluphi na ulwalamano, kubandakanya nomtshato. Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho wena neqabane lakho ningenako ukufikelela kwisigqibo esifanayo kwaye ukulungelelanisa kufuneka kwenzeke. Ulungelelwaniso alusoze lube lula, kuba oko kuthetha ukuba akukho mntu ufumana yonke into ayifunayo. Endaweni yokuvumela ukulalanisa kubangele ukungoneliseki kunye nokudana, yisebenzise ukuze ikuncede! Okwangoku, ngexesha loxolo nokuzola phakathi kwenu nobabini, yizani necebo lokuba nizokuphendula njani xa kukho ukungavisisani. Yenza isicwangciso sokuba izinto ziya kuba njani ukuba kuya kufuneka ulalanise, kwaye ubandakanye into emnandi! Umzekelo, ukuba wena neqabane lakho nisandula ukubandakanyeka kwingxabano, phelisa uxinzelelo ngokumisela umlo wemipu yeNerf okanye umlo webhaluni yamanzi. Akukho mntu mdala kakhulu ukuba angazonwabisa ngoluhlobo nomntu amthandayo. Kwaye kuba olu hlobo lokonwaba lubandakanya ukhuphiswano, lunokuvumela uxinzelelo oluye lwakha njengesiphumo sokuphikisana nokungavumelani ukusombulula ngokwendalo ngokwenza ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nomoya ophantsi onokhuphiswano.
Ngamanye amaxesha kulungile ukwenza njengomntwana
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuba ngumntu omdala kunzima. Ukuba ngumntu omdala otshatileyo kunye noxanduva lobudlelwane kunzima ngakumbi. Uninzi lwethu lufuna ngamanye amaxesha, ukuzibandakanya kwizinto ezilula esazisazi njengabantwana. Oku kulula kunokuza ngendlela yokuphepha uxanduva lwakho okanye kunokuza ngendlela yokuqhula ngezinto kunokuba uzithathele ingqalelo. Qaphela ukuba xa kufikwa ekubeni liqabane, kuyakubakho amaxesha afanelekileyo okuba ucinge kwaye wenze njengomntwana. Kulungile ukuba wonwabe kunye neqabane lakho! Ngapha koko, kunokuba sempilweni kakhulu ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nichithe ixesha kunye elungiselelwe ukonwaba kunye nobuchule kunakwisiqhelo semihla ngemihla kunye nokuzimisela. Olu hlobo lokuziphatha kufuneka lusetyenziswe ngobulumko, kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha elifanelekileyo. Ukuba ngumntwana, kwelinye icala akufane kwenzeke ukuba kwenzeke kubudlelwane bakho. Ukudlala njengomntwana kunye nokuzonwabisa kwahluke kakhulu ekubeni ngumntwana. Qonda umgca ocolekileyo phakathi kwaba babini kwaye ugcine ulungelelwaniso ukuze uvune izibonelelo zokwazi ukonwaba neqabane lakho!
5. Musani ukuzicingela kakhulu!
Kunye nokuzivumela ukuba ngamanye amaxesha uziphathe njengomntwana, kubalulekile ukuba ungasoloko uthatana nzulu. Oku kuqhula nokudlala kufuneka kwenzeke ngexesha elifanelekileyo kunye neenjongo ezifanelekileyo. Kodwa ukudlala kubudlelwane bakho kungakhokelela ekusondelelaneni ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni, into eninokuyinqwenela ngasese kwinqanaba elinzulu.