Umxholo
- Kutheni ukhetha ukukhetha iingcebiso zomtshato ngaphambi komtshato
- Injongo yeengcebiso phambi komtshato
- Yintoni onokuyilindela kunikwe iingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato
- Izibonelelo zonyango lomtshato ngaphambi komtshato
- Uyikhetha njani eyona nyango ilungileyo yomtshato ngaphambi komtshato
Umtshato ngokungathandabuzekiyo sesinye seziganeko ezibaluleke kakhulu ebantwini. Xa abantu ababini bethandana ngokunzulu, unyango lomtshato ngaphambi komtshato alunakuba lolona khetho uninzi!
Wonke umntu uphupha ukuba nomtshato ogqibeleleyo-nomfanekiso kwaye ujonge ukuhlala 'ngolonwabo ngonaphakade', njengoko kubonisiwe kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya!
Ukucwangcisa umtshato kunokuba yimincili kodwa koyike ngakumbi. Kuba, phantsi kwalo lonke olo lonwabo, umbuzo ngulo, “Ngaba bawulungele ngokwenene umtshato?”
Kutheni ukhetha ukukhetha iingcebiso zomtshato ngaphambi komtshato
Ukuqonda ukubaluleka kokucebisa ngaphambi komtshato okanye unyango lomtshato ngaphambi komtshato, makhe sijonge imeko yomtshato ekhoyo kule mihla.
Wonke umntu uyazi iinkcukacha zamanani emitshato engapheliyo. Iinkcukacha-manani ezibengezelayo zithi ama-40-50% emitshato iphela kuqhawulo-mtshato. Okothusayo nangakumbi yipesenti yemitshato yesibini ephela kuqhawulo mtshato, eyi-60%.
Ityekelo lomntu lokujonga nakweyiphi na imeko engathandekiyo okanye nayiphi na inkohlakalo, ukusuka kumbono womntu wesithathu kwaye ungayisebenzisi kuwe.
Kule migca, uninzi lwezibini zikholelwa ekubeni aziyi kuba yinxalenye yezo zibalo. Inyani yomcimbi yile, kunjalo ke kubo bonke abantu abatshatileyo ngoku abaqhawule umtshato. Ke ukutya okucingwayo kukuba, kukho umntu owenza la manani akhule!
Injongo yeengcebiso phambi komtshato
Kukho abantu abakholelwa ukuba umtshato sesona sisombululo sisiso sokusombulula naziphi na iingxaki zobudlelwane. Kodwa ke, ukutshata kuyabaphakamisa kwaye imiba iphela ingasombululwa.
Kulapha xa unyango lwangaphambi komtshato okanye ingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato iza emfanekisweni!
Amaqabane athabatha inxaxheba kunyango lwangaphambi komtshato anciphisa amathuba okufumana uqhawulo-mtshato kwisiqingatha.
Isizathu kukuba le khosi yangaphambi komtshato okanye unyango lubonisa nayiphi na imiceli mngeni enokubangela ingxaki kamva, ukuba ayikhange isonjululwe ngexesha elifanelekileyo nangobulumko.
Izibonelelo ezibalaseleyo zokufumana iingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato kukuba izisombululo zenziwe ngendlela phambi kokuba wena neqabane lakho nijongane emehlweni kwaye nithi ezo zifungo.
Yintoni onokuyilindela kunikwe iingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato
Uninzi lwabantu abatshatileyo lusenokungazi nokuba balindele ntoni kwizibini ezenza iingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato, shiya ngaphandle izibonelelo ezothusayo zokucebisa ngomtshato.
Izibini ezininzi zinokuba noloyiko lokuvumela ugqirha, ongamaziyo ngokupheleleyo, ukuba angene kwiinkcukacha zakho ezisenyongweni nakwimicimbi yabucala.
Ukoyisa olu loyiko ungasoloko ujonga abanyangi abaqinisekisiweyo nabanelayisensi abanamava athembekileyo ekujonganeni nemicimbi efana neyakho.
