Umxholo
- Yintoni ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni kwaye kuyintoni?
- Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni kulula ukukufumanisa kunokuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo
- Ungaluqonda njani uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo?
- Xa kukho kokubini, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo
- Ukuqhuma komzimba kwiidigri ezahlukeneyo kuba ngumzekelo oqhelekileyo
- Umenzi wobubi uzama ukubuyisela isimilo sakhe ngobubele kunye nezipho
- Into onokuyenza ngayo
Zombini iimpatho gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo ziza nemiphumela emibi kwaye ngamanye amaxesha yobomi kwixhoba. Kwaye nangona kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntu aphathwe gadalala ngokwasemphefumlweni eyedwa, phantse akukho matyala okuphathwa gadalala emzimbeni. Ihlala ikhatshwa luluhlu lweendlela zokuziphatha ezixhaphazayo ngokweemvakalelo, ezinendlela yokwenza ubomi bexhoba ukuba bube sisihogo esiphilayo.
Yintoni ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni kwaye kuyintoni?
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni yiyo nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha enenjongo ngabom yokwenzakalisa umzimba. Ithetha ntoni le nto? Uninzi lwethu ludla ngokucinga ngokuxhatshazwa emzimbeni ngemifanekiso yomntu ebethwa kakhulu, ebethwa ngamanqindi kwaye ejulwa eludongeni. Nangona oku, ngelishwa, kwenzeka kaninzi, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni kungaphezulu koko.
Naluphina uhlobo lokudibana okungafunekiyo ngokomzimba, xa ulunya kwaye lusenzelwa ukukwenza iintlungu nokuthotywa kungathathwa njengokuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni, ngakumbi xa iphindaphindwa kaninzi. Umzekelo, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izixhobo, ukubetha, ukubetha, ukukhaba, ukutyhala okanye ukutsala umntu ukuba aye kwindawo ethile okanye angashiyi nako kukwaphathwa gadalala. Ukuba umntu othile ubamba impahla yakho okanye ubambe ubuso bakho ukukunyanzela ukuba ujonge, ikwangukuziphatha gadalala oko. Okanye ukuphosa into kuwe, nokuba bayabetha okanye bayaphoswa, ikwayimo yesenzo sokuhlukumeza.
Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni kulula ukukufumanisa kunokuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo
Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni kulula kakhulu ukukufumanisa. Kwelinye icala, ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kuyindlela ecace gca yokuziphatha gwenxa kwaye (kwaye kuhlala kunjalo) kungakhathalelwa kwaye kugxothwe njengobudlelwane nje obunobushushu, umzekelo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo ngamanye amaxesha kungashiya ukonakala ngokunzulu emphefumlweni womntu kunokuba kunjalo ngokuxhatshazwa emzimbeni.
Ungaluqonda njani uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo?
Kwiimeko ezininzi, ixhoba kunye nomxhaphazi banokungayazi ngokupheleleyo into eyenzekayo kunxibelelwano lwabo, ngakumbi ukuba oko kwenzeka kubudlelwane bomzali nomntwana. Zininzi izinto ezingafaniyo ekunxibelelaneni nabantu kangangokuba kunokuba nzima ukwenza umgca phakathi kokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokuqhelekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha ukuba nomsindo, ukuphendula.
Nangona kunjalo, ngokungafaniyo nokuhlukumeza ngokweemvakalelo, okwenzeka ngesiqhelo, ukuxhatshazwa kubandakanya ipateni yokuthoba isidima rhoqo, ukuhlamba ingqondo, ukungcungcuthekisa, ukuthukisa, nokunye okufanayo. Ikwahlazisa, ukuphatha ngobuqhetseba, ukoyikisa, ukujongela phantsi ukuzithemba kwexhoba nokuzithemba kwalo. Umenzi wobubi uzama ukulawula, ukulawula nokuba negunya elipheleleyo kubudlelwane kunye nokungeniswa ngokupheleleyo kwexhoba.
Xa kukho kokubini, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo
Ixhoba lokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo linokufumana "kuphela" olu hlobo lokubandezeleka, njengoko ingengabo bonke abahlukumeza iimvakalelo nabo ababandakanyeka kuhlaselo lomzimba. Kwabaninzi abaxhaphazi, ukubeka amaxhoba phantsi kunye nokwenza bazive bengafaneleki kubazisela ukuqonda okwaneleyo kolawulo namandla. Nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kokukhetha, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni kuhambelana nezinye iindlela zokuxhatshazwa, ngakumbi ukuphathwa gadalala ngokweemvakalelo.
Izinto eziguqukayo kolo lwalamano zihlala zijikeleza kumjikelo wokuzola okufutshane, kulandelwe kukuqhubela phambili kokuhlukumeza ngokweemvakalelo, ukuthotywa, ukuthukwa, iziqalekiso kunye nemidlalo yengqondo. Eli xesha linokuhlala lifutshane nje ngeentsuku ezimbalwa okanye ixesha elide njengeenyanga. Kodwa kwiimeko zokuphathwa gadalala ngokudibeneyo, zihlala ziphela kwisiphelo sendlela yobundlobongela.
Ukuqhuma komzimba kwiidigri ezahlukeneyo kuba ngumzekelo oqhelekileyo
Ubundlobongela ekupheleni komjikelo kunqabile ukuba kunento yokwenza notshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha kwexhoba. Ngokwesiqhelo yimfuneko nje yolawulo nolawulo olukhulayo kwaye aloneliseki "kukuhlukunyezwa" rhoqo ngokweemvakalelo. Ukugqabhuka komzimba ngokwamanqanaba awahlukeneyo kuhlala kusisiphumo sokuphela kwengxoxo ebonakala imsulwa, kwiimeko ezinjalo.
Umenzi wobubi uzama ukubuyisela isimilo sakhe ngobubele kunye nezipho
Kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi, umenzi wobubi uhlala echitha iintsuku okanye iiveki ezimbalwa exolile, ngamanye amaxesha eme nkqo kwixhoba, ngokulalana naye (njengoko uninzi lwamaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni kungamabhinqa okanye abantwana) ngobubele nezipho. Okwangoku, eli xesha lokuzisola lihlala liqala ukuqhekeka kwaye umjikelo uqala kwakhona.
Into onokuyenza ngayo
Ukuba uyaluqonda ulwalamano lwakho kule migca, zininzi izinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe. Okokuqala, zombini ezi mpatho gadalala zinokushiya iziphumo ezisisigxina kwimpilo yakho ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni. Kodwa, ukuba uyaphathwa gadalala, ubomi bakho bunokuba semngciphekweni ngendlela ethe ngqo, kwaye unokufuna ukuthathela ingqalelo eyona ndlela ikhuselekileyo ukuphuma kolu tshintsho lubi.
Amaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala, kubalulekile ukuba bafune uncedo kwabo babathandayo, kwiingcali nakuluntu. Unokuzifumana ufuna ikhusi kunye nendawo ekhuselekileyo onokuba kuyo ngelixa isaqhwithi sidlula. Kwaye ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokusebenza kubudlelwane bakho kunye neqabane lakho likwaveza ukuthanda ukutshintsha, ukubona ugqirha wezengqondo ngokuzimeleyo kwaye njengesibini kuyinto elungileyo ukuyenza kweli nqanaba. Kuzo zonke iimeko, ukhuseleko lwakho kufuneka luze kuqala ngamaxesha onke.