Umxholo
- Iindlela zokujamelana
- Uloyiko kunye nezinyembezi
- Yehlisa umdlalo
- Ulwalamano olusenyongweni
- Ukuphilisa ngokwesondo
- Ilula kwaye inamandla
Ukuba iqabane lakho lixhoba lobuntwana okanye lokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, usenokuba ngokungazi uzisa ezinye zeziphumo zokuxhatshazwa kwakhe ebhedini yomtshato. Kungaba yinto edidayo kunye nexhalabisayo kuni nobabini, nizityhola ngokwenu okanye omnye komnye ngokungabikho konxibelelwano kunye nokusondelelana ongenakukuchaza. Nangona kunjalo, zikho iindlela onokuthi umxhase ngazo xa uziva ukhuselekile kwaye uthandwa ukuze avuleleke kumava anzulu kwaye atyebileyo obusondeleyo ngokwesondo.
Iindlela zokujamelana
Xa abantwana besoyikiswa nangaluphi na uhlobo lokuziphatha okungalunganga, nokuba isoyikiso siyinyani okanye akunjalo, bafunda ukuzikhusela. Banokuyiqinisa imizimba yabo, bafumane iindlela 'zokungabonakali,' okanye benze izinto ngendlela evukelayo. Rhoqo, ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zingena kwi-psyche kwaye ngokungazi ziqhutywa kubomi babantu abadala. Kuthatha ixesha, isibindi, kunye nomonde ukuze ukhululeke kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezikhuselayo, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba uzikhuphe ngempumelelo kwaye ukhululeke ukuba wonwabe ngobomi besondo.
Uloyiko kunye nezinyembezi
Nokuba uthanda kangakanani kwaye ufuna ubomi obuhle ngesondo kunye nawe, isidingo sokungazikhuseli sinokubangela uloyiko oluphazamisayo, iinyembezi kunye nemida xa usondela kuye ngesondo. Ukonwaba kwakho kwendoda kwendalo kunokuziva ngathi luxinzelelo ukuba ivale ukuphendula kwayo ngaphakathi. Isiphumo sinokuba kukutyhalela kude okanye athi ewe xa ethe hayi.
Yehlisa umdlalo
Indlela yokuqala onokumxhasa ngayo kukuthetha ngayo. Vula imigca yonxibelelwano kunye nokuqonda, umazise ukuba ufuna ukumxhasa kwaye ukulungele ukubakho nayo yonke into eyenzekayo. Ukuba iimvakalelo ziyavela ezingenangqondo, vele ube kunye naye kwaye umkhuthaze ukuba azive nantoni na ayivayo. Ngaphezulu kokunokwenzeka, ayibhekisi kuwe, ke sukuyithatha buqu. Kukho rhoqo utyekelo lokufuna ukwenza imvakalelo ithethe into, kodwa inokuthi ingahambelani kwaphela neemeko ezikhoyo. Akukho sidingo sokwabela ibali okanye umdlalo weqonga. Mmeme ukuba azive nje kunokuba agqibe iimvakalelo ezantsi, kwaye loo nto iya kuyinika ithuba lokukhulula kwaye icace.
Ulwalamano olusenyongweni
Indlela yesibini onokumxhasa ngayo kukudala amaxesha okusondela kunye nokuziphatha okungenazinjongo zesondo.Mnike ixesha lokuzifudumeza kwaye myeke alinde phantsi ngokuchukumisa, ukwanga, kunye nokuganga kungekho-ajenda. Cwangcisa la maxesha ngesivumelwano sokuthetha ukuba ayizizo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo, kodwa ngokwakha ulwalamano. Njengoko usakha ubudlelwane kunye, ukwadala ukhuseleko kunye nokuthembana, okuyiziseko zentsimbi yolwalamano olonwabileyo ngokwesondo.
Ukuphilisa ngokwesondo
Indlela yesithathu onokumxhasa ngayo kukummemela kwindawo yokuphilisa egxile kuye. Kule meko, uya kuba kwimeko yokwamkela, ethobekileyo. Uya kuhlala ujonge kuye imilenze yakhe ixhonywe ngaphezulu kweyakho, nokuba kukwitafile yokuthambisa, ebhedini, okanye kumgangatho ogcweleyo. Qiniseka ukuba uxhotyisiwe ngokwaneleyo ukuba angadibana nawe ngaphandle kobunzima. Mxelele ukuba eli xesha lelokuba afumane uthando lwakho kunye namandla okuphilisa. Yiba naye kwaye umjonge emehlweni.
Cela imvume yokubeka izandla zakho emzimbeni wakhe, kwaye ukuba uyavuma, beka isandla esinye ngobumnene kwiziko lentliziyo (phakathi kwamabele akhe) kunye nelinye phezu kwesisu sakhe esisezantsi uwaphumze apho kuzolile. Njengoko ekhululeka ekwamkeleni, buza ukuba ungasibeka na isandla phezu kwendawo yakhe ye-pelvic, kwaye ukuba uthi ewe, susa isandla esiswini sakhe uze usibeke ngobumnene kwindunduma yakhe. Umbono ayisiyokuvuselela indawo, kodwa kukuzisa ubukho kunye namandla okuphilisa.
Ngesinye isandla kwiziko lentliziyo kunye nesinye kwiziko lakhe lezesondo, phefumla kwaye umeme ukuba aphefumle. Hlala ubekhona nayo yonke into eyenzekayo, nokuba ingathi akukho nto yenzekayo. Ukuba iimvakalelo ziyavela, mmeme ukuba azive ngokupheleleyo kwaye zihambe. Mbuze ukuba angathanda na ukuba izandla zakho zibekhona naphi na emzimbeni wakhe kwaye zilandele ulwalathiso. Hlala nayo ide izive igqibile.
Ilula kwaye inamandla
Le mpiliso ilula, inamandla inokuzisa iimvakalelo kunye neenkumbulo ezinokuba kudala zangcwatywa. Ngelixa kunokubonakala ngathi akulunganga ukuvusa izinto ukusuka kwixesha elidlulileyo, kuluncedo kakhulu ekuhambeni kwexesha. Unokufuna inkxaso eyongezelelweyo yobuchwephesha ukumnceda ukuba ahlele nantoni na evelayo. Njengoko ivela, inokukhutshwa kwaye iphiliswe, kwaye uya kuba sele ehamba evulekile kwaye efumaneke kubudlelwane bezesondo obunothando, obonwabileyo, kunye noxhumano.