Umxholo
- Ungachacha njani kwintlungu
- 1. Yeka ukuzibek 'ityala
- 2. Nika ixesha lokuba buhlungu kwaye uphilise
- 3. Funda ngoloyiko lwakho
- 4. Ungalahli ithemba
- 5. Nikela ingqalelo kuwe
Amaqabane atyalwe ngokwenyani kwimpilo kunye nobomi bemitshato yabo banentliziyo ebuhlungu xa igama elithi "ukwahlukana" lingena kwincoko.
Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona sizama ngamandla ukulungisa umtshato owaphukileyo, Ukwahlukana komtshato kuba yinto engenakuphepheka kunye nokudinwa kwamathumbu. Ukwamkela ukukhathazeka kwentliziyo kwaye uqhubeke emva kokwahlukana ngukunzima ayisiyiyo eyamaqabane kuphela kodwa nayo yabantwana ukuba isibini sinazo.
Ukwahlukana komtshato kunokubangela iimvakalelo ezininzi kwizibini ezahlukanisiweyo, kanye ukusuka ‘kulonwabo noxolo,’ ukuya ‘kukusilela nosizi.’ Olunye uphononongo luthi, uchacha ekuphukeni kwentliziyo inokuba ngumsebenzi ophazamisayo- ezinye izibini kufuneka zibuyele emalini ukuze zikwazi ukuzihlaziya ngokwazo malunga nendlela eziva ngayo emva kokuphela kobudlelwane.
Kodwa, ukuba Ukwahlukana akunakuphepheka emtshatweniNgaba oko kuthetha ukuba ungene ngeempumlo kuxinzelelo, umsindo, kunye nokwehla okukhawulezileyo kwimpilo yonke? Akunjalo.
Kwa isifundo esinye siqhubeka sithi iimvakalelo ezahlulwe zizibini ezitshatileyo zinokuba zezintle kwaye zingalunganga- kolu phononongo, bekukho ubungqina beemvakalelo zokungoneliseki, umona, nomsindo oxubene nosizi kunye nokusilela, kungqinwa kwabaphendulayo. Kodwa, bekukho iimvakalelo ezilungileyo zenkululeko, ukonwaba, noxolo kuqatshelwe nakwabanye abambalwa.
Kwakhona funda -Jika umtshato wakho ube ngamava amahle
Inqaku apha kukuba nangona ukuphilisa kwintlungu ebuhlungu kunzima, nazi amanyathelo okuphilisa emtshatweni oqhekekileyo.
Ungachacha njani kwintlungu
Ukufumana uxolo kunye nokuzikhulisa emva kokwahlukana komtshato iyafumaneka kwisibini ngasinye esilahlileyo, kodwa ukuntywila ngokwakho ekugxekeni akukho ndlela yokujongana nentlungu yentliziyo. Unga nokuba ukhetha ukuzikhathaza ngobubi okanye uthathe inyathelo elikhulu ekuphiliseni umtshato owaphukileyo, kungenjalo funda indlela yokwenza qhubeka emva kwentliziyo, Nangona.
Kwakhona funda Izinto ezi-7 ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe xa uthetha ngokwahlukana komtshato
Kunzima ukuphendula ukuba kuthatha ixesha elingakanani ukuphola kwintlungu, kodwa eli nqaku linokukunceda uqonde ukuba wenzeni emva kwentliziyo kunye nokwahlukana komtshato.
1. Yeka ukuzibek 'ityala
Inyathelo lokuqala lokuphilisa emva kwentliziyo kunye nokwahlukana komtshato kukuyeka ukuzigxeka. Ukufumana uxolo linyathelo lokuqala ekufumaneni unyango xa umtshato uqhawulwa; ukuqonda ukuba awunaxanduva ngokupheleleyo ekusasazweni kwayo kubalulekile.
Njengabacebisi abaninzi bathe ngaphambili, “Ithatha ezimbini ukuya kwi-tango.”Xa amaqabane amabini ephelisa ubudlelwane, Zombini zinoxanduva lokuphela kwazo.
Kukwabalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba a Ukungaphumeleli emtshatweni ayonto inye nokungaphumeleli. Ngelixa unokuziva usilele, nceda ukhumbule ukuba ukuphela komtshato akuthethi ukuphela kwenjongo yakho, ubuwena kunye nekamva.
Ngaphezu kwako konke, zithande.
2. Nika ixesha lokuba buhlungu kwaye uphilise
Intlungu ibangelwa kukunyanga.
Ndithetha ukuthini ngale nto? Ukuba umtshato ufikelela esiphelweni, kubalulekile ukuba uzinike ithuba kwaye isithuba sokukhathazeka ngenxa yokulahleka konxibelelwano, ukusondelelana, kunye nekamva ekwabelwana ngalo.
