Umxholo
- 1. Qala kwangethuba
- Unyango losapho
- 2. Unyango lomntu ngamnye
- 3. Unxibelelwano losapho oluhlanganisiweyo
- Imiba eqhelekileyo ukuxoxa
- 5. Ukufumana umcebisi olungileyo
Ukutshata yinto eyingozi. Akukho ziqinisekiso, kwaye akukho zenzekelayo ngokuzenzekelayo ngokonwaba emva. Kwaye amaxesha okuba utshatile, kokukhona manani akhangeleka ebusweni, akuxelela ukuba izinto zingenakulunga.
Ngokukodwa ukuba abantwana bayabandakanyeka, izinto zihlala ziba nzima. Awusazisi nje abantu ababini kunye emtshatweni omtsha, kodwa uzisa nabantwana ekufuneka bazi umzali-wesibini kwaye baziqhelanise neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuhlala.
Inokuba noxinzelelo kubo nakubo bonke ababandakanyekayo. Inyani yile, ukuba kwintsapho edibeneyo kuthatha uhlengahlengiso oluninzi.
Yintoni onokuyenza ukunceda wonke umntu ukuba atshintshe ngokulula, wakhe isiseko sosapho esomeleleyo, kwaye ube ngowona mzali mhle onokuba ngumzali wakho?
Ukubonisana nabahlobo abasondeleyo kunye nosapho kunokunceda kwezinye iimeko. Okanye, ukubhekisa kwisikhokelo somzali ongumzali kunokunceda kwinqanaba elithile.
Kodwa, endaweni yokubhekisa kwisikhokelo esingahleliwe sokuba ngumzali okhulisa abantwana ngokwenyathelo, ukhetho olungcono kukuya kunikwa iingcebiso ngabazali abangabazali.
Unyango lwabazali bamanyathelo lwenza eyona ngqondo. Kungenxa yokuba i-Therapist okanye umcebisi unokukunceda ukuba ujongane nemicimbi eqhelekileyo edityanisiweyo kwiintsapho kunye nabazali abangabazali abajongana nokusebenzisa indlela ecwangcisiweyo nengakhethi cala.
Ke, nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokukunceda uqalise ngokucebisa abazali babazali.
1. Qala kwangethuba
Ungaqala ukufumana iingcebiso ngaphambi kokuba uqhawule umtshato kunye / okanye umtshato; yaziwa ngokuba yingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato wesibini.
Ngokukhawuleza nina nonke ninokuhlangana kwi-ofisi yonyango kwaye nithethe izinto, kulunge. Ungaxoxa ngokulindelweyo, uncede uphelise uloyiko, njl.
Into emnandi ngokuthetha nomcebisi oqeqeshiweyo kukuba bancede ezinye iintsapho ezihlanganisiweyo kwaye bayayazi imiba eqhelekileyo enokuvela kunye nendlela yokusebenza ngayo.
Unyango losapho
Iintsapho ezihlanganisiweyo zijongana nemiceli mngeni eyodwa; nangona zininzi iintsapho ezixubileyo kwezi ntsuku, akukho zintsapho zimbini ziyafana. Ikwathatha iminyaka eliqela ukuba kwenzeke utshintsho olungenampazamo kuba zininzi izinto ezidlalayo.
Ukuhlala nomcebisi njengeyunithi yosapho edityanisiweyo kubalulekile ekuhleleni yonke imiba yakho yokuba ngumzali.
Umcebisi unokubona amandla amatsha kunye nendlela eya kuchaphazela ngayo wonke umntu. Baza kuqinisekisa ukuba wonke umntu uyanegalelo kwaye bagcina izinto ziqhubela phambili.
Unyango losapho lwenyathelo lunokukunceda ubone izinto ongakhange uzibone ngaphambili, zikwenze ube ngumzali onenyathelo elingcono.
2. Unyango lomntu ngamnye
Nokuba nguwe wedwa umntu ofuna ukuya kwicounselling, okanye ufuna uncedo olongezelelekileyo, unyango lomntu ngamnye lubaluleke kakhulu kuye nabani na osapho. Ngaphandle kwengcebiso kubazali, kuninzi okunokuzuzwa ngokuhamba wedwa.
