Umxholo
- Kuyintoni ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni?
- Amanyathelo ama-7 okufaka ifayile yokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni
- Yazi iimfuno zakho zobume bokuhlala
- Amaphepha okwahlula iifayile:
- Khonza iqabane lakho namaphepha okwahlukana ngokusemthethweni
- Iqabane lakho liphendula
- Ukuhlaliswa kwemicimbi
- Uthethathethwano
- Ijaji isayina isigwebo sokwahlukana
- Yise kude
Zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni ungakhetha ukufaka ifayile yokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni kunokuba uqhawule umtshato. Umzekelo:
- Omnye okanye nobabini ninokuba nethemba lokuxolelaniswa kungekudala;
- Omnye kuni unokuxhomekeka komnye kwi-inshurensi yezempilo;
- Elinye iqabane linokuthanda ukuhlala litshatile ukuze lilungele ukhuseleko lwezeNtlalontle okanye izibonelelo zomkhosi kwelinye iakhawunti; okanye
- Ngenxa yezizathu zonqulo.
Nangona kunjalo, ngaphambi kokuba ufake ifayile yokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni, umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba yintoni ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni.
Xa kuziwa kwisibini esitshatileyo esenza isigqibo sokufaka ifayile yokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni, kubalulekile ukwahlula ukwahlukana komtshato nokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni.
Kuyintoni ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni?
Ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni lilungiselelo elingawuphelisi umtshato kodwa livumela amaqabane ukuba ahlale ngokwahlukeneyo nezivumelwano ezibhaliweyo ezisemthethweni kubantwana, imali, izilwanyana zasekhaya, njl.
Nokuba kutheni ufuna ukufaka ifayile yokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni, uninzi lwamazwe luya kufuna ukuba wenze okungaphezulu kokuhlala ngokwahlukana. Ukwahlulwa ngokusemthethweni kumazwe amaninzi, kuya kufuneka uhambe ngenkqubo efana kakhulu noqhawulo mtshato kwaye ebandakanya imicimbi efanayo, eyile:
- Ukugcinwa komntwana kunye nokutyelelwa
- UAlimony kunye nenkxaso yomntwana
- Ukwahlulwa kwepropati yomtshato kunye namatyala
Amanyathelo ama-7 okufaka ifayile yokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni
Akukho mthetho uthi isibini esitshatileyo sihlale kunye.
Ke, ukuba bakhetha ukufaka ifayile yokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni, akukho zithintelo kwinkqubo yokwahlukana ngokusemthethweni. Oko kwathethi, basatshatile ngokusemthethweni kwaye kufuneka baqwalasele ukuba bazoyilungisa njani imicimbi enje ngepropathi, amatyala, ukugcinwa kwabantwana kunye nokutyelelwa, inkxaso yabantwana, inkxaso yomlingane kunye namatyala.
Oku kulandelayo ngamanyathelo asi-7 okufaka ifayile yokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni:
Kuya kufuneka uyazi ngemithetho yakho yoqhawulo mtshato ukuze wazi malunga neemeko zokuhlala zikarhulumente. Umzekelo, kwamanye amazwe, ubuncinci elinye lamaqabane kufuneka lihlale kurhulumente ngokugcwalisa ukwahlukana.
Yiyo loo nto imigaqo yahlukile kumazwe ahlukeneyo.
Uqala ukufaka ifayile yokwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni kunye nenkundla yosapho lwakho ucela ukwahlukana kwaye uphakamise imigaqo. Isicelo sakho kufuneka sijongane nokugcinwa komntwana, ukutyelelwa, isondlo, inkxaso yomntwana, kunye nokwahlulwa kwepropathi yomtshato kunye namatyala ngexesha lesivumelwano sokwahlukana.
Ngaphandle kokuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nifayile ngokwahlukana ngokudibeneyo, baya kudinga ukunikwa amaxwebhu asemthethweni okwahlulahlula okanye amaphepha okwahlulahlula ukuze nihlukane ngokusemthethweni.
Nje ukuba unikezwe, iqabane lakho livunyelwe ixesha elithile ukuphendula kwaye yazise wena kunye nenkundla ukuba bayavuma okanye abavumelani nesindululo sakho.
Ukuba iqabane lakho liphendula ngokuqinisekileyo, ungaya kwinqanaba elilandelayo. Nangona kunjalo, iqabane lakho linokufaka ifayile yesikhalazo ukuba banemicimbi ethile ngokusayina iifom zokwahlukana ngokusemthethweni.
Kulapho ukulamla okanye umthetho wentsebenziswano uza kungena endaweni.
Nje ukuba iqabane lakho liphendule kwisindululo sakho kwaye nobabini niyavumelana ngokwemigaqo yokwahlukana kwenu, isivumelwano sokwahlukana komtshato kufuneka sibhalwe phantsi, sisayinwe nobabini, kwaye sifayilishwe enkundleni.
Ukuba iqabane lakho alivumelani nemigaqo yesindululo sakho, ungazama ukufikelela kwisivumelwano kuyo nayiphi na imiba echaseneyo yenyani ngokuthetha-thethana okanye ngokulamla. Ukuba awukwazi ukufikelela kwisivumelwano, ityala lakho kufuneka liye enkundleni ukuze lixoxwe yijaji.
Nje ukuba nifikelele kwisivumelwano malunga nayo nayiphi na imiba echaseneyo yenyani, okanye ijaji igqibe ngayo, ijaji iyakusayina isivumelwano sokwahlukana, kwaye niza kwahlulwa ngokusemthethweni. Nangona kunjalo, uya kube utshatile kwaye ke ngekhe uphinde uphinde utshate.
Yise kude
Kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba konke ukwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni kwahlukile, kodwa ukuba olu lwazi lungentla sisishwankathelo ngokubanzi senkqubo yokufaka ukwahlula ngokwasemthethweni.
Nxibelelana negqwetha elinamava losapho.
Olu lwazi luchazwe apha ngasentla luluhlu olubanzi lwamanyathelo afunekayo kwifayile yokwahlula ngokwasemthethweni kwilizwe liphela. Nangona kunjalo, imithetho elawula umtshato, uqhawulo-mtshato nokwahlukana iyahluka ngokwamazwe.
Ke ngoko, kunyanzelekile ukuba udibane negqwetha elinamava kwezomthetho kwimeko ohlala kuyo ukuqinisekisa ukuba uthatha amanyathelo afanelekileyo okwahlukana ngokwasemthethweni kwilizwe lakho.
Kwividiyo engezantsi, u-Myles Munroe uxoxa ngendlela yokufumana kwakhona uqhawulo-mtshato okanye ukwahlukana. Wabelana nabanye ukuba kubalulekile ukufumana iimvakalelo zikabani, umbono wakhe kunye neemvakalelo zakhe.
Kungokwemvelo ukudlula kumava amangalisayo okwala kunye nentlungu kodwa umntu kufuneka afunde ukuzoyisa.