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Inye into ehlala ihleli ebomini lutshintsho. Kodwa ukwamkela utshintsho akukho lula. Utshintsho luzisa iimeko ezingalindelekanga kunye nemiceli mngeni esingazange siqubisane nayo okanye esidibana nayo ngaphambili. Nangona kunjalo, akusoloko kufuneka ukuba njalo. Abazali bethu, abagcini bethu kunye nabacebisi bethu, ngamava abo bayasinceda ukuba silungiselele utshintsho oluza kwenzeka kuthi, basixelela ukuba silindele ntoni, senzeni kwaye yintoni esingamele siyenze.
Umtshato yinto eyenzeka kube kanye kubomi babantu abaninzi. Olona tshintsho lukhulu olunokuguqula ubomi bethu ngokupheleleyo. Xa sitshata, sidibanisa ubomi bethu nomnye umntu kwaye sithembisa ukuchitha bonke ubomi bethu kunye nabo ngamaxesha amnandi nangalunganga.
Umtshato ngokuqinisekileyo umisela ukuba ubomi bethu buya kuba buzaliseka okanye bube nzima kangakanani. Uncedo oluncinci oluvela kubazali bethu lunokusinceda sitshate nomntu olungileyo, ngezizathu ezifanelekileyo kwaye sibe nomtshato owonwabileyo nowanelisayo.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso utata awazinika unyana wakhe malunga nomtshato:
1. Baninzi abantu basetyhini abaya kuxabisa kwaye bazonwabele izipho ozithengela bona. Kodwa ayizizo zonke eziza kukukhathalela ukufumanisa ukuba ingakanani imali oyichithe kuzo kunye nokuba uzigcinele ntoni. Tshata umfazi ongazithandiyo izipho kodwa okhathalele nokonga kwakho, imali oyisebenzele nzima.
2.Ukuba umfazi unawe ngenxa yobutyebi nobutyebi bakho, ungatshati naye. Tshata umfazi okulungeleyo ukulwa nawe, okulungeleyo ukwabelana ngeengxaki zakho.
3. Uthando lodwa alusosizathu saneleyo sokutshata. Umtshato ulwalamano olusondeleyo kunye nolunzima. Nangona luyimfuneko, uthando alwanelanga ukuba umtshato uphumelele. Ukuqonda, ukuhambelana, ukuthembana, imbeko, ukuzibophelela, inkxaso zezinye zeempawu eziyimfuneko kumtshato omde nowonwabisayo.
4. Xa unengxaki nomfazi wakho, soloko ukhumbula ukuba ungaze ungxole, ungaze uxhatshaze, nokuba emzimbeni okanye emphefumlweni. Iingxaki zakho ziya kusonjululwa kodwa intliziyo yakhe inokufumana ibala ngonaphakade.
5. Ukuba umfazi wakho ume ngakuwe wakuxhasa ukuba uqhubeke nezinto ozithandayo, kuya kufuneka ubuyise inceba ngokwenza njalo. Mkhuthaze ukuba aqhubeke nokuthanda kwakhe kwaye amnike inkxaso kangangoko kufuneka.
6. Soloko ubeka phambili ukuba ngumyeni kunokuba ngutata. Abantwana bakho bayakukhula kwaye baqhubeke nezinto abazifunayo kodwa, umfazi wakho uhlala ekhona apho nawe.
7. Phambi kokuba ukhalaze ngokuba nenkosikazi ekhathazayo, cinga, uyaluzalisekisa uxanduva lwakho kuxanduva lwasekhaya? Akayi kufuneka akucaphukise ukuba wenze konke obekufanele ukwenziwa nguwe.
8. Ixesha linokuza ebomini bakho apho unokuziva ukuba umfazi wakho ayisenguye laa mntu wawutshate naye. Ngelo xesha, cinga, ngaba utshintshile, ngaba ikhona into oyekile ukuyenzela yona.
9 Musa ukubudlakazelisa ubutyebi bakho ebantwaneni bakho, abangakwaziyo ukuba ubusebenza nzima kangakanani na ukukufeza oko. Yichithe kumfazi oye wanyamezela bonke ubunzima beengxaki zakho kunye nawe, umfazi wakho.
10. Njalo khumbula, awusoze uthelekise umfazi wakho namanye amabhinqa. Ubeka into (wena) abanye abafazi abangayiyo. Kwaye ukuba usakhetha ukumthelekisa nabanye abafazi qiniseka ukuba awukho ngaphantsi kokugqibeleleyo
11. Ukuba ukhe uzibuze ukuba ubungumyeni notata olunge kangakanani ebomini bakho, sukujonga imali nobutyebi obenzele bona. Jonga uncumo lwabo ujonge nokubengezela emehlweni abo.
12. Nokuba ngabantwana bakho okanye ngumfazi wakho, bancome esidlangalaleni kodwa ugxeke ngasese kuphela. Awungethandi ukuba bakhombe iintsilelo zakho phambi kwabahlobo bakho kunye nabantu oqhelene nabo, andithi?
13. Esona sipho sibalaseleyo wakha wasipha abantwana bakho kukuthanda umama wabo. Abazali abanothando bakhulisa abantwana abalungileyo.
14. Ukuba ufuna abantwana bakho bakukhathalele xa umdala, khathalela abazali bakho. Abantwana bakho baya kulandela umzekelo wakho.