Unokumba nzulu njengoko uthetha umntu ngamnye nonyango lwakho, ngakumbi malunga nemiceli mngeni oyibonayo kusapho kunye nendlela yokujongana nayo. Ukuphucula umbono wakho kunye nezakhono zokujongana nemicimbi kunokuba nefuthe elibonakalayo kusapho lonke.
Ukuba uziva ukuba omnye wabantwana ufuna unyango lomntu ngamnye, ikwayinto elungileyo.
3. Unxibelelwano losapho oluhlanganisiweyo
Ukuzisa umzali wesinyathelo kunye nenyathelo labantwana ndawonye kunokuba nzima ekuqaleni. Unyango yindlela elungileyo yokuseka usapho lwakho oludityanisiweyo lwesiseko sonxibelelwano.
Ngaphandle konxibelelwano, ubomi bemihla ngemihla buya kuba nzima. Awuyi kuba nakho ukufumana iimvakalelo zakho, ngekhe wazi ukuba ume phi, kwaye iyunithi yosapho lwakho ayinakusebenza.
Ingcali inokukunceda uvule yonke imizila yonxibelelwano ukuze ukwazi ukujongana neminye imicimbi engaphambili.
Imiba eqhelekileyo ukuxoxa
Xa usiya kucetyiswa njengomzali wesibini okanye usapho oludibeneyo, nantsi eminye imiba eqhelekileyo onokuthi uxoxe ngayo: ukunceda wonke umntu azive ethandwa ngokulinganayo, ukuqonda amasiko osapho amatsha, ulindelo olungeyonyani, ukuqonda ukuba usebenza njani usapho, abantwana hayi ukuthatha ixesha elide, umzali wokwenene uthatha ulawulo oluninzi kakhulu, ukufumana isizathu sokuba uqhawulo-mtshato lwenzeke, ukuziqhelanisa nomtshato omtsha, ukukhulisa umzali, ukuziva ulahlekile okanye uloyiko, ungaxhumani nabantwana bomtshato wesibini, njl.
Yenza umkhwa wokubhala phantsi iingcinga zakho njengoko zisiza kuwe ukuze xa ungena kwiofisi yonyango, sele unesikhokelo esicacileyo kwaye unokwenza indlela ethile.
Bukela ividiyo eboniswe ngezantsi ukuze uqonde ukuba yeyiphi na imiceli mngeni abajamelana nayo abantwana kunye nabazali abathandayo kusapho oludibeneyo.
5. Ukufumana umcebisi olungileyo
Ukuba ukulungele ukufumana umcebisi olungileyo wokunceda usapho lwakho oludibeneyo, uyazi njani ukuba ungalufumana phi olungileyo?
Ngokucacileyo, unokwenza ukukhangela kwi-Intanethi 'ngokucebisa ngabazali abathandanayo kufutshane nam' kwaye ujonge iiwebhusayithi. Ukuba uyayenza loo nto, qiniseka ukuba ufunda i-bio epheleleyo yonyango ukuze ubone iziqinisekiso kunye namava abo, kwaye ufumane ukuqonda ukuba ngoobani.
Ayizizo zonke iingcali zonyango ezifanayo! Kuba uza kube uthetha ngemicimbi yobuqu, kubalulekile ukuba ufumane umntu onokuthi unxibelelane naye kwaye umthembe. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokufumana ugqirha olungileyo kukucela ukuthunyelwa.
Nangona ukufuna i-Therapist ayisiyonto ufuna ukusasaza ngayo kwabanye, ngokuqinisekileyo unokuthula ungabahlobo abasondeleyo abambalwa ukuba bayamazi umntu ofanelekileyo.
Khumbula ukuba ukuba umcebisi wakho akakuncedisi, ke cinga ngokufumana umntu omtsha. Ukuzilungiselela kakuhle wena kunye nosapho lwakho kuya kuwenza wonke umahluko.