Umxholo
- Kutheni unxibelelwano lubalulekile?
- Unxibelelwano njengelitye lembombo
- Iindidi zonxibelelwano emtshatweni
- Unxibelelwano lomlomo
- Unxibelelwano olungathethiyo
- Izenzo zomzimba
Masidlale umdlalo. Ukuba uzifumene kwindawo enabantu abaninzi kwaye waqala ukubuza abantu ongabaziyo ukuba bavakalelwa yintoni eyona nto ibalulekileyo emtshatweni ... ucinga ukuba bazothini?
Uthando? Ithemba? Ukunyaniseka? Ewe, zonke ezi zinto zibalulekile. Kodwa enye into ebonakala ngathi iyathethwa kakhulu kukuncinci unxibelelwano (isigqebelo, kunjalo?). Indlela abantu abatshatileyo abaxoxa ngayo ngemicimbi yabo, okanye ukuba baxoxa nantoni na, ibalulekile kumtshato ozinzileyo nowanelisayo. Ukuba usazibuza ukuba kutheni unxibelelwano lubalulekile kubudlelwane okanye lubaluleke kangakanani unxibelelwano kwisibini esitshatileyo, funda.
Kutheni unxibelelwano lubalulekile?
Ukubaluleka konxibelelwano emtshatweni kuhlala kungathathelwa ngqalelo njengoko uninzi lwezibini ludla ngokucinga ukuba ibanter yansuku zonke okanye ukungabikho kwayo akubachaphazeli mihla le. Kodwa unxibelelwano sisithuthi esenziwa ngaso onke amanye amalungu abalulekileyo emtshatweni. Ukuba uyamthanda umntu, kodwa ungawasebenzisi amagama akho kunye nezenzo zakho ukunxibelelana, awenzi kakuhle liqabane lakho. Ukuba uyamthemba umntu, mxelele. Nxibelelana nabo. Ukuba uyakwazi ukunxibelelana ngokunyanisekileyo, umtshato wakho unethuba elihle lokonwaba kwaye usempilweni. Ngapha koko, ukubaluleka konxibelelwano kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo kanye ukusuka kwiintsuku zokuthandana ngaphambi kokuba kubeka isiseko esifanelekileyo sobudlelwane.
Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo lomyeni nenkosikazi lilitye lembombo kuwo nawuphi na umtshato omde nothando.Ingxaki kukuba abanye abantu abayilunganga kwaphela. Masithathe ixesha ukuqonda ukubaluleka konxibelelwano emtshatweni kwaye sibone ukuba zeziphi iindlela zonxibelelwano emtshatweni eziza kwenza imeko yomtshato owomeleleyo nokhathalayo.
Unxibelelwano njengelitye lembombo
Uthando, ukuthembana, ukuthembeka, kunye nazo zonke ezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo zomtshato owomeleleyo azinantsingiselo kuzo. Kukubonakaliswa kwezi zinto kuvelisa umtshato ofanele ukubamonela. Ukubonisa olo thando, ukubonisa ukuthembela kwakho, kwaye ebambeleyo ngokunyanisekileyo kulapho imilingo ikhoyo. Ukwazi ukunxibelelana nokuba umfazi okanye umyeni wakho uthetha kangakanani kuwe kulapho umtshato wakho usuka khona uye kokuhle.
Unxibelelwano lungaphezulu kokuthetha nje, nangona. Kukho unxibelelwano ngomlomo, unxibelelwano olungathethiyo, kunye nezinto zomzimba ezinokubekwa phantsi kwesambrela sonxibelelwano. Makhe sijonge ezi ntlobo zonxibelelwano ziya kukunceda uqonde ukubaluleka konxibelelwano emtshatweni ngendlela engcono.
