Umxholo
Kwiseshoni yokucebisa, iimvakalelo zikaKim zaqengqeleka zisuka emsindweni oshushu ukuya kwintlungu engathethekiyo xa wayephalaza ibali lakhe kunye neenyembezi, ebalisa indlela awakhubeka ngayo kwi-sext kwifowuni yomyeni wakhe, yathunyelwa kuye ngumfazi eofisini yakhe.
"Andizange ndikukholelwe oko ndandikufunda," watsho. “Ukuphendula kwakhe kunye nokhokho bakhe bayaphendula. Kwaye ke, phezulu umtya, ndabona ukungathandani awakuthumelela umyalezo kwiiveki ezidlulileyo. ”
UKim wema kwaye waqhekeka engcangcazela. Emva kwemizuzwana, waziqokelela kwaye wancwina, “bendisazi ukuba usisityebi kwaye bendikade ndikude kudala, kodwa khange ndicinge ukuba angayenza lento kum!” Umsindo wabuyela kuye ebusweni njengoko izihlunu zakhe zaziqina kwaye wayekhamisa ngamazinyo akhe abumbeneyo, “Andiqondi ukuba ndingaze ndimxolele. Utheni yena !! ”
Ngelishwa, eli bali liqheleke kakhulu.
Uphando oluthembekileyo lubonisa ukuba ukungathembeki kuchaphazela malunga neepesenti ezingama-50 zemitshato. Ayisiyo typo.
Phambi kweminyaka engama-40, 50-65% yamadoda atshatileyo kunye nama-45-55% yabasetyhini baxela ukuba baphambukile ngaphandle komtshato wabo. Ngenxa yobuntununtunu besihloko sophando, kungenzeka ukuba eli nani lingaxelwa kakhulu, ngakumbi phakathi kwabantu bokholo.
Ezahlukileyo
Njengoko unokucinga, kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni eli nani liphezulu ngokumangalisayo. Nangona kunjalo, embindini, sibona ezinye iidinomineyitha eziqhelekileyo. Amadoda aphambukayo akhomba ekuphoxekeni ngokwesini okanye ukungoneliseki, ngelixa abasetyhini baziva bengonwabanga kwaye benqanyulwe kwimitshato yabo ngaphambi komtshato.
Sidla ngokucinga ukuba imicimbi imalunga nokuthandana kunye nokuthanda. Yiloo nto esinokuyibona kwimiyalezo ebhaliweyo okanye siyive kwimiyalezo yefowuni, kodwa ngasemva kwayo yonke imicimbi kukukhangela ukuhlangabezana nesidingo esinzulu sokuthandwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo nokukhathalelwa.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukhe wathetha nawe ngelinye ixesha, “Ayizukwenzeka loo nto kum. Andinakuze ndiqhathe. ”
Makhe ndiyaphule kancinci kuwe- ngaphandle kwabaxhatshazwa ngokwesini, wonke umntu onomntu othe wathandana naye wathetha into enye. Wonke umntu uyachaphazeleka ngamanye amaxesha kwimitshato yabo. Ukunikwa ukuxubana okulungileyo (okanye okungalunganga) kweemeko, kunokwenzeka kuwe.
Zanele iindaba ezimbi. Umcimbi akufuneki ube libali lakho. Ngononophelo nolondolozo olufanelekileyo, unokuba yinxalenye yento engazange yenzeke.
"Ii-B" ezintathu ezinokuthintela ukungathembeki
1. Yiba ngabom
Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo endidibana nabo kwi-ofisi yokucebisa abafuna ukulungisa okanye ukuhlangula umtshato wabo bayavuma ukuba baxakekile zezinye izinto, kwaye xa bejonga ngasemva, bayabona ukuba baphulukene nengqondo kumaqabane abo. Hayi ngenjongo, ekuhambeni kwexesha umsebenzi, abantwana, iNetflix, usetyenziso lwamva nje lokudlala lutyibilike kwisithuba ababesoloko begcinana ngaso.
Inxalenye enkulu yesisombululo somtshato esiyimpumelelo kukuchonga ixesha lokunxibelelana rhoqo. Inzulu, ndiyazi.
