Umxholo
- Sukuyeka ukuphupha kunye
- Lithembe iqabane lakho ngokuqatha
- Chitha ixesha elinye kunye
- Vula kwaye wabelane
- Umgca wezantsi
Ahh, umtshato. Liziko elimangalisayo elinemiba emininzi. Umzekelo, ubudlelwane bezesondo emtshatweni bukhulu. Kodwa kufana nokufaka icing kwikhekhe. Okokuqala, kufuneka ubhaka ikhekhe. Kwaye loo ikeyiki kukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo.
Luyintoni ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo? Ukunxibelelana. Ngamafutshane, ningabahlobo kuqala, abathandi banesibini.
Ukuba awunabahlobo neqabane lakho, amathuba okuba umtshato wakho uza kuwa. Imiba ephathekayo yobudlelwane inokuthatha kuphela ukuza kuthi ga ngoku.
Kodwa emva kokuba izibane ziqhubeka, izinto ziba nzima, kwaye nobabini nidinga ukubhabha nize niqhubeke nobomi kunye, yintoni eza kuninceda kakhulu? Ubuhlobo bakho.
Ukubaluleka kwendima yobuhlobo emtshatweni akunakugqithwa. Cinga malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumhlobo. Nixelelana yonke into; enyanisweni, awunakulinda ukuba uthethe omnye nomnye. Uyayixabisa into encinci malunga nomnye nomnye. Niyakhuthazana kwaye niyaphakanyisana. Obunjani ukuba buhle ubuhlobo!
Kodwa ngaba loo nto ayivakali ngathi inokuba ngumtshato omangalisayo?
Ungaluhlakulela njani olohlobo lobuhlobo emtshatweni wakho?
Nazi ezinye zeendlela zokuphuhlisa inkalo yobuhlobo kulwalamano lwakho kwaye uyincede idlale indima ebaluleke ngakumbi kubomi bakho bomtshato.
Sukuyeka ukuphupha kunye
Ukuqala kwakho ukudibana neqabane lakho, mhlawumbi nobabini ninokwabelana ngethemba kunye namaphupha ngekamva. Ekugqibeleni, la mathemba kunye namaphupha adityaniswa njengoko wawutshata. Amaxesha amaninzi, nangona kunjalo, njengoko ubambeka kubomi bemihla ngemihla bosapho kunye nomsebenzi, uyeka ukuthetha ngamathemba kunye namaphupha akho.
Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba ubomi bunzima kakhulu, okanye mhlawumbi uziva ngathi awunakuphupha ngoku. Okanye mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba iqabane lakho sele liwazi amaphupha akho, ke yintoni eseleyo ukuba uthethe ngayo? Abahlobo bahlala bephupha kunye. Thatha loo nto kunye neqabane lakho, nokuba lixesha elide.
Yizise xa usitya isidlo sangokuhlwa, uqhuba kwenye indawo, okanye uhleli nje ebhedini. “Uphupha ngantoni?” okanye "Uzibona phi wena nosapho lwethu kwiminyaka emi-5?" okanye "Zeziphi izinto ezintathu eziphezulu kuluhlu lwamabhakethi akho?" Gcina oku njengezihloko eziqhelekileyo zengxoxo kwaye uya kugcina obo buhlobo bukhula.
Lithembe iqabane lakho ngokuqatha
Cinga ngomhlobo wakho osenyongweni okhulayo.
Wakhe wathandabuza ukuba angenza nantoni na athi bazakuyenza? Okanye awuzange ubathembe ukuba baza kuza ngenxa yakho?
Abahlobo bayathembana kwaye banikana omnye nomnye. Xa besithi bazokuziqeqeshela umdyarho weembaleki, omnye kufanelekile ukuba athembe kwaye axhase, angabonisi ukuba kunzima kangakanani kwaye akuthandabuzi ukunyaniseka kwabo.
Abahlobo baziphakamisa, baxhase, kwaye bathembane. Yiloo nto eyenziwa ngabahlobo, akunjalo? Ewe, wagqibela nini ukuyenza loo nto kwiqabane lakho?
Iqabane lakho lihle kakhulu. Ungabathemba ukuba bacinge nzulu kwaye banomdla wonke umntu ngentliziyo. Ukuba bafuna ukwenza into, bathembe. Banike imbeko nothando.
Sukukhupha umoya kwiiseyile zabo ngokubanika "itshekhi yokwenyani." Kungenxa yokuba amathuba akhoyo, sele bacinge ngezantsi. Yeka ukuthandabuza iqabane lakho. Endaweni yoko, bathembe kwaye ubaxhase ngokuqatha.
Chitha ixesha elinye kunye
Into ehlala isenziwa ngabahlobo kukufumana iindlela zokudibana rhoqo. Bathumela imiyalezo rhoqo kwaye baxhoma ubuncinci iveki nganye. Benza izinto eziqhelekileyo kunye, njengevenkile okanye ukuya kwiminyhadala. Kodwa benza izinto ezizodwa ngeempelaveki, njengokuya epatini, kwimuvi, kwisidlo sangokuhlwa, okanye kwenye into eyonwabisayo.
Yenza okufanayo neqabane lakho ukwakha ubuhlobo. Awunakudibana ngokwenyani ukuba uhlala kwindawo enye. Kuya kufuneka uphume uye kwenza umsebenzi kunye. Yenza ukuzibophelela kukwenza ngeveki-ngobusuku bomhla ngokuqinisekileyo kufanele ukuba kungathethathethani emtshatweni.
Kungekudala uza kubona ubuhlobo bakho buqhakaza ngeendlela ezingakhange zibekho kudala. Yibeke kwikhalenda yakho kwaye unamathele kuyo.
Vula kwaye wabelane
Ndagqibela nini ukuthetha ngesibetho neqabane lakho?
Apho wabelana khona ngeengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho malunga nento ethile?
Abahlobo bayayenza loo nto. Bakulungele ukuba semngciphekweni omnye komnye, bethetha into abayicingayo, ukumamela omnye umntu, kunye nokwabelana nje ngokubanzi. Bayenza rhoqo kwaye bayenza ngothando. Kuba kungala maxesha apho abantu ababini banokuziva benyanzelekile ukuba beqinisekisiwe, beviwe, kwaye behlangene kunye.
Leyo yeyona ntsingiselo yokwenene yokusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo kunye nobuhlobo emtshatweni- hayi nje ukuba ziziqingatha ezibini zelinye elipheleleyo kodwa zibe yinto enye kunye. Ubuhlobo obuqinileyo emtshatweni bunokukunceda ukufezekisa oko.
Umgca wezantsi
Ubuhlobo sesinye seziseko zomtshato ophilileyo. Ukuba ujonga emva ngexesha lokudibana kwakho neqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba nobabini nisondelelene njengabahlobo, nangaphambi kokuba nive nithandana. Ukugcina ubuhlobo bukhula ngomtshato yindlela entle nebalulekileyo yokugcina ubudlelwane bunempilo kwaye bonwabile.