Umxholo
- Bafuna ukugqibelela
- Imincili yokubeka abanye phantsi
- Abonwabanga kwiimeko zentlalo
- Ukuthula sisixhobo
- Bayayichasa ingxelo elungileyo
- Kukulwimi lwabo lomzimba
- Ukubaxa
- Bazithelekisa nawo wonke umntu
Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunokuchaphazela ukuthanda ukufunda. Kwaye oko kungaziva njengokugcina ikhandlela livutha kwisaqhwithi. Ke ukufunda indlela yokubona indlela yokuziphatha yokungazithembi ebantwaneni kunokunceda ukugcina ukuthanda kwabo ukufunda kuphila.
Nazi izinto ezi-8 ezenziwa ngabantu abancinci xa benengxaki yokuzithemba
Bafuna ukugqibelela
Ukugqibelela yenye yezona zinto ziphambili ezonakalisayo zokuzithemba okuphantsi.
Abantwana abanokuzithemba kuya kubonisa kuphela izakhono kunye namandla abo xa beqinisekile ukuba baya kuphumelela. Uluvo lokusilela luhlala luhleli ebomini babo kuba nokuba zinempumelelo kangakanani na impumelelo yabo, abaziva banele ngokwaneleyo.
Kungenxa yesi sizathu le nto beyekelayo: bakhetha ukubonwa njengabantu abashiya umsebenzi kunokuba basilele. Konke kuza kwisidingo esigqithileyo sokuthandwa nokwamkelwa.
Imincili yokubeka abanye phantsi
Wakhe weva ngelizwi, 'Intlupheko iyayithanda inkampani?'
Kuyinyani oko ebantwaneni, kwaye nakubantu abadala abanengxaki yokuzithemba okuphantsi. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho uhlala ekuxelela ngeempazamo zabanye abantu, le isenokuba yindlela yabo yokwehlisa abanye kwinqanaba labo. Baya kudanisa abanye abantu kwaye benze amagqabantshintshi ngabantu ababangqongileyo.
Ngokomlobi uJeffrey Sherman, umntu ongazithandiyo kakhulu ngekhe angazixabisi iimpawu ezizodwa zabanye abantu. Bavame ukubeka abanye abantu phantsi rhoqo kunokubaphakamisa.
Banokubakho into emuncu ukuba bayithethe kwincoko nganye.
Abonwabanga kwiimeko zentlalo
Izakhono zentlalo ezihlwempuzekileyo luphawu oluxeliweyo lokuzithemba okuphantsi.
Ukuba umntwana wakho akazicacisi, kunzima ukuba bakholelwe ukuba omnye umntu uyazixabisa. Ngenxa yoko bayazinxwema kwabanye abantu ukuze bazikhusele kwizisongelo. Ngelishwa, oku kuzikhetha kunesiphumo esichaseneyo: kokukhona umntu ezahlula, kokukhona besiba lilolo kwaye bengafunwa.
Ngaba umntwana wakho uzifihla ekoneni ethekweni kwaye achithe lonke ixesha emnxebeni wakhe okanye azifihle egumbini lakhe xa uneendwendwe? Oku kuziphatha ngokungathandabuzekiyo yenye yeempawu eziqinisekileyo zokufumana ukuzithemba okuphantsi.
Ukuthula sisixhobo
Kwiimeko apho umntu ozithemba eliphantsi kufuneka azidibanise nabanye abantu, baya kuthi cwaka, bamamele kwaye bavumelane nayo yonke into ethethwa ngabanye abantu.
Baya kuba neembono zabo, kodwa ezi zihlala ezingqondweni zabo. Banokucinga izimvo nezimvo zabo kaninzi-ninzi, kodwa abazukuba nesibindi sokuthetha kuba besoyika ukwenza impazamo.
Emva kwexesha, xa bephinda beyincokola incoko, baya kuzibetha ngenxa yokungavakalisi izimvo zabo, abaya kothuka bakufumanisa, bebengaphezulu.
Bayayichasa ingxelo elungileyo
Ukuba nexabiso eliphantsi kwenza ukuba umntu angamkeli ingxelo entle enokubanceda baphucule ukuzixabisa kwabo. Umntwana wakho uya kuziva engafanelekanga ukuba axatyiswe kwaye ade axinzelelwe kulindeleke ukuba bakholelwe ukuba indumiso yakho izakuzisa.
Ngapha koko, ukuqinisekiswa okuqinisekileyo akusebenzi kubantu abasokoliswa kukuzithemba okuphantsi.
Bacebisa ukuba kungokwemvelo ukuba umntu alugatye uluvo okanye ingxelo abavakalelwa kukuba ikude kakhulu ngaphandle kwenkolelo yabo ngeziqu zabo. Okukhona umntu eziva engafaneleki kwaye engenamandla, ukuqinisekiswa okuhle kuya kubakhumbuza indlela abaziva ngayo ngokuchaseneyo.
Kukulwimi lwabo lomzimba
Olunye lweempawu ezibonakalayo zokuzithemba okuphantsi lulwimi lomzimba.
Ngamanye amaxesha, unokujonga nje umntwana kwaye wazi ukuba into ethile icinyiwe. Ukuba umntwana wakho uhamba entloko ejonge ezantsi kwaye isilevu sincamathele phezu kwesifuba, oku kuyimbonakalo yenyama neentloni.
Amagxa atyibiliziweyo, akukho ukudibana kwamehlo, izijekulo zesandla sovalo: ezi ziimpawu zomntwana ongazithembanga.
Uya kuqaphela ukuba umntwana uqhubeka nokulala, ezama ukuthatha indawo encinci nasesidlangalaleni. Bafuna 'ukunyamalala' kuba abafuni ukuba abantu babone iimpazamo zabo.
Ukubaxa
Kwelinye icala, umntwana onesidima unokufuna ukuhoywa.
Enye indlela abafuna ukujonga ngayo kukusebenzisa izijekulo ezothusayo nezingaphumi kumxholo kuba banqwenela ukuba abantu baziqaphele. Banokuthethela phezulu kakhulu ukuhlawula iimvakalelo zokungabaluleki.
Ngelishwa, oku akusebenzi kangangexesha elide, kwaye bashiyeka beziva bebi kakhulu kunangaphambili.
Bazithelekisa nawo wonke umntu
Abantwana abanokuzithemba okuphantsi banomkhwa wokuzithelekisa nabanye: abantakwabo, abo bafunda nabo, kunye nabantu abangabaziyo abangaqhelekanga. Ngelixa kungekho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuzithelekisa nabanye, uthelekiso olugqithisileyo lutyumza i-ego esele ibuthathaka.
Banenkolelo yokuba abanye abantu banayo yonke kunye kwaye babuphatha rhoqo ubomi njengokhuphiswano.
Baye basekela ukubaluleka kwabo koko abanye abantu abalungileyo kuko. Bachitha ixesha elininzi bejonga abanye abantu: inkangeleko yabo, ubuntu babo, kunye nempumelelo yabo abazijongi iimpawu zabo ezizodwa.
Okukhona bezithelekisa nabanye abantu, kokukhona baya kungabi namandla.
Ukukwazi ukuchonga ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zili-8 kuya kukunika ixesha lokujongana nabantu abazithobayo ebomini bakho.