Aba bacebisi okanye abagqirha abagunyazisiweyo babotshelelwe yimigaqo yokungachazwanga, ke akufuneki ukuba ube nexhala ngokuveza iimfihlo zakho, ngelixa usenza unyango lomtshato ngaphambi komtshato.
Kwakhona, kukho izibini ezininzi ezithandabuzayo ukufumana unyango lwangaphambi komtshato kuba inokuzisa umba ongakhange ubekho kwasekuqaleni. Ukuba ukhathazekile ngale nto, le nto ngokwayo ifanele ibe yiflegi yakho ebomvu!
Kananjalo, enyanisweni, ingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato yenza ngokuchaseneyo. Isebenza njengesibane esikhokelayo okanye i-buoy kulwalamano lwakho, kunokuba uyitshone.
Izibonelelo zonyango lomtshato ngaphambi komtshato
Unyango lomtshato ngaphambi komtshato okanye ukucebisa ngaphambi komtshato, imiba eliqela enokubakho iyavezwa kwaye ixoxwe, ongayi kujongana nayo ngokwakho.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, kufunyaniswe ukuba elinye iqabane liyamkeleka kwaye elinye likhetha ukuziphepha kwiingxaki. Kodwa, ukubaleka kwiingxaki ezikhoyo kuyingozi kulo naluphi na ulwalamano ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Ukuba iqabane lakho lingenisile okanye linendlela yokungafuni ulwalamano lwakho, kunzima kakhulu ukubandakanya amalungu osapho okanye izihlobo ekucwangciseni iingxaki.
Ngokungenelela komntu owaziwayo, iqabane lakho lisenokuhlala liziva ukuba izimvo zabo zinomkhethe. Oku kunokubenzakalisa ubudlelwane bakho, kunokuba kukusondeze ezimbini.
Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kuhlala kungcono ukuya kumntu ongathathi hlangothi angenelele kwaye akukhokele kubudlelwane obuphilileyo nobusebenzayo.
Kuba i-Therapist eqinisekisiweyo iya kwenza olona khetho lulungileyo kumlamli ongathathi hlangothi, kunokwenzeka ukuba omabini amaqabane aya kuthi aphendule kunyango okanye kwinkqubo yokucebisa.
Uyikhetha njani eyona nyango ilungileyo yomtshato ngaphambi komtshato
Inokuba ngumsebenzi otyhafisayo ukukhetha uhlobo olufanelekileyo lonyango kwisininzi sokhetho olukhoyo.
Unokukhetha nokufumana iingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato kwi-Intanethi endaweni yokufumana iingcebiso kubantu abaqhelekileyo ukuba uphelelwa lixesha.
Nokuba ukhetha indlela yokunikwa iingcebiso kwi-Intanethi okanye ngaphandle kweintanethi, elona nyathelo liphambili lokukhetha i-Therapist efanelekileyo yokujongana neenkxalabo zakho kukwenza uphando olubanzi, ngaphambi kokuba ugqibezele unyango lwakho lwangaphambi komtshato.
Kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba ugqirha unelayisensi kwaye baneziqinisekiso ezifanelekileyo zokubonelela ngonyango olufunayo. Ungajonga ukuba balufumene na uqeqesho olongezelelweyo.
Khangela uphononongo oluthembekileyo olufumaneka kwi-intanethi kwaye ujonge amava abo ekujonganeni nemicimbi efana neyakho. Unokuthatha uncedo kubahlobo bakho nakusapho lwakho ukucebisa ngezinye zeengcali ezifanelekileyo zokubonelela ngonyango lomtshato ngaphambi komtshato.
Kuya kufuneka ujonge ukuba ngaba unyango luyakwenza ukuba uzive ukhululekile ngelixa uphantsi kweseshoni yokufumana iingcebiso. Qiniseka ukuba iindlela zabo zonyango zilungele wena kunye neqabane lakho.
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Nobabini niyakufunda izakhono zokuzisa umtshato wenu ukuze uphumelele. Sukuba manani. Ukuba ucwangcisa ukutshata, cwangcisa unyango ngaphambi komtshato kunye nathi!