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Iminyaka yeshumi elivisayo inzima kuye nabani na. Zizele lutshintsho, kokubini ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasemzimbeni, kwaye kuninzi ekufuneka ukwenzile. Ukongeza uxinzelelo kunye notshintsho loqhawulo-mtshato okanye ukwahlukana kwenza eli xesha linzima nokuba nzima ukujamelana nalo. Ulutsha luza kuhlala luziva ngathi alunasiseko, nokuba banokuthi baziphathe kakuhle. Ukuba baya kukhula babe ngabantu abadala abasempilweni, baya kuyidinga inkxaso kunye nothando lwakho. Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa malunga nendlela yokunceda ulutsha ngeli xesha linzima.
Xa umntwana wakho sele evakalelwa ngathi bakumhlaba ongazinzanga, kungcono ungongezi ezinye utshintsho kubomi babo ukuba unganceda. Kuqhawulo-mtshato, akukho ndlela yakuphepha utshintsho, kodwa engqondweni ukwenza utshintsho kunokunceda ukunika umntwana wakho ixesha lokuziqhelanisa. Ngelixa kunokuba nzima ukunqanda utshintsho oluncinci njengekhaya elitsha okanye isikolo esitsha, vumela ulutsha lwakho luthathe ixesha lazo ukukuqhela. Ukuthetha nomntwana wakho malunga notshintsho oluzayo kuya kubavumela ukuba bazilungiselele ngokwengqondo, okuya kunceda ekuziqhelaniseni nendlela entsha esebenza ngayo izinto.
Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uya kuba nokunxibelelana nabahlobo bakhe bakudala. Ukwenza abahlobo abatsha luxinzelelo olongeziweyo, kwaye abahlobo babo bakudala banokunika inkxaso yemvakalelo njengoko bezama ukusebenza ngale nkqubo inzima. Zama ukulinda de uphele unyaka wesikolo ngaphambi kokuba uye kwisikolo esitsha. Ukutshintsha phakathi enyakeni kunzima kakhulu kwaye kuya kubangela uxinzelelo olongezelelekileyo kunye nokusilela kumabakala. Jonga ukuba ungalungiselela na ukuba umntwana wakho afikise esikolweni kwangoko ukuze bangaziva belahlekile kusuku lwabo lokuqala.
Ukuba uyahamba, vumela ukuba bahombise igumbi labo. Zama ukuyenza ibe ngamava amnandi, kwaye bayeke bazivakalise ngendlela abayihombise ngayo.
Uqhawulo-mtshato lwakho luya kuba nzima kakhulu kumntwana wakho ofikisayo, kwaye baya kuziva benomsindo, ukungcatshwa kunye nenzondo komnye wabazali okanye kubo bobabini. Nokuba abanomsindo kuwe, baya kuthi bakhuphe iimvakalelo zabo ezingathandekiyo kuwe. Nokuba bayadelela, banemvukelo, okanye bayarhoxa, kuya kufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo iimvakalelo zabo. Zama ukungabi nomsindo kakhulu, kodwa thabatha amanyathelo oluleko ukuba oko bakwenzileyo kungaphaya komgangatho wokwamkeleka. Ukuba bathatha isenzo sabo ukuya kwinqanaba elingenampilo, kulapho kungafuneka ungenelele ngoncedo lweengcali.
Cinga ukubasa kugqirha okanye kumcebisi ukuba baqala ukwenza ngendlela ebangela ukuba uxhalabele impilo yabo. Musa ukubanyanzela, kuba ngekhe bayithande le nto kwasekuqaleni. Sukubafundisa malunga nokuba kutheni kufuneka babone ubuchwephesha, kodwa endaweni yoko chaza ukuba kutheni ukhathalele impilo yabo. Qiniseka ukuba bayakuqonda ukuba awucingi ukuba kufuneka "balungiswe". Ukunyanzelwa kuya kukuqhubela phambili kwakhona umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo, ngelixa ukuba novakalelo kunye nokukhathalela kunokuvula unxibelelwano kunye nokunciphisa iintlungu zabo. Bakhangela umhlaba oqinileyo; ibe yeyabo.
Ngelixa kunokuba nzima ukubona umntwana wakho esenza okanye ngendlela engalunganga kuwe, ukukhulula kwimigaqo ayisiyondlela elungileyo yokubuyisa uthando lwabo. Endaweni yoko, oku kuya kubafundisa ukuba bafumana amabhaso ngokuvukela. Bafuna uqeqesho kunye nesiseko ukuze babe ngabantu abadala abasempilweni, kunye nokususa imigaqo kususa zombini ezo zinto.
Banike inkululeko oziva ngathi bakhule ngokwaneleyo, kwaye ubuyekeze isimilo esihle ngenkululeko engakumbi. Ukuba banamabanga aphezulu kwaye bayahlonipha, mabavumele ukuba baphume emva kwexesha okanye bachithe ixesha elongezelelweyo kwikhompyuter. Yiba nengqiqo kumntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo, kwaye khumbula ukuba bayakhula babe ngabantu abadala. Njengoko bekhula, baya kulangazelela inkululeko engakumbi.
Emva kokuqhawula umtshato okanye ukwahlukana, uya kuba neemvakalelo zakho ezididekileyo ukuze usebenze. Ngelixa ukuthetha nabo ngeemvakalelo zakho kunokunceda ukomeleza ukudibana kwakho kwaye ubabonise ukuba uyabahlonipha kwaye uyabathemba, kuya kufuneka ulumke malunga nokuba wabelana kangakanani. Khumbula ukuba ungumzali wabo kwaye kufuneka womelele abantwana bakho. Kwakhona, sukuthetha izinto ezimbi ngomnye umzali wabo ophambi kwabo. Gcina izihloko ezibuhlungu nezingalunganga ekuza kuthethwa ngazo kunye nabahlobo abadala kunye namalungu osapho athembekileyo, okanye nokuba yingcali enje ngengcali. Ezinye izinto azinakwenza nto ngaphandle kokulimaza umntwana wakho, kwaye kuya kufuneka unike ingqalelo into obaxelela yona.
Ukunceda ulutsha kule nkqubo kunokuba nzima kakhulu, ngakumbi xa bengaziva ngathi basebenza nawe. Nangona kunjalo, inkxaso engagungqiyo kunye nothando oluvela kuwe nakwabanye ababaziyo lunokubanceda kula mava acelomngeni ukuya phambili ebudaleni.