Umxholo
- 1. Ngaba “u”
- 2. Gxila kwizenzo zakho; Hayi eyakhe
- 3. Zibophelele ekunyanisekeni komntu
- Cwangcisa kwangaphambili
- 5. Mayibe nobulali
Xa isibini sitsala nzima emtshatweni wabo, into yokugqibela abafuna ukugxila kuyo sisikhumbuzo somtshato wabo. Kwaye imibuzo iqala ukujikeleza ezingqondweni zabo:
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Ndifanele ndimfumanele isipho? Ikhadi?
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Izikhumbuzo zomtshato zinokubangela uloyiko kunye nokudideka xa umtshato usematyeni. Inokusenza sibuze yonke into esicinga ukuba siyiyo ebefanele ukuyenza okanye into esiyenzileyo kwiminyaka edlulileyo.
Nazi izicwangciso ezintlanu eziphambili zokusinda ukuze ugqibe usuku, lawula iimvakalelo zakho, uhlale unyanisekile kuwe, hlonipha iimfuno zakho kwaye mhlawumbi uzive wonwabile ngalo:
1. Ngaba “u”
Cwangcisa into onokuzondla ngayo ngomhla wesikhumbuzo sakho. Ayenzelwe wena njengesibini, kodwa yeyakho ngokwakho, ukuze ube kwindawo ezolileyo yeemvakalelo zayo yonke into ebanjwa lolo suku. Yiya kwi-spa ukuze uthambise umzimba ixesha elide. Zisongele ngekomityi yekofu, ingubo efudumeleyo kunye nencwadi emnandi. Yidla isidlo sasemini kunye nentombi oyintombazana ehlala ikuthanda kwaye ikuxhasa.
2. Gxila kwizenzo zakho; Hayi eyakhe
Ngamanye amaxesha xa kukho ukungqubana phakathi kwezibini zomtshato ngomhla wesikhumbuzo, bayoyika ukungakwenzi ngokwaneleyo ukuvuma usuku kodwa babe madolw 'anzima ukunikela kakhulu kwaye banokuthumela umyalezo ongalunganga. Kwimeko enjalo, yenza into elungileyo kuwe, ngaphandle kokuyijonga. Sukuba nexhala lokuba uyokuziguqula njani ezo zenzo okanye azive ngayo. Ukuphendula okanye ukutolika kwakhe ayisiyiyo ishishini lakho; injongo yakho kunye nokulandela oko uziva kulungile kuwe yishishini lakho.
3. Zibophelele ekunyanisekeni komntu
Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho malunga nendlela oziva ngayo kunye nento onokuthi uyenze ngokweemvakalelo kuwo nawuphi na umzuzu. Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho malunga nento oyifunayo kwaye ungoyiki ukuyichaza kwabanye, ukuze baxhotyiselwe ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho. Okokugqibela, nyaniseka malunga nento oyivezayo kwiqabane lakho; yabelana kuphela ngemvakalelo yothando evakalelwa inyanisekileyo kwaye iyinyani kuwe ukuze ungazingcatshi.
Cwangcisa kwangaphambili
Cinga ngawe ngentloko phantsi komqamelo wakho ukuze ekugqibeleni ulale ngobusuku besikhumbuzo sakho. Njengokuba usiya kulala, ngawaphi amagama amathathu achazayo achaza indlela ofuna ukuziva ngayo ngalo mzuzu: Umxholo? Ndinebhongo? Ndikhululekile? Ndiyathemba? Ngoxolo? Qalisa usuku ngokumisela injongo yokuba xa olu suku lwenziwe, uya kuziva indlela owawufuna ukuziva ngayo kwaye uya kube ubonakalisile njengowasetyhini owawufuna ukuba namhlanje.
5. Mayibe nobulali
Uyazi ukuba ulubeka njani lonke olu xinzelelo loNyaka oMtsha qho ngonyaka kwaye wenze izicwangciso ezinkulu kuphela ukuze uphoxeke? Nokuba kumnandi, akukaze kubonakale ngathi kuyaphila ukuya kwi-hype kunye noxinzelelo. Kuyafana nangesikhumbuzo sakho xa umtshato wakho usokola. Musa ukubeka uxinzelelo kuyo nangayiphi na indlela. Sukucinga ukuba iya kuba yinto emangalisayo okanye idecacle. Musa ukubeka ubunzima bokulungisa into eyaphukileyo yaphela ngosuku. Mayibe nobulali. Makhe ityhileke ngokwasemzimbeni. Masizive ngathi sikhulisa kwaye sizaliswe ngokukhululeka kangangoko kunokwenzeka
Ngenye imini ayizukuphilisa iinyanga okanye iminyaka yentlungu emtshatweni, ukwenza njalo kukuseta ukusilela kunye nokudana. Ingaba ngumhla, nangona kunjalo, apho uziphatha ngokwakho kunye nolwalamano ngobubele, imfesane, ukunyaniseka kunye nenjongo. Isenokuba lusuku olukushiya uziva unebhongo ngendlela oziphethe ngayo kunye nesiqu sakho. Isenokuba lusuku oluvula ngobunono ucango lokuba unyaka olandelayo womtshato wakho uzive wahluke kakhulu kunonyaka wokugqibela womtshato wakho.