“Yeka Ukuthetha Nam Kanje!”

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Bendisebenza nezibini kwizakhono zonxibelelwano iminyaka emininzi. Ukunceda abantu bathethe kunye ngempumelelo ngakumbi kwaye bazive beqondakala ngakumbi kungahamba indlela ende ekuphuculeni ubudlelwane. Kukho ithiyori enye esele ikho ukusukela ngeye-1950s apho uninzi lwezibini ezibonakala ngathi zinxulumene kwangoko. Ibizwa ngokuba “luhlahlelo lwentengiselwano.” Iya into enje ...

Umlingane # 1 - "Awusoze undincede ndicoce apha! Iyandikhathaza le nto.! ”

Umlingane # 2 - "Andinakukuthatha rhoqo ukukhathazeka kwakho!" ... uyahamba, ubetha ucango.
Kuqhubeka ntoni apha? Ewe, ngokutsho koHlahlelo lweTransekshini, sonke sineendawo ezintathu esivela ngaphakathi kuthi xa sithetha nomnye umntu. Ziindawo ZABAZALI, indawo YOMNTWANA nendawo yabantu ABADALA ... kwaye sonke singena siphuma kwezi ngqondo imini yonke.
Sivela kwindawo yethu YOMZALI xa sisiva amazwi ephuma emilonyeni yethu ngathi “Kufuneka u…” “Awusoze ...” “Uhlala u ...” “Ufanele ...” Le ngqondo iseti ivela kwizinto esaziva abazali bethu besitsho kuthi, imithetho, imithetho yoluntu, njl.
Xa sisebancinci, sasiphendula ekuthetheni ngolu hlobo. Njengabantu abadala, xa sikroba, sikhwaza, sivukela, okanye sivale siza kuphuma kwindawo yethu YOMNTWANA. Thatha umzuzwana ucinge ngendlela osabele ngayo kuxinzelelo njengomntwana. Qaphela ukuba kukho ukufana kwindlela osabela ngayo kwiqabane lakho xa umdala?
Uyabona, kwenzeka into ehlekisayo xa sithetha nomnye umntu. Banazo ezi ndawo zintathu ngaphakathi apho bevela kwincoko, kwaye unxibelelwano luyaqikelela. Xa umntu engaqondanga engena kwilizwi labo LOMZALI ithanda ukwenza ukuba omnye umntu enze ngenjongo engacacanga evela kwindawo yabo YOMNTWANA. Jonga umzekelo wethu apha ngasentla.

Umlingane # 1 ngokucacileyo uvela kwilizwi labo LOMZALI. “Awunakuze undincede ndicoce apha!” Xa besenza loo Mlingane # 2 usabela kwindawo yabo YOMNTWANA. “Andinakukuthatha rhoqo ukundingxolisa kwakho!” ... uyahamba, umbakraza ucango.

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Sakuba singaphezulu kweminyaka eli-18 ngoku sesibadala. Ngombulelo, sinendawo yabantu ABADALA ngaphakathi kuthi. Ilizwi lethu labantu ABADALA lelona siqhele ukulisebenzisa emsebenzini okanye xa sithetha nengcali yohlobo oluthile. Ilizwi lethu labantu ABADALA lizolile, liyakhulisa, liyasixhasa kwaye lithetha ngokweemfuno.

Okona kubheja kwethu, xa sithetha namaqabane ethu malunga nento esihluphayo, kukuthetha NGOMNTU WOMNTU WABADALA. Siyaxoxisana ukusuka kwindawo yeemfuno kwaye sizama ukufumana isisombululo esisebenzela abantu bobabini. Masibuyele kumzekelo wethu kwaye sibone enye indlela enokwenzeka ukuba aba babini banokuthetha ngayo malunga nendlu emdaka UMNTU OMNTU WABADALA.

Iqabane # 1 – “Sthandwa sam, ndiziva ndonganyelwe xa ndingena endlini emva komsebenzi kwaye kukho iithoyi kuwo wonke umgangatho. Kananjalo izitya ezivela kusasa azenzwanga. Iyandikhathaza ngokwenene! Ngaba ungavuma ukuzama ukuba abantwana bathathe iithoyi zabo kunye nokuhlamba izitya kwasekuseni ngaphambi kokuba ndifike ekhaya ngokuhlwa? ”
Iqabane # 2 – “Ndiyaxolisa uziva ukhathazekile. Ngamanye amaxesha ndiyazoyisa ngayo yonke into eqhubeka apha ukuze ndiqonde. Ndingakulungela ukuzama ukuba abantwana bathathe iithoyi zabo, kodwa inokuba ngumsebenzi oqhubekayo. Mhlawumbi ungandincedisa ekulungiseni izitya zesidlo sakusasa, ngokwenza ezakho kusasa kwaye emva koko ndiyakusebenzela ezinye xa sele uhambe? ”

Ukuthetha omnye komnye ngolu hlobo kunokuba nzima ekuqaleni, kodwa kuya kuba lula ngokuziqhelanisa kunye neziphumo ezonelisayo. Into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba ufuna ukusombulula ingxaki. Ukusebenza njengeqela kuya kuhlala kuyindlela esempilweni yokujongana neengxaki kunokusabela nje kwiimvakalelo zomzuzu. Obu buchule bunokuthatha isenzo. Ingcali yezonyango inokukunceda ukuphucula izakhono zakho zonxibelelwano ukuze ubuyele kwelona candelo lilungileyo lobudlelwane bakho - nithandane!