Iindidi zonxibelelwano emtshatweni
Unxibelelwano lomlomo
Wonke umntu uyakuthanda ukuva ukuba bajongeka njani. Wonke umntu uyathanda ukuva ukuba bayathandwa. Unxibelelwano lomlomo, ukukwazi ukubonisa indlela oziva ngayo kwiqabane lakho ngamazwi owathethayo, kubalulekile kunxibelelwano olusebenzayo.
Ukuba uthanda umntu ngayo yonke intliziyo yakho, kodwa ungathethi ngokwaneleyo, omnye umntu ngekhe aqonde ukuba bathandwa ngokunzulu kangakanani. Ukuba uyalixabisa iqabane lakho, kodwa ungaze uthethe ngalo, olo xabiso alubalulekanga kangako. Ukukwazi ukuxelela iqabane lakho ukuba limangalisa kangakanani liza kubenza bazive bethandwa, bexatyiswa, kwaye benxibelelana nendlela oziva ngayo. Olu hlobo lonxibelelwano lubalulekile kubudlelwane bexesha elide. Ke ukuba uyakuqonda ukubaluleka konxibelelwano emtshatweni, awuyi kuluthatha kancinci unxibelelwano lomlomo neqabane lakho.
Kunye neentetho zokonwaba, kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukuthetha ngento ongonwabanga ngayo. Unxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo luyimfuneko kulonwabo lomtshato. Ukuba iqabane lakho lenza into ekukhathazayo ukuya kwingqondo yakho, kodwa uthule ngalo mbandela, ukungabikho konxibelelwano kunye nokuthembana kuya kuvumela isenzo ukuba siqhubeke. Awunakuqhubeka nobomi kunye nenkosikazi yakho okanye umyeni wakho ekubambe konke ukungoneliseki kwakho ngaphakathi. Ukuyikhupha kuyimfuneko kwaye kuyimpilo kulwalamano lwakho. Oku kufuneka kwenziwe ngendlela enobuchule kunye nefudumeleyo, kodwa ungalindi kude kube lixesha lokuba uthethe into ekufuneka uyenzile. Ukungabikho konxibelelwano emtshatweni, ngakumbi ngamazwi, kunokuthatha umthwalo omkhulu kwimpilo yengqondo yabo bobabini abatshatileyo.
Unxibelelwano olungathethiyo
Sonke sithethile into kumhlobo, ilungu losapho, okanye iqabane elidibene nembonakalo yobuso engathandekiyo. Loo mntu kwakungekho mfuneko yokuba athethe nelimdaka, kodwa babalisa ibali ngobuso babo. Ayisiyimbonakalo yobuso kuphela, nayo. Thina bantu sithetha kakhulu ngemizimba yethu kunokuba sizinika ityala.
Xa sithetha ngokubaluleka konxibelelwano emtshatweni, asinakuludlala unxibelelwano olungasebenzisi ntetho. Qaphela ukuba ulwimi lwakho lomzimba lunxibelelana njani neqabane lakho. Ukuba uzingelwe ngaphezulu kwaye uvaliwe ngelixa uzama ukuba nengxoxo ebalulekileyo, iqabane lakho liyakuqonda ukuba ukusilela kobungozi. Jongana nomyeni wakho okanye inkosikazi yakho kwaye ugcine ulwimi lomzimba wakho luvulekile xa uncokola nzima. Akukho kunqumla umlenze. Akukho kunqumla kwengalo. Umzimba wakho kufuneka ubonise iqabane lakho ukuba uvulekile ukukuva abaya kukuthetha kwaye uzimisele ukusebenza ngako.
Zininzi iindlela ezingathethiyo ezinje ngesimo esivaliweyo esithetha ngokungalunganga okanye ngokuqinisekileyo kwiqabane lakho ngaphandle kwamagama atshintshisanayo. Yiba nolwazi ngakumbi kwaye ucinge ngendlela umzimba wakho ozibonakalisa ngayo iimvakalelo zakho. Ukubaluleka kokunxibelelana kwendoda nomfazi okungathethiyo akunakukrwelelwa ngokwaneleyo. Ukuthetha okuncinci, inokuba yeyona nto iphambili ekuphuculeni iimeko ezininzi ezingqubanayo.