Ayisiyiyo ixesha elabiweyo, sisenzo sexesha ekwabelwana ngalo. Olunye uluvo oluluncedo kukwenza "isiko lokuphinda uqhagamshele" onokujonga phambili kulo ngokuhlwa emva kokubuyela ekhaya. Inokuba yiyo nayiphi na into ekwabelaneni ngeglasi yewayini kunye kunye nokurhweba ngasemva ukubukela ividiyo ehlekisayo yokuphumla. Yonwaba kwaye ubone ukuba zeziphi izimvo ezizakusebenzela wena kunye neqabane lakho.
2. Yiba khona
Oku "kuba" kulandela ngokwendalo ukusuka ekuqaleni. Sebenzisa ngobulumko amaxesha enikunye kunye phantsi kophahla olunye. Kwilizwe lanamhlanje lobuchwephesha kwezobuchwephesha, sinenye into "esinokuyenza" enokusenza sibonakale sixakekile kumaqabane ethu. Rhoqo, asifuni ukuphazamisa (okanye sikwenze, kodwa yoyike iziphumo) ke sichitha ixesha elininzi sithule, silinde ukuvulwa, okanye sixakeke kwilizwe lethu elincinci.
Ndikubiza ngokungafumaneki ngabom. Umngcipheko- yazisa iqabane lakho ukuba ungathanda ukunxibelelana! Ukuba ixesha lakho lokuthetha ikakhulu ngumbutho malunga neshedyuli kunye noxanduva, uya kufumanisa ukuba akonelanga ukondla ubudlelwane kakuhle. Abasetyhini bahlala bekhalaza bengaziva ukuba abayeni babo bayabamamela xa bezama ukuveza okubalulekileyo kubo.
Thina bantu sihlala sibona iincoko ezinjalo zomlingane njengesimemo sokulungisa ingxaki kwaye sigcine usuku, siphoswe sisizathu somfazi sokwazisa lo mbandela. Jonga iincoko njengethuba lokuva imeko yemanyano yakho ngokwembono yeqabane lakho. Injongo ayisosivumelwano, iyafumaneka.
Ndiyathanda ukuthi, "Olona phawu lubalaseleyo kwiqabane kukuzimisela ukutshintsha." Rhoqo xa abatshatileyo beziva ukuba banokwabelana ngeentliziyo zabo kwaye beviwe, utshintsho luyenzeka.
3. Lumka
Njengokuba sifuna umgca wethegi ka-Ashley Madison "Ubomi bufutshane. Yibani nomtshato, ”ukusikhumbuza ukuba umtshato awubekwa ngembeko efanayo njengoko wawusenzeka ngaphambili, zithathe ngokwakho ukukhusela umtshato wakho, kwiintshaba zangaphandle nezasekhaya.
- Xa nithe nahlukana, jonga inyathelo lakho. Imicimbi ayiqali ngamanyathelo amakhulu, kodwa amanyathelo omntwana. Gcina inkampani elungileyo. Chitha ixesha nabahlobo abawuxabisayo umtshato wakho. Ukuba abahlobo bakho abenzi njalo, ungayifumana eyenzayo. Sonke sifuna iphiko okanye iphiko gal ukusinceda sibhabhe ngokufanelekileyo ngamanye amaxesha.
- Ngoku malunga neentshaba zasekhaya, kungenjalo zaziwa njengabantwana. Kuya kufuneka ubathintele ngokuba ixesha lakho lesibini kuba baya kuthatha yonke into obanikeza yona. Beka imida malunga nokuphazamisa ngexesha lokuvuka kunye nokuhlala kumagumbi abo emva kwesiko lokulala. Bangayiqonda, kwaye uya kubathumela umyalezo omkhulu ngendlela yokwenza umtshato wabo wexa elizayo ngenye imini.
Ezi “zizo” zintathu yindawo elungileyo ongaqala kuyo ukuze ugcine umtshato wakho wondlekile kwaye uqinile. Hayi umtshato uyasebenza xa usebenza.