Intlungu yinkqubo yendalo ngawo umzimba nomphefumlo uphalaze ezinye zeemvakalelo ezinamandla ezinxulumene nelahleko. Ngamafutshane, kulungile ukulila, ukhwaza, urhoxe, kwaye ucaphuke. Ukuphika ezi zinto zibalulekileyo zosizi kuyafana nokushiya usulelo lunganyangwa.
3. Funda ngoloyiko lwakho
Uloyiko oluqhelekileyo lokusinda, Ukusukela uloyiko lokushiywa, ukwaliwa, kuloyiko lwe ukugwetywa okanye bebodwa, ziqwalaselwe njenge oyena nobangela wemicimbi emininzi yobudlelwane. Kwaye, uloyiko olufanayo lokwahlukaniswa okanye ukushiywa lunokuthintela ekuqwalaseleni ukwahlukana neqabane lakho.
Uloyiko olufanayo lusenokuphakamisa iintloko zabo emva kokwahlukana komtshato. Thatha umzuzwana ukumba unobangela obangele uloyiko kuwe kwaye ufumane iindlela zokuziphilisa.
Khawukhumbule nje! Unoxanduva lweemvakalelo zakho ezingonelisiyo nakwikamva lakho.
4. Ungalahli ithemba
Okokugqibela, igama malunga nethemba. Ukuba wena neqabane lakho elahlukanisiweyo nisakwazi ukuchaza ukufana kwekamva ekwabelwana ngalo, kuya kufuneka yamkela ithuba lokuba umtshato womtshato ungaqhubeka.
Inkqubo ye- Ukubanakho ukujonga kwikamva ngelensi ethembisayo neqabane lakho ibonisa ukuba ungakwazi Philisa KUNYE.
Nokuba oku akwenzeki, musa ukulibala ukubhiyozela kwaye lixabise ixesha elihle wabelane neqabane lakho. Nokuba buhlungu ubudlelwane obunokuba buye baba, ayizange ibe “mbi kwaphela.”
5. Nikela ingqalelo kuwe
Ngamanye amaxesha, uya kuphulukana nokunxibelelana namaxabiso asisiseko xa ubotshelelwe kubudlelwane. A Ukwahlukana komtshato kuba yinto evula amehlo kwaye kukushiya udimazekile.
Ngoku lithuba lokuba uziphindezele unkqonkqoze emnyango emva kokutshata, lixesha lokuba ugxile kumandla akho kunye nexesha fumana amandla akho angaphakathi kwaye funda ngezinto Okushiya uzive uhlaziyekile kwaye unamandla.
Konwabele ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe.
Ke, ungayiphilisa njani intliziyo ebuhlungu? Elula! Phuma ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela kwaye uzame izinto ezintsha, phonononga izimvo ezintsha, kwaye funda ukuhlala ngolonwabo kunye nawe.
Ukungonwabi ngokuzama izinto ezintsha kunokususa ingqondo yakho kwintlungu yakho.
Ke, yiya kuyo!
- Ungqongwe ngabantu abaxhasayo
Intlungu yokwahlukana inokuba krakra. Ke, kungcono zijikeleze ngenkxaso nokondla abantu.
Thatha lo mtshato ngokwahlukana njengethuba lokwandisa kunye nokuyila kwakhona isangqa sakho sentlalo. Nxibelelana nabantu abonwabileyo nabazithembileyo ebomini babo, abanembono elungileyo kwaye inokukunceda ekuqhubekeni emva kwentliziyo.
Kwakhona, funda- Iindlela ezi-5 ezifanelekileyo zokujongana nokwahlukana komtshato
Ukuhamba wedwa akunakuba yimpendulo
Ukuhlala ungatshatanga kunye nokuhamba wedwa ebomini bakho akunakuba yinto yakho. Kodwa, isigqibo sokuqhubeka emva kokwahlukana komtshato yinto enzima ukusithatha. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde apho uceba ukuya khona emva kokushiya iqabane lakho.
Ngaba awoyiki ngokwaneleyo ukuba ubamkele ubuthathaka bakho?
Ngaba uzimisele ukuqaphela ukukhulisa ubudlelwane obutsha emva kokwahlukana?
Kubalulekile ukuthatha amanyathelo owadingayo ukuze uqhubekeke kwaye uphilise kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo ukumisela ukuba ngubani ofuna ukuba kubudlelwane naye kwixa elizayo. Xa inguqulelo yakho eyiyo ngokwakho, uya kutsala abantu abakuhloniphayo nabanomdla kuwe. Ukugxila ekuphiliseni nasekusekeni kwakhona isazisi sakho kunye nenjongo yakho njengesiqhelo kunokukunceda uqonde ukuba ngubani na olungele wena kwaye ngubani onokufuna ukuthi ndlela-ntle kuye.