Izenzo zomzimba
Ukwenza isidlo sangokuhlwa. Ukuya kwivenkile yokutya. Ukukhupha inkunkuma. Ukuya kumkhenkce ubalekele umfazi wakho okhulelweyo.
Zonke ezi ayizizo izinto ozithethayo; zizinto ozenzayo ezibonisa iqabane lakho ukuba ubakhathalele. Ngokwenza ezi zinto zincinci kwaye zicingisisiweyo, unxibelelana nothando lwakho ngabo ungakhange uthethe nto konke konke. Xa sithetha ngokubaluleka konxibelelwano kubudlelwane, ezo zinto zomzimba zihamba indlela ende kwizibini ezinokuthi zingabinkulu kangako ngonxibelelwano lomlomo.
Ibinzana elithi "izenzo zithetha ngaphezu kwamagama" zihambelana ngokufanelekileyo nale ndlela yonxibelelwano. Ungaxelela umfazi wakho ukuba uyamthanda de ube luhlaza ebusweni, kodwa isenokungaphinde ivakele njengokucoca indlu okanye ukutshintsha ioyile emotweni yakhe. Unokugeza umyeni wakho ngokumncoma, kodwa umenzele isidlo sangokuhlwa, mhlawumbi unamandla ngakumbi kunokuba "ndiyakuthanda".
Ukubaluleka konxibelelwano emtshatweni akunako ukugxininiswa ngokwaneleyo. Imijelo evulekileyo yonxibelelwano iqinisekisa ukungaqondani okuncinci kunye noncedo ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Unxibelelwano lubalulekile kuwo nawuphi na umtshato ophumelelayo, kodwa awunakuthembela kwenye yeendlela ezintathu ezidweliswe apha ngasentla. Kuya kuthatha ibhalansi elungileyo ye-trio ukubonisa iqabane lakho ukuba bathetha ntoni kuwe ngokuhamba kwexesha.
Xelela iqabane lakho ukuba uthanda ntoni ngabo, kodwa ungoyiki ukuvakalisa uluvo lwakho ukuba kukho into ekukhathazayo. Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo noluthembekileyo ngomlomo luya kuba lutyalo-mali olunomvuzo omkhulu njengoko iminyaka ihamba.
Bonisa iqabane lakho, ngolwimi lomzimba wakho, ukuba unyanisekile kwaye uvulekile kubo. Ukuzivalela, ukuvala umlomo xa uthetha, kunye nokwenza imbonakalo yobuso obubi ziiflegi ezibomvu kwiliso eliqwalaseleyo. Yazi into ethethwa ngumzimba wakho, kwaye wenze uhlengahlengiso olufanelekileyo ukuze umfazi okanye umyeni wakho azi ukuba unyanisekile.
Sebenzisa izenzo zakho ukunxibelelana nothando lwakho, ukuthembeka nokunyaniseka kwiqabane lakho. Bathengele isipho esicingelwayo, ubanike umyalezo, okanye ubancede ngomsebenzi ophazamisayo. Amagama awanyanzelekanga ukuba athethwe; izenzo zakho ziya kuthetha ngokwazo.
Ke ngoku ukuba uyakuqonda ukubaluleka konxibelelwano emtshatweni kwaye kutheni unxibelelwano olusebenzayo lubalulekile phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo, qala ngokufikelela kwiqabane lakho njengesiqhelo. Nxibelelana kwangethuba kwaye rhoqo emtshatweni wakho. Yenzani isenzo sokuziqhelanisa phakathi kwenu nobabini. Ngaphandle kwengxoxo evulekileyo nenyanisekileyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, umtshato uya kuhlangabezana neminye imiqobo. Unxibelelwano olusempilweni sisiseko somtshato esiya kuwanceda umtshato uqhubeke ixesha.